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08-30-2007, 11:10 AM
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 Brutha: This is a split off from What Women Want please don't go off topic in a thread, but open a new one if you want to ask a new and different question from the one discussed in the topic. We hear a lot about what women want. What do men want in a relationship? Lallymac Last edited by Brutha : 08-30-2007 at 01:17 PM. Reason: See the blue text      |
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08-30-2007, 01:44 PM
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| Speaking for myself, we want our women to be the sexual agressors from time to time. Being the initiator all the time gets old after a while.
__________________ A truly open mind will seriously consider all points of view, even those with which it strongly disagrees for there may be a grain of truth in even the most ridiculous of opinions. |
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08-30-2007, 02:47 PM
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 In one case I had a man pinned up against the wall and all he could say was ....I want to go home. We did have a laugh about it the next day. I don't really think men know what they want because when they get it they don't want it anymore. However I would love to hear what they DO want in a relationship. So come you guys do tell Last edited by MmeIntentional : 08-30-2007 at 02:56 PM. |
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08-30-2007, 02:57 PM
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| Well, I just did, but obviously you don't believe me. Perhaps the guys you're familiar with just are too full of themselves to be comfortable with an agressive woman. I tend to appreciate them.  Takes a bit of pressure off as far as I'm concerned.
__________________ A truly open mind will seriously consider all points of view, even those with which it strongly disagrees for there may be a grain of truth in even the most ridiculous of opinions. |
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08-30-2007, 03:57 PM
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 However saying that I do want a man (in bedroom) to be be fully in control and very rough. I just love it  Anyways apart from the sex bit what do you want? akbarhome: At least you said it ...the magic word honesty. It does wonders for me each time  good or bad |
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08-30-2007, 03:58 PM
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(Ain't happening.)Although, I am going to act under MY definition of aggression and see if it works. Will report back. Quote:
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08-30-2007, 05:06 PM
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| Well, i think i want someone who is sincerely attracted to my character traits, someone who admires me and what i do, someone with who i can be playfull, someone i can trust and relax just beign myself, someone i can admire what she does as how she is, someone who helps me grow, someone who wants to grow, someone very femenine and intelligent, someone who doesnt talk too much (  ), someone with high sex drive. Thats what I think i want. I have been thinking really hard on what do i really want... thats different i guess, because its more related to who i really am, in part im afraid that ill end up beign with someone who is an exact match for who i am, because one of the most important things for me is self respect, not blind self respect, i dont want to be a jerk and get a girlfriend who likes jerks, i want to be the best who i can be and get a girlfriend who likes that, a great man... i want no less than that, otherwise i wont respect myself...
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08-30-2007, 05:18 PM
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| conscious Her actions will be consistent with what she says she wants; She knows what she wants and knows how to get it. She understands that she is more than her body and her mind, that she is a spiritual being and that beauty has much to do with her view of herself. Yes, there must be that initial attraction. She realizes that she is much more than her roles (mother/daughter/employee). She is playful, capable of intimacy (this goes beyond the physical), she is able to be vulnerable/open/welcomes risk, she can be KNOWN). Challenging, diplomatic, intelligent and mature (in touch with reality). She is in a state of constent change (as I am). Last edited by joelyle : 08-30-2007 at 05:20 PM. Reason: carelessness with my typing skills |
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08-30-2007, 05:35 PM
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| I really like the answers, Christian and Joe. They're very complete and well thought-out.
__________________ <jamariquay> I never understood the need for people to kill for their religion. Then I remembered, "Wait. If Optimus Prime tells me to gack someone, that ****er's going down." |
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08-30-2007, 05:35 PM
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| yes, Rich with large breast... yeah..that's all I really want ! Can we travel the world and make endless love...if so, yeah, let's do that; otherwise she gotta be a smarty and have some substance... |
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08-30-2007, 06:12 PM
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Seriously, though, maybe certain guys, maybe even most guys don't appreciate that, but there are a lot of us who are comfortable enough to give up control from time to time. Not always, just sometimes. I'm not talking about anything wierd, either. Do what you'd normally do, but be super confident and take control. I think that one sign of true confidence in yourself and trust in your partner is the ability to let the other person take control sometimes. Hopefully that clears it up.  From a non-sexual, long-term relationship point of view, I like a woman who will be straightforward (I'm terrible at getting hints, sorry but it's true) and confident. Don't be a controlling, micro-managing type, but do be confident. If you've got something on your mind, don't pussyfoot around the issue, worried about my response. Just come out with it and let's discuss. I don't expect you to back down if I don't react well, either, but the ability to compromise and come up with creative solutions is certainly helpful. Self discipline, especially around food, is good and being comfortable enough in your own skin to be OK with the fact that our interests will tend to vary is definitely a plus. In other words, I still like time for me on occasion, as much as I like spending time together. Also, getting back to the confidence thing, don't be threatened by other women. I'm going to look just as nearly every straight guy does, perhaps frequently, but that has NO bearing on us. P.S. One more thing: if I make a comment on something in general, it MOST CERTAINLY is NOT a subtle hint that there's a problem with you and I'm trying to hint that you need to fix it. This is a confidence thing again. If I talk about all those so-and-so's doing this, that and the other thing, it doesn't mean I'm referring to you just because you might do one of the things I'm talking about. If I talk about people getting fat from eat McDonalds, don't worry just because you have it on occasion. If you're normally good about such things, rest assured I'm not talking about you in particular.
__________________ A truly open mind will seriously consider all points of view, even those with which it strongly disagrees for there may be a grain of truth in even the most ridiculous of opinions. Last edited by Matthew Shea : 08-30-2007 at 06:18 PM. |
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08-30-2007, 07:45 PM
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As for relationships, if I can't trust a woman, I can't love her. It'd be nice to be with someone I can share a lot with, being able to open up about my views on things without fear of weirding her out, and sharing my feelings without being seen as too soft. I enjoy women who will actually go for what they want, that are willing to get on top on occasion and bring a lot of passion to things. She'd need to have her own life and not be dependent on me for emotional fulfillment. Jealousy also would never work. |
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08-30-2007, 07:54 PM
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| Hot diggity - I'm starting to feel like the perfect woman! Well, still working on the rich part... Let me know if any of you thoughtful, insightful, genuine men ever find yourselves in North Texas!
__________________ ~Lola~ "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." - e e cummings Last edited by Lola : 08-30-2007 at 07:55 PM. Reason: Inserted "north" in last sentence...it's a big state. |
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08-30-2007, 07:58 PM
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| I find myself wherever I am I will go anywhere for the right reasons... Quote:
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08-31-2007, 02:12 AM
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| Loyalty, elegant and passionate sexuality, affectionate, intelligent, and beautiful. Women are so enchanting, I want one that can reciprocate, I want a woman that will not settle for anything less than the best in me and won't be afraid to get me back in line when I am not. A woman that is simple, willing to see the world with me and enjoys material comforts as much as the rigor of traveling. That would be my companion. Otherwise she's got to be hot, horny, and available
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08-31-2007, 02:34 AM
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| I'm unconvinced by monogamy. It is the fast lane to hell. I don't want a monogamous relationship with any woman. My girls have to be happy to share me and they must be able to find ways to amuse themselves when I'm not with them. I will not be any woman's exclusive lover. Note: I am not a "playa", I respect and love women on both a sexual and spiritual level. Last edited by Plato : 08-31-2007 at 02:36 AM. |
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08-31-2007, 06:29 AM
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| A relationship with imperfections is the ideal relationship I want to have. I'm not looking for a perfect woman for I, myself isn't perfect.
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08-31-2007, 07:14 AM
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| I'm skeptical, mostly because I just had a breakup. The man lied to me in order to go for someone pretty skanky who would give them easy sex. We had the whole package of physical attraction, mutual admiration, very similar interests and personalities, etc. As many men as I've heard who say that they want sweet, sensitive stuff, the reality is way different. What I've seen in most: Men want what's easy. They don't like a challenge. The easi |