Energetic patterns stuck in families over generations?

[fluffy76]

Some question crossed my mind, is it possible that there is an energetic pattern that keeps repeating itself over several generations of a family?

When I was younger I attracted people from broken homes. For instance I had a friend whose mother was an alcoholic. And as young as I was back then I always tried to protect her. That included my dad driving me to her place at night as I was under 18 and didn't have a driver's licence. In the end she turned her back on me and she basically just used me.

Now my brother has a gf from a very special family. They all live on wellfare and kicked her out when she was 18. Now she basically leeches of everyone here and I don't have the feeling that this is gonna take a good ending.

And there's my granny. She married into the family because she was pregnant with my dad. She never gave him any love and still today she lets him know that he'll never meet her expectations.

Anyway, it was always that pattern of someone poor coming into the family and taking advantage. I know that my great-grandpa started working when he was 14 to build the foundation of the property (the house and some land).
And he couldn'd stand my grandma from the day he met here.

Now it's my dad who's working his ass off and again there's someone just taking advantage of that.

To add some extra flavour... My grandma's maiden name and my brother's gf maiden name are the same. I don't think that this is a coincidence.

I just wish the family could break free of this pattern, if there is one?

[curiouslyrandom]

All you can do is break free of the pattern yourself, and be a good example.

My parents had abusive parents. My father's father hit him, and my mother's mother was verbally abusive. Both of my parents did their best to break those cycles, and I believe they did a good job. I see patterns in my behavior that have carried over into my children, and I'm working on changing myself so that they can change, too.

Being aware of your family patterns can help you avoid them for future generations. That's doing them a service!

[fluffy76]

How do you break free from the patterns? I'm just curious. I'm in desperate need for advice.

[curiouslyrandom]

Originally Posted by fluffy76

How do you break free from the patterns? I'm just curious. I'm in desperate need for advice.

One step at a time.

I lost both parents and a sibling in one year (2008-2009). That left me with a lot of grief to deal with, plus I'm a single parent and not on speaking terms with one of my remaining siblings. I've got almost no emotional support from my family, the one group of people we're supposed to be able to count on in times of need! Turns out one of my other siblings felt the same way I did, but we'd never been that close before so we'd never talked about it. Now we talk often, and it's great.

Keep doing your meditation work. There are some good things you can do in that mental state of quiet calm, things that can help you deal with the situation at hand and give you strength to keep going. If it's at all possible, moving out would be good, too. It probably seems impossible right now, but open your mind to the idea that an opportunity might be available that can get you out of your current situation. Things can and will change, but how you deal with those changes is entirely up to you.