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10-20-2007, 12:34 AM
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 |  OMG! She's so perfect... wish me luck!
This lady I met at the dance a couple of weeks ago... she's just... WOW! I really think I have struck gold this time. No, gold, silver and platinum all at once! Nothing romantic has happened yet, but on the two evenings we've spent together so far, we did make some beautiful music (she is a professional harp player) and we talked and talked and talked and talked - well into the night. Let's just say we have some common ground!  Only reason I didn't make a move yet is that I was (and still am) a little overwhelmed. Well, that, and I have a difficult time letting go of my fear of rejection. Been at this point so many times before, feeling less infatuated over lesser women... hard to believe she'll be the one who'll say yes instead of no. Still, she did ask me if I'd come to the next dance, which is tomorrow. I wasn't planning on going, because I had prior engagement with a friend. But now I guess I just have to go - the friend can wait and I know he'll understand. I'll also just have to muster up the courage to say or do something really sweet at the dance tomorrow. Can't let this one slip by me... Wish me luck!  |
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10-20-2007, 02:42 AM
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Enjoy yourself, Jim! And the perfect woman WILL be the one who says yes, because she'll see you for what you really are. Lesser women just don't get it. (Why do you think all the women here have crushes on you?)
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10-20-2007, 12:25 PM
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But I have no fear of that happening. Just be your genuine, sweet, beautiful self and she will no doubt be completely smitten, if she's not already! Have fun! | |
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10-20-2007, 04:23 PM
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That is so wonderful! Isn't it fun to be smitten? And with a harp-playing angel, no less! She is so lucky to have someone like you smitten with her. (A musician who is willing to dance?!? I've never encountered such a beast.  )
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10-21-2007, 12:34 AM
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The dance was wonderful! Although I did miss out on a few opportunities because I was too popular with the rest of the ladies ( ), my pretty little princess and I danced a lot tonight and we danced closer and closer as the evening progressed. It felt really good to hold her so close and just swirl round and round like we were one.I did not kiss her yet, though. There were a couple of if-you're-gonna-do-it-do-it-now moments, but I felt too exposed and I think that she wouldn't be all to comfortable with that too. Our first kiss will just have to wait for a more private occasion. I wish I was a little more certain that I am doing it all right. I think I am, but there is just so much doubts in my head. I really want to let go of those. Everything so far has been wonderful. Anything more is a precious gift. Last edited by JimOfferman; 10-21-2007 at 08:26 AM. |
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10-21-2007, 08:36 AM
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I do feel great, though. At least an inch taller than yesterday! | |
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10-21-2007, 03:11 PM
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Jim, just kiss her. Go outside your comfort zone. The greatest kiss of my life was after Slamhot went on and on about how public affection makes him uncomfortable, and then two days later he kisses me in the middle of downtown Sacramento. My knees buckled. My knees NEVER buckle. When you surprise a woman with affection when you've been otherwise very reserved, it's almost always charming.
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10-21-2007, 04:44 PM
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 And there is never any mistletoe around when you need really it, so all those movie kissing scenes were no help whatsoever - thanks for nothing, Hollywood! Thanks for sharing your knee buckling story! It shall now be my mission to make my princess' knees buckle with a kiss.  | |
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10-21-2007, 04:53 PM
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Danger Man and I had a great first kiss. On our first date, a mutual friend had a camera and told us, "let's take a picture of how much you like each other!" and we giggled and gave each other a sweet kiss. Now we have a photograph of us giggling and kissing at the same time. It's priceless. | |
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10-21-2007, 05:27 PM
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I don't want to wait, au contraire. But the notion that you somehow have to be pronounced BF and GF before sharing that first kiss is deeply ingrained in me. Weird thing is that I don't even know who or where I got it from, just that it has been hammered into me that you don't kiss without getting permission first. Now, reading back the last few posts, it is starting to dawn on me that I may be the only one here who thinks that we aren't BF and GF already. Maybe we are and I just don't know it yet. Would be kind of ironic, no? The guy who is supposed to know first realizing it last... if I were a tv show, the audience would probably be rolling on the floor now  I'm going to invite her to come have dinner here later this week. She made some really nice dinners on my two visits to her place, so it's only fair that I make her suffer with some of my cooking this time around. If she doesn't run away after all that, things must be good between us! Quote:
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10-21-2007, 05:28 PM
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10-21-2007, 06:44 PM
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Ah!You just have to act on genuine feeling. That's when it's perfect. Quote:
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10-21-2007, 08:56 PM
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Acting on genuine feelings shouldn't be to hard... there isn't a feeling in my that is not genuine. | |
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10-22-2007, 01:49 PM
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I was making dinner for the kids last night thinking about how Jim's date went! So glad to hear it went well. Isn't it cool Jim to know that people all around the world were sending out feelings of well wishing to you?
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10-22-2007, 02:46 PM
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I feel like I'm at the center of a lot of love and warmth right now. It's just awesome! | |
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10-23-2007, 05:21 PM
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So, I had a bit of a sleepless night yesterday, fretting over why she hadn't replied to my latest e-mail (sent on Sunday). Then when she didn't reply immediately to my text from this morning - and I am ashamed to say this - I was starting to approach a nervous breakdown by the afternoon. While it might have interested science how many doom scenarios I could come up with in my mind, it was really not helpful to my cause at all. Fortunately, I kept my cool long enough to call a friend who kindly let me ramble on and on, ignoring every word I said. Nice! Turns out that the friggin' internet kindly neglected to deliver the e-mail I had send to my lady's inbox. Ugh! Made me feel like the stupidest guy on the planet for making such a fuss over nothing... Anyway, she's coming to dinner on Monday. Yay! I'll surely have her now... no way that she who is addicted to chocolate can ever resist my Creamy Hot Choco. Plus, there is a feature to my house that might prove advantageous. Her living room has a bunch of different couches and chairs, which makes it altogether to easy to sit at opposite ends of the table... not so in my living room. There is just the one couch, hardly big enough to fit two people on. That's the first time, I think, that I'll be glad I never came around to buying those extra chairs! |
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