i lost my love feelings for my soulmate doing energy work need your advice please!

[karinakk]

Hi everybody, Im looking for any clearance about my situation! Here is my story. About 1 year ago I was dating a guy which from the first sight I knew was my soulmate from inside and outside. There was great chemistry and inner connection between us, and everything went so well that I knew that this man is my future. After about 8 month since we met, he told me that we should stay just friends because he has to pursue his career first. I was heartbroken and devastating to hear that, too many people knows how it feels so i skip the part describing it. Well, after that I made a huge mistake about which i regret already for long time. Very soon I desided to go to a psychic who as I found out later was an energy healer. My physical, mental and spiritual conditions was so bad after break up so I was hardly realizing what I went for to her. May be I was just needed somebody to talk to because I dont have any family here and show me the right direction, but the psychic said that i need to do some work, so we could be together with this guy. The results for me was unexpectable. I start feeling that my love from my heart and my body for this person was released, our oneness became separation. We still seeing each other sometimes but mostly like friends because that energy we had before just seemes to be dissolved. I dont feel love in my heart like I used to feel before but i still like him as a person even though I started to be attracted to other people but before he was the only one for me. I feel so much regrets about what I've done trying to rush into the things while I should be realizing whats wrong was in the relationships that he decided to stop it. And I know that the only one who I can blame in this situation is me, cause I have luck of patience and this is how I pay off. Is it possible to gain my feelings back, because the way i feel now it seemes no.. I would appeciate any opinion about how this could happened because it seemed to be impossible to break our bond how strong it was.

[Savage]

What you described sounds like classic neediness/clinginess.

When a guy says he needs to pursue his career first and just be friends, he's trying to let you down easy and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Take the hint. Don't cling.

It seems that this healer person genuinely helped you release some of that neediness. But I'd say you still have a bit more to release.

Don't go backwards.

I'd suggest going to the local library and checking out some books or audio programs on self-esteem. I think it will help steer you in a positive direction.

[SkylightMT]

It sounds like you like the feeling of being in love, which probably doesn't have a whole lot to do with the specific person you have chosen. If you were vibrating on his frequency and he on yours, you would be a couple. If not, then perhaps it would be better to work on who you do vibrate with, if you are ready for that. If not, then you can't go wrong working on loving yourself and not needing a relationship - that way, you will eventually attract someone who also doesn't need you, will not play games, and is completely available to you not because of his own neediness but because he loves you, and you love him.

There is more than one "soulmate" in this world for you. You aren't losing anything by letting him go, you are making room for the person that will be so much better for you.

[bluestar]

You know, this sounds really positive! Because if your Soulmate wanted to separate from you, and you wouldn't have wanted that, it would have torn you in two. Now, since the energy-work, and your visit to the psychic, you appear to have fully faced and accepted, deep inside you, the changes which have occurred in your relationship. Yes, the relationship has changed. Instead of being "madly in love" you are now both good friends. And what's wrong with that? Nothing. Believe it, you may well stay good friends (which is one of the best blessings you can have) all of your lives now?

It sounds to me like the work you did has given you strength and stability, and has given you the acceptance you did need to have. That is a blessing. Don't try to alter this, and don't fret over it. Be thankful!