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11-06-2007, 09:16 PM
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  |  on nearly being aborted
It's funny, recently I found myself wondering if my parents might have done better had they only had one child, even if it wasn't me. The first child, the only one they planned, died before it was two days old due to a malformed heart. The second one has major behavioral issues which took most of my parent's energy. And I'm the third. Then this weekend my dad told me that he and my mom almost aborted me as they weren't sure they could afford more than one child, but ultimately decided to keep me. As my dad said, since having his stroke he's open to sharing a lot of things he'd have never mentioned before. I'd thought he'd always been strongly anti-abortion (personally, not feeling a need to regulate others though). Maybe the experience of seeing me grow up is what made him feel that way. All my life he's told me that amidst all the arguing that went on in our house, it was my calmness that kept him grounded and enabled him to keep going. Though I told my dad that I wouldn't have blamed him for having the abortion, the thought that I might have never experienced this life is rather interesting to me, I'm still processing it. I'd known that I'd been narrowly escaping death for years, but I didn't realize I was doing it within the womb too  |
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11-06-2007, 09:53 PM
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My mother had an abortion before having me. I don't know why my parents decided to keep me. It caused a rift in the relationship, and since my birth, they have not slept in the same room since my birth. They nearly divorced when I was born and things have been rocky ever since. I have quit blaming myself. I didn't ask for the hostility and the hate my life would bring to my parents. That's THEIR pain. They can own it and have it all for themselves. I am happy and have a lot of love in my life, and I don't let their problems become mine. |
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