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suzuki_sx29 · 10-19-2007, 01:30 AM

Hello all-
I've got a problem with social anxiety; I get very tense when speaking with damn near anyone, strangers, friends and even my family... Occasionally, though, I'm able to completly relax and be really quite sociable, although not conciously... I also do some door to door sales, and it really hurts my ability to sell when I'm completly tense and forced, obviously. It seems the main point in most every article or piece of advice is to "just get out there". But I've done this, and done this, and done this. It doesn't matter how many doors I knock, how many parties I go to, how many times I visit w/ my family, it's always the same. And I'm tired of it.

Please help me!

Christian223 · 10-19-2007, 03:43 AM

Hi friend, i had also social anxiety in the past and EFT has got rid of nost of it, check the link at ny signature and also see the videos at Tapping.com - Free EFT Videos - Emotional Freedom Technique , it looks too simple to be true, but it really works, good luck.

m18pak · 10-21-2007, 04:54 AM

Just think really hard to yourself: "You're not real you're not real you're not real you're not real you're not real you're in my mind you're in my mind etc etc..."

Works.

Truefire · 10-21-2007, 09:50 AM

Meditate to relax, and keep a positive view of yourself. Affirmations are surprisingly effective in the short term and still have good effects in the long term. "I'm a great guy," "I have lots to offer to others," I am happy," "I don't suffer from social anxiety." Meditation and honest self reflection are what make the change permanent.

That worked for me. After a lot of self reflection, I found out why I was so nervous and eventually trained myself out of the nervous habits and ticks. I still have work to do, but I'm way beyond what I thought was possible before. I can speak confidently in front of others and give great presentations, but I need to work on my improvisational ability and conversational flow now. Before, I was a nervous wreck whenever I was put on the spot and people looked at me for any reason.

Root out your negative beliefs that cause you to become nervous around others.
Consider your self value compared to others around you. Do you feel like you are of less value to others because you are socially inept? Do you feel you are of less value, and thus feel bad about taking up other people's time? Find out your what your irrational beliefs are, and you will gradually realize that they are sometimes so stupid that your mind automatically takes care of them.

10-19-2007, 01:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
suzuki_sx29 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 25	Overcoming social anxiety... Hello all- I've got a problem with social anxiety; I get very tense when speaking with damn near anyone, strangers, friends and even my family... Occasionally, though, I'm able to completly relax and be really quite sociable, although not conciously... I also do some door to door sales, and it really hurts my ability to sell when I'm completly tense and forced, obviously. It seems the main point in most every article or piece of advice is to "just get out there". But I've done this, and done this, and done this. It doesn't matter how many doors I knock, how many parties I go to, how many times I visit w/ my family, it's always the same. And I'm tired of it. Please help me!

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10-19-2007, 03:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
Christian223 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 312	Hi friend, i had also social anxiety in the past and EFT has got rid of nost of it, check the link at ny signature and also see the videos at Tapping.com - Free EFT Videos - Emotional Freedom Technique , it looks too simple to be true, but it really works, good luck.

10-21-2007, 04:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
m18pak Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 293	Just think really hard to yourself: "You're not real you're not real you're not real you're not real you're not real you're in my mind you're in my mind etc etc..." Works.

10-21-2007, 09:50 AM	#4 (permalink)
Truefire Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 112	Meditate to relax, and keep a positive view of yourself. Affirmations are surprisingly effective in the short term and still have good effects in the long term. "I'm a great guy," "I have lots to offer to others," I am happy," "I don't suffer from social anxiety." Meditation and honest self reflection are what make the change permanent. That worked for me. After a lot of self reflection, I found out why I was so nervous and eventually trained myself out of the nervous habits and ticks. I still have work to do, but I'm way beyond what I thought was possible before. I can speak confidently in front of others and give great presentations, but I need to work on my improvisational ability and conversational flow now. Before, I was a nervous wreck whenever I was put on the spot and people looked at me for any reason. Root out your negative beliefs that cause you to become nervous around others. Consider your self value compared to others around you. Do you feel like you are of less value to others because you are socially inept? Do you feel you are of less value, and thus feel bad about taking up other people's time? Find out your what your irrational beliefs are, and you will gradually realize that they are sometimes so stupid that your mind automatically takes care of them.

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