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02-02-2011, 04:30 PM
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This can only happen when you're life is already fu**ed up. You need to be happy without the addition of a partner, you'll fool yourself. You'll attract like minded persons, so be the change you want to have or everything else will make it in the long run worse. Not that you shouldn't take action, just a hint, that can save you time and suffering. ~sb |
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02-02-2011, 04:37 PM
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02-02-2011, 04:49 PM
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I agree with the others...if you seem too obsessed over her from the beginning you may scare her, and if you don't you'll make her feel like suffoccating in the proccess. I've seen happy couples divorcing over such things. I'm not saying stop loving her, but you should sit down and take some deep breaths as a first step... By the way, did you try the "social and relationships" section? It sounds more suitable for such a topic  |
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02-02-2011, 04:52 PM
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02-02-2011, 04:57 PM
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If you want something "psychic" we can try helping you at, we're here Last edited by Nimue; 02-02-2011 at 05:00 PM. | |
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02-02-2011, 06:17 PM
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You could focus on what's great about you... yes YOU! A bit of egotism can be useful in some situations and I think this is one of them. Post it now. What's great about you? Think in earnest. Don't say "Nothing if this person doesn't accept me." Genuinely think about your own fabulousness and why they would be lucky to have you, then if they don't come to you, it's their loss, isn't it? Also, you've asked for help, but you haven't given many details of the situation. A bit more to go on might get you some more helpful responses. | |
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02-02-2011, 06:38 PM
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I think it's great you found someone, but that's not the right attitude to go about with. Don't look for an unrealistic dream of having a person take away all of your own problems. That's not gonna happen. You have to be more comfortable with your life and who you are as an individual first. Work on loving yourself and living in your skin and hopefully by doing that you can gain the confidence to "win her over". Be positive and keep your head up. Best wishes. |
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02-03-2011, 12:14 AM
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Keep it simple and romantic. Go round to her place with a bunch of beautiful pink roses, and a winning smile, and tell her you like her and would she go out to dinner with you. Then take what comes.....and be philosophical. |
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02-03-2011, 02:25 AM
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Listen homeslice, the reason you're not getting a proper reading here, is because no one needs a reading to give you the obvious advice. In fact, having been in the exact same position myself not six months ago, I can tell you your future as well as anyone. If you really want this girl, approach her and actively try to woo her. Be honest, and just tell her how you feel about her. I know it's frightening, but if you do not do this, you will fail. The pain of failure is infinitely better than the pain of regret, I promise you. If you manage to do this, I see three options for you. You cannot know which it will be unless you make your move (what you know about the situation is all you are ever going to know until you take action, so don't bother with any more intelligence gathering, psychic or otherwise). The possible outcomes are: 1. She will not be interested. 2. She may or may not be interested, but she will sense your desperation and be driven off. 3. She will be interested, and it will work out great. As others have said here, you need to know (and really KNOW) that a relationship with her will not solve your personal problems, not even loneliness. It may alleviate it temporarily, but it will not fix the root problem. I completely understand how much it sucks to hear that, and how you just wish you could find someone to tell you otherwise. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I know that there is no magical, cosmic solution here, and I think it would be more cruel to give you false hope. Some serious introspection is in store for you. You need to come to realize that you are not ever really alone- the pain is self-inflicted. Also, you will come to learn that you are loved. Perhaps it's not in the form you would like it to be in, but it is love nonetheless. You are ok, but you don't need someone else to tell you that and validate it, you need to understand it for yourself, and be able to tell yourself that. Anyway, approach this gal, tell her how you feel, see if you can take her on a date, and then go from there. And whether you get the girl or not, everything is going to be fine, because you are ok. |
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