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09-19-2007, 04:52 PM
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I met and slept with a girl one year ago when i was on holiday in Dubai. We have stayed in touch on Facebook... I know she is into me. I am due to go back to Dubai in October to see my best mate. I don't feel anything for this girl, but I know if i tell her that she will be really upset. Even if i do tell her, she will want to come out with me every night and this will mean I can't chat to other girls... What should I do? It's a bit of a lame question because I already know what I should do... COMMUNICATE... Grow some balls and just tell her that I am here to see my best mate and we can go out one night but that I am not interested in anything more happening. I just wondered if anyone else had any ideas. P x |
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09-19-2007, 05:02 PM
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Are you sure she'll be upset if you tell her, or that she'll want to go out with you every night even if you do? Is it possible that in a year things have grown different for her in any number of ways? Maybe you're worried about something that's not even a problem, except in your anticipation of it. Even if she is holding a torch for you after a year, I think she'd be better off knowing the truth rather than wondering. You would be doing her a favor by being straight with her, even if it does hurt a bit in the moment. p.s., I just read Steve's column about reaction and response -- have you read that yet? It's right on topic. |
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09-20-2007, 06:45 PM
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You are absolutely righ though... I just need to be straight with her. The reality is that I want to spend time with the boys... I always find this stuff difficult because I don't like hurting people, but you are absolutley right... honesty is the only way. Another concern that I have is that she will want to spend a lot of time with me... (She is always asking me when am I coming back to Dubai.) I don't mind one evening, but i don't really want to spend a load of nights with her as i rarely get to see my best mate and I want to be partying with him the entire time. First things first... I am going to tell her and I am going to see how she reacts. Then I will tell deal with the rest accordingly. Thanks for your words Angela. P x | |
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