Need Help with a Dream

[dcaldwell]

I had a rather disturbing dream the other night, and I can't figure it out, so perhaps someone skilled in dream analysis and the like can help.

My wife has recently been suffering from some heart issues. We had our fifth child less than a year ago, and she's recently been having severe leg and chest pains, but because of her young age, the doctors seem not to be too concerned. All tests have come back normal. After she returned from another hospital ER last week and we went to bed, I immediately shifted into dream-mode, which is unusual.

In this dream, my wife died more or less next to me while I slept. The environment in which this all happened was our actual home. In one case, I woke up the next morning and she was cold, in another case, I was woken in the middle of the night and had to phone 911. At that point, the dream shifted to the emergency room, and then to the next day where I had to inform family members of what happened. One particular event that stuck out was my confusion of whether or not to phone her mother, to whom she is voluntarily estranged. Then the dream skips to dealing with grieving family members/friends and figuring out how to take care of the kids, and working, etc. The dream never went further than two days post-death. At that point, the dream would loop back to the beginning and start again under slightly different circumstances.

I should mention this was semi-lucid. I was conscious I was dreaming, but the events seemed somewhat pre-determined; I had limited control. In addition, I woke several times and attempted to dream "something else", but was entirely unable for several hours. Ultimately, I had to let the dream play itself out, then the rest of the night was peaceful.

My belief system is largely Eastern and I don't have much fear of death, including her's. I'm not exactly frightened, though I was certainly emotional at the time. My wife is just freaked out.

Could this mean anything significant, or is it just my subconscious trying to process the events of the time?

[CFPurpose]

Dcaldwell, I don't have an analysis for you but I have some thoughts. My mother had a dream much like this about my father but it was about 30 years down the road, both dreams flopping like yours did with slightly different scenario's. She just had the dream maybe 2 months ago or so and it has reoccurred since then. Some say our lives are pre-destined. I say that our lives are more like a bunch of fork paths and with each decision, the fork paths even though pre-destined will either be a path you follow or do not follow. Maybe your dream is saying there is 2 different ways this could pan out. Maybe you are being shown this because you have the ability to assist in assuring that your wife stays alive and healthy.

If you are feeling at all like my mother feels after the dream, she feels a bit confused and mixed with a bit of fear not knowing why she has dreamt it or fearful for my father.


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I will tell you what I told my mother to do. I told her to pay attention to the dream and keep it in prayer that she will be lead to do what is needed of her to assure a happy ending. In your case; I would take this dream as a glimpse and a nudge to get your wife to another doctor. Get some more opinions and stay on the alert around her right now. She needs you and you will do just fine.

Peace to you

Crissy.

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by dcaldwell

My wife has recently been suffering from some heart issues. We had our fifth child less than a year ago, and she's recently been having severe leg and chest pains, but because of her young age, the doctors seem not to be too concerned.

What side is the leg pain on? Is it an electrical pain or a ache? Same with the chest pain? Is the pain acute, can she move around with the leg pain?

I think you're telling yourself you should be very concerned about your own feminine flow right now. Wife, mother, and heart are all about the feminine, emotional body, the goddess. One thing is to have a dream about it, it's another if your wife brings it into physicality for you to see.

Time to start connecting with your emotions and how you feel. It's time to start expressing them and getting them moving.

[dcaldwell]

Originally Posted by CFPurpose

In your case; I would take this dream as a glimpse and a nudge to get your wife to another doctor. Get some more opinions and stay on the alert around her right now. She needs you and you will do just fine.

Indeed, thank-you. I've had a number of other people say something similar.

Originally Posted by Dharma

What side is the leg pain on? Is it an electrical pain or a ache? Same with the chest pain? Is the pain acute, can she move around with the leg pain?

It was on the inside of the right leg, mostly from the inside calf up the front of the knee to mid-thigh. I'm told it was a searing pain that travelled up. The chest pain was all around pressure. My wife went to see our acupuncturist following an unsuccessful ER visit, and the acupuncturist began treating significant blockages around the knee area. The next day, my wife was unable to move that leg because of the pain, but it eventually subsided. Otherwise, she's able to move about freely.

Originally Posted by Dharma

Time to start connecting with your emotions and how you feel. It's time to start expressing them and getting them moving.

Interesting you should mention this. I've noticed I've been very yang over the past few weeks. Lots of aggression, frustration and desire for consumption of meat ...

My wife is of the opinion the dream is more about me than her. She thinks my mind is using the devastating loss of someone I love (since neither of us are close to our biological families) and dealing with the immediate aftermath of such as a kind of wakeup call to rebalance.

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by dcaldwell

My wife is of the opinion the dream is more about me than her. She thinks my mind is using the devastating loss of someone I love (since neither of us are close to our biological families) and dealing with the immediate aftermath of such as a kind of wakeup call to rebalance.

Yes, your dream is all about you. Definitely a wake up call. My suggestion is to start expressing everything you feel.

Your wife, leg pain and chest pain, that should get her attention too I hope! She's got issues around the heart and moving forward with something new perhaps (right leg). I'm glad you did acupuncture, that's what i was going to suggest. You and your wife can do some emotional processing together it seems since the issues are heart/emotional.

[Decheron]

Perhaps there is a perfectly rational explanation for your dream, DCaldwell. In psychological terms, such dreams are not unusual, the subconcious addressing issues the conscious mind has noticed. The logical, practical nature of your dreams would suggest this is the case.

Is it possible that your dreams are sensible considerations of practical issues? Despite having a positive attitude to death and loss of a loved one, it seems there are aspects you want clarifying, such as whether or not to contact your mother-in-law. Your wife's alarming symptoms may have prompted your mind to address how to proceed in the event of either of your deaths. Just a thought, but it may be a simple matter of discussing what each of you needs in the event of the other's demise.

As to your wife's problems, there could be practical issues to consider. In the UK, there has been a rise in new, strange illnesses which doctors have been unable to explain or treat. Some doctors actually go into denial and accuse the patient of imagining things. The fact that all tests have proven normal could be a result of doctors not recognising an illness. Specialist help and more investigation into the problem might be a good idea. It could be something very minor and treatable. The pain in the leg sounds very like a trapped nerve; pregnancy certainly puts a strain on the knees and ankles, what is the chance the pains are an after effect? The chest pains could be stress or breathing related. I had similar problems when I was twenty-eight, but my heart was strong and healthy. In the end, it was a matter of deep breathing exercises and stress relief. Of course, your wife's situation is entirely different and I don't pretend to have the answer.

I hope this is of some help to your situation. Peace to you both.

[lancymoor102]

I am having pain, a lot of pain in my lower stomach and back, I feel tired and weak, and I have been sleeping all day and could sleep all night too. I also feel like I need to have a bowel movement but it didn’t help at all. I don’t know what is causing the pain; I hope it’s not a baby growing in my tubes. I don’t want to lose the child if it is. Please if anyone knows what this sounds like let me know.

[Mato Kinze]

I think Dharma is right on.

I've had dreams before where I've lost people close to me. I've had dreams about losing my wife and one of my daughters.

These dreams are highly emotional for me and always leave me feeling an accute sadness.

These are not prophetic dreams though. These are nudges from Spirit letting me know the nature of my relationship with that person.

I also agree that you need to let these emotions flow.

Einstein theorized that E=MC2

E=Energy

emotion = E-motion = Energy in motion.

Allowing any emotion to linger too long causes it to become toxic.

Good luck!