Gay, bi, or straight?

[NotesMaeve]

Originally Posted by The David

Oh my God!

You realize how much of an age difference there is between you, right?

Not that there's anything wrong with that, of course. We're all open minded here at stevepavlina.com!

Older men are awesome. Yes, younger men can do a lot, but they have no idea what they're doing.

While I can't say I'd never date a younger man, I just have more in common with the boys over 35. Current boy's 38, turning 39 next month.

[Erki]

Originally Posted by NotesMaeve

Older men are awesome. Yes, younger men can do a lot, but they have no idea what they're doing.

Can we say the same about girls?

[NotesMaeve]

Originally Posted by Erki

Can we say the same about girls?

You can say the same, but, well, that's not what Slamhot tells me.

I could tell you more, but not in mixed company.

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by Erki

Well, I'm pretty sure Angela is in her early-to-middle forties and not married.

Just pay attention on what people post.

At one point I believe that she said that Danger Man was 53... However, that does not mean squat because Danielle is 23 years my junior... so Angela could be in her early twenties...

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[Erki]

Originally Posted by Shamou

At one point I believe that she said that Danger Man was 53... However, that does not mean squat because Danielle is 23 years my junior... so Angela could be in her early twenties...

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Well, I believe she has said that she spent a lot of her twenties traveling in Brazil, Honduras and Salvador.
I also believe that in some post she said that she's just about in the age where she still could get pregnant.

Again, I'm not a stalker, I just pay attention. Maybe more than I should, eh?

[Enlightenment]

I can certainly see why both men and women would be attracted to Angelina Jolie, there is just something about her - maybe it's the lips! Who knows.
She's quite pretty, but I can't imagine actually having a sexual relationship with her, or any woman, it is a bit turn offish. I think what makes her so attractive is many women would like to be like her. She's a UN ambassador, get's all the good parts, and has nabbed Brad Pitt, but not before a huge scandal.

I am pretty sure I am straight, I mean I've had quite a while to think about it! Although, I haven't had any relations with a man for almost 8 years, but only because I'm quite content being without a man right now. So, I am one of the two so far who have voted that 'I don't identify with my orientation'.

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[Sakaguchi]

Originally Posted by Shamou

Hello and welcome aboard Sakaguchi...

Thanks, Shamou!! I feel at home already!

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

Take a breath.

You're still human. You're not defined by your sexual interests. Who you are hasn't changed because you're interested in something else.

Thank you for answering, Michael Chui. I am aware that I am still the same, but it just doesn't feel like it... It's being kind of inconceivable to see myself going through this doubt, I don't recognize the old Sakaguchi in the mirror!

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

It might go away quietly, and it might not. Don't think of it as a threat; it's an opportunity. For you. Meet some girls, find out if they're interested, and see if you like it. If you do, then accept it; if you don't, then the phase will pass.

At first I thought that what scared me about giving this a try was the fact that I might actually like it... It's ridiculous for me to say this, since I always thought of me as an open-minded person (I have some gay/bi friends and I look up to them, they're just amazing people)...

But then I thought this through and realized what scares me the most is how quickly my perspective on my sexuality changed! Deep inside I'm afraid it may change as quickly as this again, and I end up not interested in guys anymore...

I know I shouldn't fear something that has not happened!! But when I think of this possiblity I get the mental image of my very conservative mom and dad, and it gives me the shivers!!

Originally Posted by The David

Sakaguchi, yes. This is just a phase. Eventually, you'll either stop thinking about girls or you'll accept that you are not confined to a single gender and maybe even consider it an advantage (I wish my sexuality weren't so narrow). Shame doesn't have to last forever.

Thank you for the words, The David. I spend the day all sad about this, the only time I felt better was when I read what you wrote. I'm looking foward for the day when the shame will go away!! Really, it's being tough!

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

I'll let someone who's actually a female bisexual explain it to you. According to the poll, there are some here.

Anyone willing to help?


By the way, English is not my first language!! Sorry if I made any mistakes!

[Taikin]

Hi all, this is my first post

I'm male and have been bisexual since I was fourteen. I prefer guys at the moment but that could change back to girls again soon. I don't have any strong preference for either sex.

At fourteen I was worried that I was turning gay. I wasn't homophobic, as such, I just didn't want to live a life with comparitively fewer potential partners and be prone to homophobic abuse. The notion of being bisexual didn't bother me at all at the time and that's how I've turned out.

[Dan.Linehan]

Hello Taikin, welcome to the forums..

[The David]

Welcome, Taikin.

Appreciate it. I would kill to be bisexual.

[Evenflow]

you'd kill to be bisexual?? are you straight or gay? are you not satisfied with your orientation?

[The David]

Originally Posted by Evenflow

you'd kill to be bisexual?? are you straight or gay? are you not satisfied with your orientation?

I am gay. Being bisexual would be like having both experiences in the same lifetime. Of course that would be something I'd want.

On the other hand, I've heard people say that being bisexual is overrated because it causes emotional turmoil, but I'd say that's just part of being sexual at all.

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by The David

On the other hand, I've heard people say that being bisexual is overrated because it causes emotional turmoil, but I'd say that's just part of being sexual at all.

Nein. It's part of being human.

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by The David

I've heard people say that being bisexual is overrated because it causes emotional turmoil

That used to be how I felt about it, believing that being attracted to both genders prevented me from having sustainable friendships with either one, but at this point that no longer seems to be an issue (though there certainly were growing pains). Now I feel that it actually enables me to know/understand people of both genders more deeply than I could have had I been arbitrarily limited to certain experiences with people depending on whether they have a Y chromosome or not.