What is wrong with this article?

[Chado2423]

How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

The toilet seat? What are you crazy dude? Give me a break. How about an article that deals with real deep relationships issues for once in my life. I can't seem to contact this guy directly, but this article PAAAAHLEEEEZE. And why did I manifest a useless articel into my life anyway?

[Matthew Shea]

Well, it's good for a laugh, isn't it?

Although, the guy isn't far from the truth. I've done that once or twice. I think a few hairs got singed the one time when she started breathing fire and threatening my very existence.

That's hardly the type of thing that typically breaks up a relationship. It's an annoyance, not necessarily an incompatibility.

[JimOfferman]

I think it's one of those 'drop that overflows the bucket' things. I can't imagine anyone breaking up over a lack of understanding toilet seat etiquette, but I can imagine break ups over a ton of other stuff and that same lack of understanding...

I'm very well behaved, toilet seat wise at least - so no worries there for me

Jim.

[caesar8181]

The most heinous crime that any man can commit, in the eyes of a woman, is to leave the toilet seat up. Truly and without a doubt, this has been the cause of countless relationship break-ups'

Could this be the root cause of my relationship break-ups? Is there a secret resentment of me leaving the toilet seat up?
I must investigate this further.

Or it could be me pissing all over it when it is down .....

[Brutha]

Could this be the root cause of my relationship break-ups? Is there a secret resentment of me leaving the toilet seat up?
I must investigate this further.

We probably need a female perspective on that issue in this thread

[Chado2423]

I would like to manifest an article on repairing relationships that doesn't deal with superficial impracticalities... even if that was the cause... brooding over the cause won't help in turning things around.

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Chado2423

rooding over the cause won't help in turning things around.

No it won't... but it makes a good start! If you can't even figure out why the relationship failed, how can you hope to repair it?

[Erki]

Ladies won't have any problems with me and my relations with the toilet seat then - it's down all the time for me anyway.

[Rose of Cairo]

hihi, funny thread!

Brutha: here's a female perspective. I don't mind at all my bf leaving the toilet seat up. He needs it up, I need it down, so why should one of us have more rights than the other? If I ask him to leave it down, for fairness reasons I would have to leave it up... We would both always forget about it. So he leaves it up, I leave it down, no problem.

Jim: the relationship failed because one attracted it From my experience with my bf, focusing exclusively on what I like about him and on the positive aspects of the relationship helped a lot. Everything improved dramatically from that moment.

Those "little things" can be real problems though... Unfortunately he hates it when I am singing. I guess it's something like the toilet seat. I don't sing loud and I don't sing false... when I'm happy I'm just huming around sometimes, but when he's home this habit of mine annoys him. I can't stop it, he can't bear it... lol

[Chado2423]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

No it won't... but it makes a good start! If you can't even figure out why the relationship failed, how can you hope to repair it?

Does it matter why a glass is broken on the floor to go and get a broom and clean it up? (Someone broke it... why exactly they broke it isn't really all that important.) How to fix it and clean it up, much more important. But I just don't know where my "broom" is, at the moment. I searched for all the why's and wherefores, and I'm tired of trying to figure out why it happened, now I just want to work on how to make things better. And if your relationship broke up because of a toilet seat ordeal, then you've got problems worse than mine.

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Chado2423

...and I'm tired of trying to figure out why it happened, now I just want to work on how to make things better.

But how can you fix things when you don't know what is broken? That was my whole point - you need to know how and why things broke down in the first place, before you can fix it or prevent it from breaking next time around.

If your car has a leak in the gastank, you can keep filling it up and always wonder why you run out before reaching your destination - or you can plug the damn hole.

And if your relationship broke up because of a toilet seat ordeal, then you've got problems worse than mine.

Again, I don't see that toilet seat ordeal in itself as a potential cause for break up, but I can imagine it being the last straw.

(And, for the record, I have never had any relationship breakups over toilet seat behavior - which may or may not be ascribed to the fact that I always put it down after use)

[Brutha]

Originally Posted by Chado2423

Does it matter why a glass is broken on the floor to go and get a broom and clean it up? (Someone broke it... why exactly they broke it isn't really all that important.) How to fix it and clean it up, much more important. But I just don't know where my "broom" is, at the moment. I searched for all the why's and wherefores, and I'm tired of trying to figure out why it happened, now I just want to work on how to make things better. And if your relationship broke up because of a toilet seat ordeal, then you've got problems worse than mine.

But you aren't searching for a qay to clean up the broken glass. You are searching for a way to repair it.
Getting someone to change a decision they made may require you to understand their decision.

While you could also try to overpower the decision by playing on guilt, her one loneliness or other emotions. In general that doesn't lead to good relationships.

[Chado2423]

Originally Posted by Brutha

While you could also try to overpower the decision by playing on guilt, her one loneliness or other emotions. In general that doesn't lead to good relationships.

I'm not interested in those things, I merely desire making peace with my ex.