Why Don’t Men Like Smart, Strong, Successful Women?

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Mark Lapierre

I don't think overanalysis is an aspect of intelligence (if overanalysis is defined as analysing beyond the point where it's of any use), but rather of introversion and an inability to accept uncertainty. And you don't have to be intelligent to be introverted or unable to accept uncertainty.

Agreed.

Intelligence merely makes overanalysis more creative, imaginative, and worth talking about. It also provides the capacity to check yourself via metacognition.

An easy example is, in fact, watching someone who's neck-deep in a crush. It doesn't matter how smart they are: they are almost certainly overanalyzing every little detail.

[Mark Lapierre]

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

An easy example is, in fact, watching someone who's neck-deep in a crush. It doesn't matter how smart they are: they are almost certainly overanalyzing every little detail.

I most certainly am not! ...well, maybe a little ...ok total overanalysis of every detail.

*sigh*

*cue overanalysis of whether or not to mention my current experience of overanalysis*

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Mark Lapierre

Mind sending me the recipe so I can have this side of the world?

Not at all!

Although I am not sure if you can get the right type of vanilla custard where you live. In Dutch the type of custard I used is called "vla", which has a consistency that is somewhere between pastry cream and creme anglaise. Anyway, assuming you can get your hands on something that comes close to that description:

Creamy Hot Chocolate

For one mug, you need:
3-4 teaspoons of cocoa
2-3 teaspoons of sugar
1/3 vanilla custard
2/3 milk
a sprinkle of cinamon

Put the cocoa and sugar in a mug. Add some milk and stir until everything has blended into a nice consistent brown mass. Add the rest of the milk and custard. Another light stir, then zap it in the microwave for about a minute and a half. Before you serve it, sprinkle some cinamon on top. Enjoy!

Variation: Add a dot of whipped cream.

(If you can't find the right kind of custard, you can probably use double cream, some vanilla and a little more sugar instead)

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

An easy example is, in fact, watching someone who's neck-deep in a crush. It doesn't matter how smart they are: they are almost certainly overanalyzing every little detail.

Yes, unfortunately, I know this to be very true... *sigh*

[NotesMaeve]

The only time I found men didn't like smart, strong, successful women is when I was choosing to associate with the wrong men.

[munish]

Originally Posted by Mark Lapierre

I don't think overanalysis is an aspect of intelligence (if overanalysis is defined as analysing beyond the point where it's of any use), but rather of introversion and an inability to accept uncertainty. And you don't have to be intelligent to be introverted or unable to accept uncertainty.

True.To accept uncertainty is the highest form of intelligence.

[TomStaijen]

Originally Posted by da1prophet

For example, there's a tendency to overanalyze everything in a way a less intelligent person probably wouldn't.

Hehe this sounds familiar:

her: "what are you DOING"
me: "well, uhm, i was thinking..."
her (interrupting): *sigh* "why do you always have to THINK about everything, instead of just doing it the NORMAL way"
me: "well, i thought, if i would.."
her: "WRAAAAAHHHHHhhhh.."

(disclaimer: not you my dear J)

[Angela]

Hey, Jim, in Dutch do you call your sweetheart, "My sweet little vla"?

I'm gonna start using that for Danger Man.

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Angela

Hey, Jim, in Dutch do you call your sweetheart, "My sweet little vla"?

Uhm, nope, we definitely don't use the word "vla" in that way. In fact, there is no equivalent of "my sweet little custard" or even "my sweet apple pie" in Dutch. My guess is that the Dutch women of yesteryear didn't like to be compared to backery products...

If you want to use a Dutch word, use "hartendief", which literally means "thief of hearts". It is pronounced something like "har-t-and-eaf". "har" like in "hard", "t" as in "set", "and" like, well, "and" and finally "eaf" as in "leaf". Easy as pie!

Tune in next week for another lesson of Dutch-for-English-speakers!

[Mark Lapierre]

Thanks for the recipe Jim!