Wow, when I stumbled upon this story I was pretty sure it was someone writing my exact relationship experience. I've been through the same thing before, a three year relationship and all. The ONLY difference between our two stories is that I'm three years younger.
I can relate to the the "clouded" emotions you must be feeling. Like it's impossible to make a decision because you're not sure what the future will hold. I'll tell you the realization that eventually got me out of the relationship:
I knew I couldn't tell the future. I might end up being really glad I broke up with her, or I might end up lonely. The only thing I really felt at the time was that if I were to get married, I would constantly have the feeling that I missed out on my youth in the back of my mind. I felt like I would always wonder.
For me, that was enough to end the relationship. It was obvious I wasn't fully committed, and the relationship was no longer serving either of us because of this. Once I finally got out, I realized almost immediately how much it just wasn't working.
As for me, I'm much happier these days. We're still friends, and it's nice to know she can look for what she really wants too.
In conclusion: if your heart's not in it, and you've been dealing with this issue for some time, I'd suggest a break-up.
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10-21-2007, 04:43 PM
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