Social confidence help

[Magnatolia]

Hi all,

I'm keen to improve my life. At the moment I'm quite shy and have trouble communicating with people. I would like reviews of mp3 unguided hypnosis or subliminal music that can have an affect on me for social success/better communication. Also something that can help me with personal magnetism and charisma.

Something that I can simply relax to with hidden messages guiding me towards my goal.

Any recommendations or suggestions? My main goal is to improve my social confidence so I can more interesting friends. Something that has profound changes on my overall social ability, like something that programs me to change my body language slightly etc.

[Christian223]

Hi, EFT and Affirmations have helped me a lot on this same issue you are having, it can change you profoundly, its fast and efficient, altough it looks weird, it really works, EFT Provides Impressive Health and Emotional Freedom--New Discovery Often Works Where Nothing Else is the oficial site, Tapping.com - Free EFT Videos - Emotional Freedom Technique for some free videos to get started quick.

You should also make the effort to get out of your confort zones, and read a book about socializing, i recommend one called "how to win friends and influece people" by dale carnegie, its great, it taught me a lot, getting rid of your limiting beliefs is part of your growth, the other part is actually doing things to put to practice what you learn, this can be tough too.

Good luck, and if you care come back to tell us of your sucess with eft

[Zukin]

Hypnotica's stuff is good. I listened to his free MP3s at this site and I felt confident and smarter afterwards:

http://www.hypnotica.org/privatedownloads.htm

Her also has a confidence program:
http://www.theinnergameguru.com/

[Henrik]

I second Zukin´s recommendation of Hypnotica, at least for the free Double Induction-mp3 that I reviewed here. It puts me in really relaxed mood which can be useful in social situations.

Also, have a look at some of the Paraliminals that Steve recommends. I have used the one called Talking to Win and find it puts me into a mood where the right words seem to come out easier (you become more relaxed and focused I guess). I also think there´s one called Personal Magnetism although I haven´t used that one.

[David365]

The problem with seeing solutions in things like hypnosis, is these are very passive - the perception is you yourself don't need to do anything except switch on the tape/mp3 and listen.

Any personal development involves making changes, which most of us find difficult - as Christian223 said, we need to step outside our comfort zone.

To make interesting friends, do things that interest you (ie pursue a hobby/sport) and take interest in those you meet. To make a friend, be a friend. Not everything will work, not everyone will respond - that's their problem, not yours.

To improve your body language, assertiveness, general self confidence does involve practical work - you don't learn the skills to ride a bike/car by listening to tapes! You are learning to do things differently, not just think differently.

[Mark Lapierre]

Try Toastmasters. There are clubs all over the world, they're a great place to meet people and gain confidence in not only giving speechs, but you'll also get help with handling any kind of social interaction which requires talking.

Seriously. As David said, this kind of change requires getting out there and experiencing it. Tapes can help, for sure, but you'll get much further if you combine them with active participation. And even better, you'll get heaps of constructive feedback, that's a big part of the Toastmasters thing (and if you're unsure you can just go along to a club as a guest to see what it's like. You don't get thrown in the deep end straight away).

[Jartis]

Hypnotica - Ultimate Inner Game

exercise called Football Walk

[Eduard E]

I'll give you a general recommendation for unguided hypnosis and subliminal music: DON'T USE THEM! They don't work. There's been o ton of research on these methods, and besides the fact that for the moment, they can get you feeling very relaxed or confident, they have no lasting effect.

You probably have a mild form of social anxiety. It's very familiar ground for me. I recommend you look intro CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and try it. It's a lot more solid and it gets you actively involved.

[Manomanman]

Originally Posted by Magnatolia

Hi all,
I would like reviews of mp3 unguided hypnosis or subliminal music that can have an affect on me for social success/better communication. Also something that can help me with personal magnetism and charisma.

Hypnosis isn't going to do it, sorry. Write your goals, work on creating progress, join a social support group that is designed to help you achieve your goals, and work on managing your anxiety.

Nothing outside of you is going to make this work.

[Jartis]

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As far as i know a lot of people got permanent results from it.....including me, PUA Style and tons of people worldwide

Of course it doesnt happens in one listening or hypnosis session, but in a course of month-two, or one session with REAL WORLDCLASS(such as Hypnotica, Steve Piccus or Jamie Smart) specialist amazing things have tendency ot happen

[BChris]

What you want is Social abundance. But Remember that in order to manifest that, you need to do brave things! I recommend you watch Steve Videos about abundance and try to attract what you want.

I dont think hypnosis counts as something brave. or is it?

Hope it helps! Good Luck!

[180]

view all your social experiences as "experimentation".
You are not looking for results. Rather you are looking for what works. This is the TRUE mentality to have for anything successful in life.

Play with people all the time. Try different ways. See what works. Focus on the method, not the result.

Walk into a store, any store, a dunkin donuts, pizza hut, starbucks... whatever.
Now your goal is to charm the counter person to give you a little more. It works great at dunkin donuts... getting munchkins. Works best because they are small and easy to sneak in.

Here's the thing, I've worked at dunkin donuts. And when I was cashier I noticed that some customers I just started naturally giving them more food. I had no idea how or why! I was just unconsciously deciding to give my favorite customers, or even complete strangers and extra donut or two. So I began to watch how they worked their magic on me. Actually, I even discussed this with other Dunkin donuts workers.... they were all the same! Even years later, I went to a different Dunkin Donuts and ask the kids working there, whats up... they gave me some extra free donuts. (By the way, at the end of the day they throw away all their food. So that's why they don't have gripes about giving you a freebie once in a while)

It's like a magic secret. I still have it. You can have it too. I guess it's charisma? shrug? I can't describe it. Whenever I go to a club, I get a free locker storage, free shots, and every time I go into a restaurant I always get some free extra side dish.

You can do do it to. Here is what you do. Now don't go in thinking you are going to win this person over. Think about getting an extra donut. How would you charm this person to giving you an extra donut?

It's all in your smile. You've probably heard this a ton of times. A smile and good body language can set the tone to how people treat you. Your body speaks much louder than whatever comes out of your mouth. Build these things, get more donuts, and your confidence will soar with people.

I use the "You want to give me more ^_^" tactic all the time, it's actually become natural. I can't describe how amazing it feels that every time I go into a store I'm treated special. It's an amazing feeling really. Just yesterday I bought shoes. Then I saw the lady had a Catholic statue of Mary, I smiled and said "are you catholic? ^_^" she said, oh why yes? And I said "OH! me too!" and then got ready to collect my change and leave. She gave me a discount and I saved 2 bucks. But more importantly I connected with her... That's the best part and the feeling is great.

Really being social has more to do about your body language, smile, and voice projection. What will naturally follow you will find is people liking you, having better random conversations.

This is the fundamental for your confidence. Feel free to ask me questions