Karmic relationships - thoughts?

[MyJoi]

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[danas]

To tell you the truth, I don’t see this as necercarily a special karmic connection.
I see it as more a kind of unconscious thought/wish you sent out to the universe and it came true. Maybe you are unhappy in your relationship so you wished this other man would appear and he did, you created it.
I personally have done this many times, where I thought of someone, or wished for something and it came true, this doesn’t make him your karmic soulmate though.
I think you should first try and reach these "higher places" with yourself, and then your current husband will join you maybe.
Have you really tried to make your current relationship spiritual? (and maybe you need to define "spiritual")
Are you behaving in the highest way you expect your husband to behave?

I believe if you are with your husband now, that is where the work is, and not in a fantasy relationship. looking elsewhere when times are tough is too easy and usually doesnt get one to higher places.
good luck
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[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by MyJoi

I have a huge story to tell. I am hoping to reach others that have had similar experiences to help me understand the meaning of a particular relationship that appears at significant times in my life.

It started 10 years ago, right as I was on the brink of opening my personal door to higher consciousness. I was with a guy that I was totally in love with. However, I lived with two negative people who were also abusive and I allowed myself to be convinced that he was "too nice" and "not strong enough" for me. I did not realize that this may have been the exact relationship I wanted.

I dumped him, literally. He was devastated. He was a highly conscious being and I did not realize it then. I also had work to do; I had wounds to heal so I had to experience more abusive relationships to evolve into Who I am Today.

interestingly enough, after my first failed marriage, I indirectly came across a letter he wrote me after I left him. I wrote him a letter, apologizing and explaining that I did not yet know who I was and was unable to accept his gift in my life at that time.

Then, at a time when I was at a peak of my spiritual enlightenment, after the celebration of a full moon eclipse, he called me. We spent time together again, and I could tell he was testing the waters. I am intensely spiritual and maybe overwhelmed him with my explanations of our connection. He decided to leave me because of his fear. This last occurance was in 2003.

Last night, after having some intense spiritual awakenings thanks to Steve Pavlina's articles, I got a text message from this person last night. I was shocked, to say the least, but was also aware that here I was at a pivotal point in my evolution/growth, and this person reappeared.

Interestingly enough, I am married again with a child and not experiencing a wonderful connection with my mate.

I went back to my journal from our last encounter and discovered....it happened the SAME EXACT DAY 4 years earlier.

It was a beautiful side note from the Universe that something HUGE is occuring in my life.

I am very curious about the karma that I have with this person. I want to embrace him, fill him with the love I have for him, but I wonder if scaring him away is part of our karma....

I felt such a high vibration with this incident!

I would love INSIGHT on the meaning of this relationship in my life. Between my non-spiritual marriage with my husband, and my desire to reach higher places, I am so interested in this!!!

With love, I ask for answers.

All my best

I would think everyone you run into and relate to, you have karmic ties with. Maybe in a past life you did this set up before - family with one guy and another guy that looks more appealing. So then you are repeating a pattern that is karmic because the other guy, in a past life, and you maybe hooked up and now you are being given the same chance to be tempted. It sounds like a tough spot to be in, weather karmic or not. It sounds like you realy want the other guy now. You are excited about hearing insight about this other guy and not really excited about the real family you do have going. If you are sure the husband isn't working for you then that needs to change for you regardless of the other guy distracting you. And that change could be either split up or stick it out and see better times hopefully.

[Rose of Cairo]

I don't know much about karma, so I cannot help you on this point. But what danas said sounds very reasonable to me. If you're a spiritual person, why do you have a relationship with someone you don't feel a strong connection to? And why do you stay with someone who's negative and makes fun of you? That's not respectful towards yourself and certainly not beneficial to live on a high consciousness level. I'm saying that because I was in the same situation and broke up with him yesterday exactly for that reason.

Like danas said, you might address this issue first, before of thinking of this other man and your karma.

I don't see any damage you did and have to heal either. I'm very sorry, I'm going to sound very harsh now, but his reaction to you leaving him is none of your business, it's his problem. You'd rather look at the damage you're doing now: living in a disrespectful relationship is not beneficial for a child's development. Doesn't sound very enlightened to me.

I don't mean to offend you, that's just the best advice I can give you. Good luck to you!

[Rose of Cairo]

Oh ♥♥♥♥♥. why can't I shut up sometimes. I'm very sorry for this