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Unik 10-19-2007 02:14 PM

Intelligent girls
 
How to make relationship with an intelligent girl ?

Any special techniques other than the normal methods of PUA.

justkira 10-19-2007 02:19 PM

How to make relationship with an intelligent girl ?

Be more intelligent than she is, don't get manipulated by her.

- speaking from experience.

i think diamants would work too...

{aspiring_to_clarity} 10-19-2007 02:36 PM

I think an intelligent girl would prefer not to be fed some PUA lines, but that may just be a bias I have against the whole idea.

Be intelligent, honest and compassionate. Use your wit. If you are living in such a way that you take responsibility for your life and live it joyfully, you will attract people to you like nothing else.

BTW, I don't like diamonds unless they are certified conflict free and even then there are so many things I would prefer a man give me...like integrity.

JimOfferman 10-19-2007 02:40 PM

Same as with all the rest of the girls: just be interested in her as a person, not in her intelligence.

(and don't be a PUA...)

tefaroko 10-19-2007 08:36 PM

Be a nerd, but a cool nerd.

I've also found that more intelligent girls tend to value humor.

I'm juss sayin'.

Holistic Star 10-19-2007 08:53 PM

Be genuinely intelligent yourself: read, learn, seek out new experiences, be enthusiastic about life.

Don't just do that for the woman though - do it for yourself anyway!

NotesMaeve 10-19-2007 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} (Post 122078)
I think an intelligent girl would prefer not to be fed some PUA lines, but that may just be a bias I have against the whole idea.

Be intelligent, honest and compassionate. Use your wit. If you are living in such a way that you take responsibility for your life and live it joyfully, you will attract people to you like nothing else.

BTW, I don't like diamonds unless they are certified conflict free and even then there are so many things I would prefer a man give me...like integrity.

I owe you one high five.

Mayo 10-19-2007 10:01 PM

Well i don't know what you mean by "intelligent", could be that she has Ph.D but be still dumb as wood in "life matters"..

Hmm... how to make relationship with really INTELLIGENT woman? Well first you must be intelligent, if you are dumb and she fancies you that is ok but after a while you could become just a play toy.. Now if you are intelligent, compassionate, true & witty person i see no reason to "win" her..

The most important thing is that you are true to yourself and her and that you treat her with respect.

{aspiring_to_clarity} 10-19-2007 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by NotesMaeve (Post 122199)
I owe you one high five.

Pay up, lady! :D

Amandaaa 10-20-2007 12:01 AM

keep her on the edge of her seat.
make her smile.
be yourself.

it shouldn't be any different than starting a relationship with any other girl... (except that she might need more mental stimulation).

you need to be at least at her level- or she'll get bored with you.

Jim11 10-20-2007 12:03 AM

Compliment her breasts.

NotesMaeve 10-20-2007 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Jim11 (Post 122222)
Compliment her breasts.

You stumble across a really awesome point in your humor.

One reason I <3 Slamhot Boy so much is because not only does he tell me how brilliant I am, but also how hot I am and what a great ass I have. When someone who is an absolute genius says things like, "You really should be in academia," and, "You're one of the smartest people I have ever met," it's really a turn on when he says things about my body I can't say in mixed company.

bamfblog 10-20-2007 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Unik (Post 122066)
How to make relationship with an intelligent girl ?

Any special techniques other than the normal methods of PUA.

If you're going to use PUA techniques, then make sure you tailor them to the person. Oh, and if you're trying to make a relationship that's going to last more than a couple months, you might want to use the PUA techniques sparingly, and make sure that you are congruent and present yourself that way.

Jennihul 10-20-2007 05:14 PM

I would say, as an intelligent girl, if you have to ask that question, you just don't have the skills.

Jennifer

Angela 10-20-2007 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Jennihul (Post 122380)
I would say, as an intelligent girl, if you have to ask that question, you just don't have the skills.

Jennifer

That is very funny! :D Reminds me of that old saying, "If you have to ask the price, you can't afford it."

If you want to be in a relationship with an intelligent girl, look for the intelligence in all girls. Be committed to finding intelligence of some kind in every girl you talk to. Be a guy who shines light on intelligence, even when you think it's hard to find. That would be an intelligent thing to do.

If you are able to see the intelligence that is in every girl, you'll have a very big pool of girls to select from who meet that one limited criteria! And then you'll be free to look at other qualities and conditions that would determine right woman for you: chemistry, warmth, values in common, timing.

You can still have a very high standard for yourself about having an intelligent partner, but you won't be locked into the straightjacket of looking at intelligence as your first indicator of who would be the perfect girl for you. You could easily make a mistake doing that, you know; you might meet a brilliant Rhodes Scholar on a day she is woozy because she just got over the flu, or you might think a woman is perfect for you because she can explain Shakespeare's tragedies and has a degree in physics (but she's a republican :eek: )!

Tasaio 10-20-2007 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Jennihul (Post 122380)
I would say, as an intelligent girl, if you have to ask that question, you just don't have the skills.

Jennifer

Then you would be wrong, girl-who-claims-to-be-intelligent. There's nothing wrong with asking for advice.

I bet you've asked for advice on how to date intelligent guys. ;)

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That is very funny! Reminds me of that old saying, "If you have to ask the price, you can't afford it."
There have been lots of times I've been in a store, asked the price, and been able to pay. Stuid expression, IMO. ;) (No offense to you personally, Angela.)

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If you want to be in a relationship with an intelligent girl, look for the intelligence in all girls. Be committed to finding intelligence of some kind in every girl you talk to. Be a guy who shines light on intelligence, even when you think it's hard to find. That would be an intelligent thing to do
.

But not every girl is intelligent. It's a bigger percentage than most American men think...but it's a smaller percentage than most feminists think.

When I say 'intelligence', I'm talking about a having an IQ that's above average in some way.

Most girls are average--like most men.
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You can still have a very high standard for yourself about having an intelligent partner, but you won't be locked into the straightjacket of looking at intelligence as your first indicator of who would be the perfect girl for you. You could easily make a mistake doing that, you know; you might meet a brilliant Rhodes Scholar on a day she is woozy because she just got over the flu, or you might think a woman is perfect for you because she can explain Shakespeare's tragedies and has a degree in physics (but she's a republican )!
lol, I couldn't agree more. :D I've fallen into this trap with 'intelligent' university girls, myself.

One of the girls I fell for turned out to be Catholic! :eek: :eek: :eek:

WilliamT 10-20-2007 06:48 PM

Jenihull is correct. But really if you are indeed attracted to intelligent women, then you must be secure in your sense of self. That alone is a good attractant. After that I am not sure it is any different than with women of average intelligence. Some people you hit it off with, others you don't. Who can really explain the laws of human attraction!?

-Will

Angela 10-20-2007 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Tasaio (Post 122402)
But not every girl is intelligent.

Every girl (and guy) has intelligence of some sort. Every single one. It might take extraordinary intelligence on the part of an observer to be able to detect it, but it is there. You have to have it to see it.

I understand, though, that you are looking for someone of above-average intelligence -- that you want to feel intellectually engaged with and maybe even challenged by your partner. Nothing wrong with that! What I'm saying is: if you are able to expand your own intelligence enough to see intelligence in everyone, you will broaden your own horizons about what kind of person you might find intellectually engaging or challenging.

And if a person has made up his mind about what constitutes "intelligence", and feels supremely confident of whether or not a particular person is intelligent or not, well, I don't think that's an intelligent thing to do. When you judge another person, you only limit yourself.


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