Dream Interpretation Requests

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by Midwinter Mist

Why is it, do you think, I have such heavily symbolic dreams and so often? What causes that, do you think?

Because that's what you want.

You only feel you are dreaming when it is absolutely packed with symbolic messages. You are in fact doing this to yourself. Dreams are a mirror of the soul and will display a whole variety of different messages depending on what field you are most strong, e.g. Visual, Auditory, Feelings, etc. You are a visual learner who has encouraged these dreams to turn out they way they have.

I can guarantee you that your guides or spirits have tried sending you different formats of messages through your dreams during your childhood. As this is the time when you are most mouldable. Whatever impacted you the most is what they are sticking with.

It's up to you if you want it to stop. You may effectively unclutter your dreams by strong affirmations just before you sleep. Or if you are finding it too heavy in the dream itself, request it to be more clear for you (via semi-lucid).

You have more control over your dreams than your currently perceive. I would like to issue a warning however, that when you start messing with your dream landscape you may not necessarily like the result. For example; less visual symbolic representations and more of a vague storyline instead.

I already know you are not going to do this. These dreams in their current format mean more to you than what they could be in another.

Midnite

[sssputnik]

Every few months I have a of being in a tidal wave. They are very scary but I am never hurt by it. At times, I do end up under water. But I come out okay. Or I've learned to dodge REALLY BIG WAVES.

I know water signifies emotions - but why do I keep having these dreams?

On top of that - I keep having a dream about being in a big house. Sometimes a different house. But its mixed with people from different eras - like the civil war era - dressed in their clad. And there are lots of hallways and doors. But in my dream, I always find the basement. And its extremely scary. When I open the door - its dark - has the old wood slats on the wall. And ...why is beyond me - I begin to take one step - heart pounding, freaking out - next step. Each dream I make it down one more step (3 in total). then I scream to make my husband wake me up.

BTW, I've learned to scream from a dream to make my husband wake me up when I am freaking out. Ya, like I'm dreaming - but asleep - but awake.
To him - its just garbled mumbles - but I am getting better at it.

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by sssputnik

Every few months I have a of being in a tidal wave. They are very scary but I am never hurt by it. At times, I do end up under water. But I come out okay. Or I've learned to dodge REALLY BIG WAVES.

I know water signifies emotions - but why do I keep having these dreams?

On top of that - I keep having a dream about being in a big house. Sometimes a different house. But its mixed with people from different eras - like the civil war era - dressed in their clad. And there are lots of hallways and doors. But in my dream, I always find the basement. And its extremely scary. When I open the door - its dark - has the old wood slats on the wall. And ...why is beyond me - I begin to take one step - heart pounding, freaking out - next step. Each dream I make it down one more step (3 in total). then I scream to make my husband wake me up.

BTW, I've learned to scream from a dream to make my husband wake me up when I am freaking out. Ya, like I'm dreaming - but asleep - but awake.
To him - its just garbled mumbles - but I am getting better at it.

There is restlessness in your external life which is causing these dreams. If you had life filled with peace and calm, you wouldn't be seeing large tidal waves, but nice calm ponds instead
Waves can be directly correlated with internal fluctuations. You seem to be dodging waves, or in other words, dodging large emotional dramas in the physical world. Some of them throw you under, which suggests you are being overwhelmed. The emotional drama may not necessarily stem from your own actions, it may very well stem from your husband's or even your friend's inability to live in a world of non-action. These emotional dramas can be anything from financial all the way to the gossip circle near the water cooler.

I keep having a dream about being in a big house. Sometimes a different house. But its mixed with people from different eras - like the civil war era - dressed in their clad. And there are lots of hallways and doors.

The first thing that sprang to mind was that you could possibly be looking at essences from previous lives spent at the various wars. As if the large house was acting as a meeting room, showing you how many there were. But when I thought about it more deeply, your subconscious mind could just be showing you that all of these soldiers, no matter from what era, have had to go through what your are about to experience.

But in my dream, I always find the basement. And its extremely scary. When I open the door - its dark - has the old wood slats on the wall. And ...why is beyond me - I begin to take one step - heart pounding, freaking out - next step. Each dream I make it down one more step (3 in total).

You are not going to like this response, but I will give it to you anyway. You need to face your fears. I don't care how scary it is, how dark it is, or whose calling your name down there. The very next time you dream this scenario, you need to walk all the way down and find out what's there.
The dreaded subconscious basement scenario isn't new. "You only ever truly know a person when you find out what's in their basement". Your subconscious basement is acting as the perfect projection of where your fears live. You are scared about facing up to your fears. You need to learn that those fears emanate from yourself. You will not be harmed by walking down those stairs, you will however be able to attain internal peace, knowing that this dream doesn't need to happen again.

This dream is highly suggestive that when you are facing one of your fears, you are turning to your husband for support, instead of staring them down yourself. You need to gain the internal strength in order to effectively handle situations on your own. On a spiritual plain, your husband wont be there to hold your hand all the way. You must learn to be more independent and strong-willed.

then I scream to make my husband wake me up.

LOL I really feel for your husband. I don't think I could handle it (physically, emotionally, mentally) if someone started screaming in my bedroom at night while I was fast asleep...

Your dreams are trying to portray how you need to face your fears just like all of those soldiers going to war. Your husband doesn't have the ability (yet...) to connect into your dreams and walk you down the stairs. Your subconscious realises this and does the next best thing; gives you a semi-lucid experience where you can effectively stop your dream by screaming for external help. The sooner you stop turning to him for support and taking control of your life, the sooner you will be able to handle these kinds of situations with a touch of emotional mastery.

Midnite

[samkirwan]

i hardly ever dream but two dreams which stick in my mind from the past are, 1. The end of the world dream i had when i was about 6. horsmen of the apocolypse going house to house people on their knees praying but it felt hopeless 2. one i had this year where i was locked in a car with my stepdad and he was driving it out of control purposely trying to crash it and all i could think about was my baby daughter what could these mean?

[172]

Great thread!

I'm asking for a dream interpretation. I had a dream last night that I was driving in a snowstorm and ended up on a very precarious old wooden bridge. The slats were shaky and the snow made it dangerous. I ended up spinning out of control and nearly going over the edge of the bridge. At the same exact time though, another car driving on the same bridge coming in the opposite direction did the same thing. That driver and I were able to link arms and pull each other out of our cars before they went over. He was a man. I'm a woman. He was a stranger to me, however, he had a kind face and we were both so excited because we lived that we didn't even care about the cars falling over. The feeling was one less of fear and more of relief. THEN....I said to him...."I knew, when I drove onto this bridge..." and before I could finish my statement, he said, "that this was going to happen! ME TOO!" and we both were overcome with laughter at the shared premonition.

It seems like an obvious dream. But....I've been questioning some romantic things lately. Anyone care for interpret? Thanks in advance!

[Summerbreeze]

Hi,

I had 2 powerful dreams tonight, I want to share with you, it doesn't need an interpretation, but you are allowed to comment if you want.
I guess they came with the attempt of channeling my higher self, that I gave yesterday first partially successful effort.

The first one was about seeing yourself and oneness and trust.
The second about U.F.O.s, Contact in our life timespan and trust.

The first one lead me to self realization, I had the possibility to switch between incarnations and with that I could see myself from the eyes of others. I always thought I could be weird, voice, body language and so on.
But in this dream I could see myself how I'm acting regularly and I liked everything I've doubted before, actually I wanted to befriend him
He was very aware, with quick reactions, you can see that many thoughts rushed fluently in his head, was lighthearted and that was the thing that gave the person a different spin, but more in a positive way. Sounds like I want to present myself But no no, it's a reminder for YOU.
I'm so grateful for this one!

The second one there was in the middle of the desert at nighttime a party, dedicated for the event of U.F.O.-sighting. The seeming dress code was white and most people also followed that, especially the ones that were going into the VIP-entrance.
There were doormen and turnstiles. We were talking with some other people, that had a bit a weirdo spin on them, though I feel magnetically attracted to those, because I know they are against playing roles. My friends found them a bit distancing, though they were inviting us to go through the Vip-entrance. My friends hesitated like they always do because they can't find a consensus or make decisions as usual, following the heard if you wish. As the inviting group went away, I had enough this behavior and went for going in, without even saying something anymore.
I directly headed for the VIP-entrance that was currently opening, though I don't know what makes you a VIP to go inside, I just went in, because white is my favorite color, they did not hesitate to let me in. a friend of mine, pushed himself closely behind me. He had no rational reason, I was glad he trusted me. I think this is a balance thing, I don't laugh as much as others about his business ideas (like fe importing snowshoes from China) and I bewilder him with my viewpoints sometimes. The doormen even wanted to give me a white bench which was free directly after the entrance, but I just wanted to be in that crowd (which I would made undone later). At this point we were starring at the sky and I strangely has some kind of baggage there I had hard time to not hit someones head with in the crowd.

Then it began the first U.F.O came in, but it was more in the seize of an omnibus, as it came nearer it was just a human replica that looked like a deepseaboat, and was for demonstration purposes, you could take a ride with it. But then a giant U.F.O. came from above closer and closer, it was very long in its size, like a 15miles x 0,3miles. I know from some informations that these long ones are usually the mother ships. It stayed there for a while and then I (symbolically) woke up.
I was so happy in that dream that we made it collectively to shift into that reality, while being alive.

The message is to be yourself and enjoy it, you have a reason to be who you are and you chosen a very interesting time to exist on this planet!

~sb

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by 172

Great thread!

I'm asking for a dream interpretation. I had a dream last night that I was driving in a snowstorm and ended up on a very precarious old wooden bridge. The slats were shaky and the snow made it dangerous. I ended up spinning out of control and nearly going over the edge of the bridge. At the same exact time though, another car driving on the same bridge coming in the opposite direction did the same thing. That driver and I were able to link arms and pull each other out of our cars before they went over. He was a man. I'm a woman. He was a stranger to me, however, he had a kind face and we were both so excited because we lived that we didn't even care about the cars falling over. The feeling was one less of fear and more of relief. THEN....I said to him...."I knew, when I drove onto this bridge..." and before I could finish my statement, he said, "that this was going to happen! ME TOO!" and we both were overcome with laughter at the shared premonition.

It seems like an obvious dream. But....I've been questioning some romantic things lately. Anyone care for interpret? Thanks in advance!

Hi,

Questioning some romantic things lately? like will I ever meet the right one?
Sounds like your single. And if you're not, it just makes it all the more interesting as to why your dreaming such a thing.. haha

I had a dream last night that I was driving in a snowstorm and ended up on a very precarious old wooden bridge. The slats were shaky and the snow made it dangerous.

This snowstorm sounds like your subconscious mind wants to make you feel slightly scared about your upcoming prospects (lol I'm j/k).
It is just projecting a realistic stage for as to why you could possibly lose control of your car on the bridge. The fact that you are driving through a snowstorm in the first place suggests that you are not exactly having a very easy time getting through the dramas of your social life (or lack of thereof).
This bridge analogy is brilliant. Two people from opposites sides of the world, crossing the bridge of destiny, meeting halfway.
One thing I would like you to note is that even though the bridge was dangerous, your subconscious decided to cross it anyway. This is highly suggestive that your subconscious would like you to take a risk in this area of life, even if it looks a little bit scary.

I ended up spinning out of control and nearly going over the edge of the bridge.

I think you maintain the onus of control your life to a point where you are effectively drawing out the possibility of meeting that special someone. One of the biggest fears with just letting go, letting an outside force push you along, is that you will also lose control. But this is not necessarily a bad thing. It could lead to a great many unexpected surprises.

At the same exact time though, another car driving on the same bridge coming in the opposite direction did the same thing. That driver and I were able to link arms and pull each other out of our cars before they went over.

You both lost control. You both found each other in the centre. Then you both saved each other's lives. Something that has always bewildered me is; are our soulmate's going through the same things we are experiencing? Your dream was showing how your partner was mirroring your actions, going through the same dramas, until you both realised you were in the same situation.

I knew, when I drove onto this bridge..." and before I could finish my statement, he said, "that this was going to happen! ME TOO!

I have been questioning whether you are just having problems at home, or you are actually in fact single waiting for your soulmate. This last sentence proves the later.

The fact that you both had a subconscious intuitive thought about taking a risk and finding each other is very highly suggestive of exactly what you need to do. It seems that you have been controlling your life and wondering why you can't find somebody who is just like you. When I think about this deeper the 'risk' you need to take may not necessarily relate to a 'risk' in life, but possibly a risk in the type of guys you are going for? You could possibly be dating men who you perceive as good for you, but are however not what you really need.

Sometimes the best things in life are those that we can't pre-plan or predict in any way. I guess that's what makes life so exciting in the first place.

Midnite

[172]

Midnite! Wow. I have to ponder what you've said. I'm divorced and have been in a long term (5.5 year) relationship. I've been having my doubts about whether he is the one. I love him but, I sense I may be wasting my time and my best years waiting for him. I've been considering moving on which is why I said I've been questioning some romantic things lately.

Anyway, the person in the dream was someone new for sure. And, your interpretation helped me see that I'm looking for someone who wants the same thing as me (hence the thinking the same thought about the bridge and proceeding anyway). You see, my boyfriend will not even drive out onto the bridge. He is content to stay at the bridge entrance and pretend to be preparing to drive out onto the bridge. He waxes romantically about driving out onto the bridge, but he doesn't actually have the courage or the desire or inspiration to drive out there....at least not with me.

Great interpretation! Thank you so much! You gave me quite an insight! Much love and light to you, Midnite!

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by Summerbreeze

Hi,

I had 2 powerful dreams tonight, I want to share with you, it doesn't need an interpretation, but you are allowed to comment if you want.
I guess they came with the attempt of channeling my higher self, that I gave yesterday first partially successful effort.

The first one was about seeing yourself and oneness and trust.
The second about U.F.O.s, Contact in our life timespan and trust.

The first one lead me to self realization, I had the possibility to switch between incarnations and with that I could see myself from the eyes of others. I always thought I could be weird, voice, body language and so on.
But in this dream I could see myself how I'm acting regularly and I liked everything I've doubted before, actually I wanted to befriend him
He was very aware, with quick reactions, you can see that many thoughts rushed fluently in his head, was lighthearted and that was the thing that gave the person a different spin, but more in a positive way. Sounds like I want to present myself But no no, it's a reminder for YOU.
I'm so grateful for this one!

The second one there was in the middle of the desert at nighttime a party, dedicated for the event of U.F.O.-sighting. The seeming dress code was white and most people also followed that, especially the ones that were going into the VIP-entrance.
There were doormen and turnstiles. We were talking with some other people, that had a bit a weirdo spin on them, though I feel magnetically attracted to those, because I know they are against playing roles. My friends found them a bit distancing, though they were inviting us to go through the Vip-entrance. My friends hesitated like they always do because they can't find a consensus or make decisions as usual, following the heard if you wish. As the inviting group went away, I had enough this behavior and went for going in, without even saying something anymore.
I directly headed for the VIP-entrance that was currently opening, though I don't know what makes you a VIP to go inside, I just went in, because white is my favorite color, they did not hesitate to let me in. a friend of mine, pushed himself closely behind me. He had no rational reason, I was glad he trusted me. I think this is a balance thing, I don't laugh as much as others about his business ideas (like fe importing snowshoes from China) and I bewilder him with my viewpoints sometimes. The doormen even wanted to give me a white bench which was free directly after the entrance, but I just wanted to be in that crowd (which I would made undone later). At this point we were starring at the sky and I strangely has some kind of baggage there I had hard time to not hit someones head with in the crowd.

Then it began the first U.F.O came in, but it was more in the seize of an omnibus, as it came nearer it was just a human replica that looked like a deepseaboat, and was for demonstration purposes, you could take a ride with it. But then a giant U.F.O. came from above closer and closer, it was very long in its size, like a 15miles x 0,3miles. I know from some informations that these long ones are usually the mother ships. It stayed there for a while and then I (symbolically) woke up.
I was so happy in that dream that we made it collectively to shift into that reality, while being alive.

The message is to be yourself and enjoy it, you have a reason to be who you are and you chosen a very interesting time to exist on this planet!

~sb

Wow sb this sounds amazing!

Spot on with the interpretation. There is nothing better than being exactly who you are and following your intuitiion.

For some reason, why do I get the feeling you secretly wish this would happen in real life? hahaha

Midnite

[Summerbreeze]

You have more than enough time to become comfortable with that idea

"I" see it currently 2030< and yes I'm happy if that happens, why not, it's overly positive.

~sb

[missbhaven]

Could some explain to me what sex and marriage in dreams symbolize.

I had 2 figures that were prominent in many of my dreams, there were many intimate moments and a few months back I had a dream where I married 1 the other popped up in the middle of the ceremony so I married both of them (male and female).
Since then I have been passed on. Recently (less than 2 months ago) I had another dream/vision when I was out and spotted this wild animal for the first time. Since then, when I start to drift I end up at a great HUGE tree (from the size I would guess a redwood/sequoia) instead of locations I would end up at before. Now, I have a few animals that I connect with when I arrive at the tree. Once, I came to the tree and my partners were both there conversing with the 2 new prominent guides. My older guides told me that these 2 will be my main guides for a while and I must trust these new guides as I trusted them. When looking at them objectively, they feel like more local versions of my previous guides who were more egyptian/eastern and these new ones are native american/western.
However, when feel these intimate moments starting to happen with my new guides I am hesitant. I remember being married to my previous guides and feeling reluctant to allow it to go further. It isn't that I don't trust my new guides, it just feels like I would be doing a disservice to the relationship I built with my previous guides.
My previous guide I believe were Thoth (2T) and Hathor (Halle) often being a baboon and a cow, though there were occasions the male energy would be either a white bird or a black w/ gray baboon. My main current guides are Eagle and Bison. Big E seems very intent on getting intimate, I dream we are flying together spiraling in a mating dance high in the air. Lady B, doesn't have that spark and playfulness Halle had, she is a lot more reserved and I highly doubt she would flirt with me like Halle did I miss Halle a lot.

[sssputnik]

@Midnite Thank you so much for your very indepth response. I know you hit it on the nail. Time to face my internal dramas. ...and the basement. Not looking forward to it - lotta crap there - but i will do. I'll let you now how it goes when it happens again.

At first my husband didn't know what this 'screaming' is. In my dream its a scream, but coming out - its garbled mumble. Now he recognizes and quickly wakes me up. So nice to have him there when I'm freaking out.

This really is a great thread!

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by samkirwan

i hardly ever dream but two dreams which stick in my mind from the past are, 1. The end of the world dream i had when i was about 6. horsmen of the apocolypse going house to house people on their knees praying but it felt hopeless 2. one i had this year where i was locked in a car with my stepdad and he was driving it out of control purposely trying to crash it and all i could think about was my baby daughter what could these mean?

1) You are dreaming about the end of the world. More importantly you are dreaming about a religious end of the world. This is highly suggestive that there are thoughts and fears within you causing your world to turn upside down. The fact that it was a religious end of the world means that you are manifesting an array of fears based of your limited concept of what happened in the Bible. This means that your subconscious knows of this limitation and has tried to express the worst possible result (within that limitation) as to express how these deep thoughts and feelings are making you feel.
It's not the end of the world and more importantly someone on a horse isn't about to ride around and kill everybody.
Whatever is making you feel this way needs to stop.

2) In the second one; you feel somebody else has control over your life and is purposely trying to kill you. Sometimes relatives can be figuratively used in a position of 'somebody we think we know', or a representation of somebody who is close to us. The fact that your subconscious used your 'stepdad' is highly suggestive of what you perceive as a greater male energy is dominating your life.
In such a situation you were thinking about your baby daughter. This tells me that you currently find her in a vulnerable position and that your death would impact her natural life.

If I was to blend both of these dreams together into one storyline, it makes more sense than to try and gather a meaning individually. Deep down you feel it's the end of the world, you are however receiving conflicting emotions, where if you were to die your baby daughter would be left without a mother, heavily inflicting your guilty conscious of thinking the deep thoughts about the end of the world in the first place.

The root to this problem are the initial thoughts and emotions that are making you feel like it's the end of the world. When those thoughts stop, the cycle will stop. Stop your cycle of destruction and commence into your cycle of creation.

Midnite

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by missbhaven

Could some explain to me what sex and marriage in dreams symbolize.

I had 2 figures that were prominent in many of my dreams, there were many intimate moments and a few months back I had a dream where I married 1 the other popped up in the middle of the ceremony so I married both of them (male and female).
Since then I have been passed on. Recently (less than 2 months ago) I had another dream/vision when I was out and spotted this wild animal for the first time. Since then, when I start to drift I end up at a great HUGE tree (from the size I would guess a redwood/sequoia) instead of locations I would end up at before. Now, I have a few animals that I connect with when I arrive at the tree. Once, I came to the tree and my partners were both there conversing with the 2 new prominent guides. My older guides told me that these 2 will be my main guides for a while and I must trust these new guides as I trusted them. When looking at them objectively, they feel like more local versions of my previous guides who were more egyptian/eastern and these new ones are native american/western.
However, when feel these intimate moments starting to happen with my new guides I am hesitant. I remember being married to my previous guides and feeling reluctant to allow it to go further. It isn't that I don't trust my new guides, it just feels like I would be doing a disservice to the relationship I built with my previous guides.
My previous guide I believe were Thoth (2T) and Hathor (Halle) often being a baboon and a cow, though there were occasions the male energy would be either a white bird or a black w/ gray baboon. My main current guides are Eagle and Bison. Big E seems very intent on getting intimate, I dream we are flying together spiraling in a mating dance high in the air. Lady B, doesn't have that spark and playfulness Halle had, she is a lot more reserved and I highly doubt she would flirt with me like Halle did I miss Halle a lot.

Ok... you need to provide both sex and marriage in a storyline context, or I will just be left to guessing at a possible meaning for you. The reason why dreams don't have a universal meaning is that meaning changes per every context it's used in.

I am a little bit puzzled because you didn't make it clear if all of those experiences were in a dream, or through your meditations/lucid/astral or whatever you use to meet your guides.

Basically what I gathered is that your guides are able to take on animalistic forms. The first two guides 'married' you in a dream, which symbolizes a union between them. But then however decided to 'pass' you on to another set of guides who you feel guilty about getting 'intimate' with. You are therefore subconsciously rejecting the new guides as you feel attached to the old and have nostalgic emotions about their methods of interacting with you.

What you need to do (in whatever method you use) is contact your guides and then ask them why it was necessary for a 'passing'. Generally speaking we have a great many guides who come in and out of our lives. Some stay with us over multiple lifetimes, while others come and go as they please.
You need to ask them what you need to effectively learn with the new guides. Secondly your guides won't feel jealous if you do gain 'intimate' moments with the new guides, as I am sure they somehow feel this is your own special way of connecting.

I am not sure if I answered your question. I would however consider the authenticity of these 'guides' as this is the first time I have ever heard of guides sharing the love in such a manner. I just re-read you post; by 'intimate' do you mean sexual relations? In any case if you feel uncomfortable, you need to set some boundaries with them. Don't ever feel pressured into anything, even while 'dreaming'.

Side questions: Do you have some level of communication with animals in real life? What is your connection here?

Midnite

[samkirwan]

hi midnite thanks for the response! I had the first dream when I was a child so yes maybe it was caused by my limited understanding of bible teachings at the time. The second was more recent I dont feel like a male is trying to kill me but my stepdad in particular has had a lot of control over my life since my mum died and is very needy and an alcoholic. I do worry about the impact me helping him might have on my family and yes I do think about my daughter being left alone if I am to die young like my mum.

[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by samkirwan

i hardly ever dream but two dreams which stick in my mind from the past are, 1. The end of the world dream i had when i was about 6. horsmen of the apocolypse going house to house people on their knees praying but it felt hopeless 2. one i had this year where i was locked in a car with my stepdad and he was driving it out of control purposely trying to crash it and all i could think about was my baby daughter what could these mean?

I've had many dreams about being in an out of control vehicle with my children, crashing into a body of water, and then struggling to save them. Most of the time I fail or the dream continuously consists of trying to get one out and dropping another.

This makes me wonder if these dreams are just a subconscious or even a conscious fear of being an inadquate parent coming out in dreams. Not saying that's what the case is at all, especially since any loving parent fears that they maybe doing something wrong with their kids. Perhaps this dream is more literal in a sense that you feel you may be letting someone else steer your ship when it comes to parenting. Or maybe you feel if you are not in control, then your baby is not getting proper guidance, etc.

Or with an even more literal note, maybe your stepfather is someone you feel might be against you in your method of parenting or you don't trust him to have control of any part of your life. Perhaps your step father is someone who's negative in your life and you feel this is what would happen if you let him in, worrying mostly about the effects his presence would have on your child more than anything else.

Just another thought. I'm not that great at interpreting dreams, so please don't take any offense if I'm completely wrong!

[samkirwan]

thank you that was a very good interpretation. there are negative aspects to my stepdad indeed and since having the dream before posting this i had made a consious decision to create boundaries with him. The morning after my kids christening he let himself into my house where i had guests staying, while i was asleep upstairs. He asked them where I was and my mother in law was like shes exhausted shes asleep upstairs. He then sneaked past her and went up the stairs and into my room where i was sleeping

[samkirwan]

(semi nude by the way) and took my baby son from his moses basket. He was taking him down the stairs and had reached the bottom by the hall when my cousin saw him and said what are u doing? he was drunk she said, though it was like 9am. he said he was just bringing him down and then she took him and put him in his chair. my stepdad walked out grumbling about me not being awake. when he came back later i told him this upset me. he didnt apologise. first he denied it and then when my mother in law said

[samkirwan]

my mother in law said she had seen him he turned round and said yeah well i thought he could probly do with the fresh air. he then pretended to put his arm round me and said sorry for upsetting you but grabbed the shed key of the holder from behind my back while he was doing it. he said il just get my ladders for the shed but didnt he walked out of the house. then he let himself in again sometime later n walked into the living room where we were siting and said ive sold the shed to someone in the pub theyl

[samkirwan]

be round weds to get it from the garden! now my mum bought that shed and painted it and he had taken they keys so we couldnt even get our stuff out so my partner had to nail the garden gates shut to stop these strangers walking into our garden. this is just one of a number of incidents with him. i call him my stepdad but he n mum werent married and were together 5 yrs on n off before she died. i only knew him 9 mnths before mum had died and had seen him on like 5 occasions when i came to stay. i still defen

[samkirwan]

defended him when mum died and her family didnt want him at the funeral and blamed him. i stood by him because i knew mum loved him. even tho that meant falling out with her sisters and brothers and my own brother. then he would ring me over 100 times a day drunk every day while i was pregnant and in deep grief, and would keep asking me to move across the country to come here and saying that if i didnt come he was giving mums stuff to a second hand shop. if i didnt answer the fone hed ring other family memb

[samkirwan]

members who he knew didnt like him and would either give them abuse or try slag me off to them. eventually i moved here as i couldnt bare to see my mums things given away and her house falling into disrepair but also bcus i was concerned about him. my son was 6 weeks old and only 2 weeks out of neonatal. when we got here i found hed already found himself sumwhere else to live n had given things away and was 5 grand in debt with the landlord. we took on the debt and the property and i did my best to help him

[samkirwan]

he moved nearby and as he moved so fast i said he could hav the spare key incase he forgot anything an we were out. he totally abused this and up until last week was letting himself into the house all hours of the day and night taking mums pictures of the walls ornaments and photos from the mantlepiece even my real dads mums rosary beads. i got sick of things going missin all the time and hed always do it just after i had given refusal to do what he wanted or if i wasnt up when he wanted me to be

[samkirwan]

or answering my phone. it was like some spiteful punishment. basicly i cant take this crap from him anymore. i showed him nothing but love but he has never shown me gratitude or consideration. he txt me saying sorry he had upset me last week n that he wudnt eva say anythin bad about me to anyone , yet i know he has bcus family members were able to tell me what i was doing at time i wasnt talkin to them and told me he had been ringin tellin them and slating me! anyway i havent answered his txts and am consid

[samkirwan]

considering what to do next. he is an alcoholic and i seemed to b helping him mmaking sure he budgeted his money paid bills and ate properly and he had cut right down on the drink. but whenever i had guests or a friend visiting or the christening for instance ( where told me jus before we entered the church he was drunk) he seems to play up n get wrecked an show himself up infront of them. my mum died from drink but was never a mentally unstable rude or aggressive alcoholic infact she hid it

[samkirwan]

she hid it extremely well. he got blamed by the family for her death which i think was unfair but yes he woldnt have helped matters tho i know when i saw them they were happy together. so really im thinking at the moment what to do. do i cut him off completely n let him drink himself to death n fall apart again or do i let him bck into my life n try reinforce boundaries? sorry for goin off topic a bit bt i think that dream with the car is relevant 2 this. he was also done for drink drivin afta mum died.

[samkirwan]

i also had a dream where an old woman handed me a black ring shaped like a flower n said 'you have to live' in my dream i asked her 'am i going to hell' but she didnt answer me. she just repeated 'you have to live' any interpretations? i saw a similar ring in a shop shortly after and bought it.

[TuningIn]

Um... Midnite, you seem to enjoy this.... scroll back thru, and find my Sienna Miller post, and offer some insight, if you feel led to do so, as I'm simply filled with curiosity... Lol Hehehe...slamb1

[Midnite]

Originally Posted by TuningIn

I have many interesting dreams, most of which intrigue me to my very core, however, I have few questions about them, as I generally know what they mean for me, however, something was on my mind today, and decided to ask yous guys opinons.....

I began meditating one night, and during the meditation, I kept talking to this person (Not aloud), a sort of conversation, then I would see some random person walking through life, and hear this person (Not who I was watching) talking to me about them....

I shortly after laid down and went to sleep... this conversation with this mysterious best friend on a higher level type of being who switched back and forth from being a man and a woman, who also I never saw their face, until just before I woke up, when I saw that it was my father speaking, (I refer to God, the universe, whatever you wanna call it, as "Father"), continued, and thus, I spent most of my dream time, going back and forth, from sitting in this room, to some random scenario (Like a normal dream) and sometimes this person would be there, sometimes they wouldn't.....

However, that was all just to set the stage, that's not my question......

Just before I woke up, this person spoke and said to me, "Sienna Miller is back to her old ways...." and then I instantly woke up, fully awake, a minute before my alarm clock went off, and I had only slept a total of about 4 hours.....

Now what in the hell does Sienna Miller have to do with anything at all? I don't even know anything about her. I've heard the name, but not recently, nor has she ever been on my mind. Can someone please help me in understanding just what Sienna Miller could possibly stand for/mean, or should I just watch the news for something about Sienna Miller diverting back to something with a negative connotation in which she used to be involved...? Was there ever anything like that in her life? Idk.... Lol

It sounds like your 'guide' is present in and out of your dreams. What I'm trying to figure out, is why it keeps changing gender and not just approaching you straight up. It makes it much more easier to trust them that way. Which then leads me down to thinking that you need to contemplate the authenticity of this 'guide' and not in fact some mischievous spirit who got bored one day.
I think you should learn how to connect with you guides in a more controllable environment, such as through trance or meditations. Lucid is an effective way, but you need to develop a level of control where you aren't passing in and out of consciousness. Next time you see them, tell them to stop changing on you and ask for clarity in your environment.

Sienna Miller... You know it isn't the first time I have heard of her name, but I couldn't remember her face. When I googled her, I managed to find out two things; Firstly Sienna Miller is really hot, secondly I have managed to effectively miss every single one of her movies that she was ever in.. lol...

I don't know what your relation is with her. But through some deductive thinking patterns I have been able to effectively establish that "back to her old ways" could possibly mean either; dating problems, rehab, or her previous career before becoming an actress; which was photographic modelling. I don't even know where to begin to try and interpret this part for you, unless of course you are having dating problems, going to rehab, or want to be a photographic model. If you however saw her in a dream, then I would be able to interpret further. Sometimes when we see people we adore in our dreams we want to learn from them or adopt certain traits and qualities of theirs in real life. But you didn't dream her... it was a message.

In any case why was that particular name given to you? What has it got to do with the price of fish? Absolutely nothing. Which stems back to my original thoughts of the clarity and authenticity of your 'guide'. I think you need to instruct them to give you a more clear symbolic representation like a black cat's paw with little spiders jumping on it.. lol

I think you need to recruit the services of somebody who better understands that actresses life. Every time I tried to do some 'research' I kept getting hung up on her photos.

[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by samkirwan

she hid it extremely well. he got blamed by the family for her death which i think was unfair but yes he woldnt have helped matters tho i know when i saw them they were happy together. so really im thinking at the moment what to do. do i cut him off completely n let him drink himself to death n fall apart again or do i let him bck into my life n try reinforce boundaries? sorry for goin off topic a bit bt i think that dream with the car is relevant 2 this. he was also done for drink drivin afta mum died.

Hi! Thank you for sharing and being so open. It sounds like this is really eating on you and you need someone to talk to.

Cutting him off completely sounds like it might be a feat in itself. He seems pretty adamant about being part of your life, maybe even a little needy when it comes to your attention for some reason. You might try setting boundaries, but honestly I'm not sure (from what I can tell from your post) that he would adhere to these restrictions. One of the horrible things about alcoholism (I've experienced this first hand with male figures in my life as well) is that you can set these boundaries, have wonderful heart warming discussions about your feelings, etc., while they're sober but once the drink comes back in, the inhibition goes, and everything else seems to fly out the window as well (or come back with a vengeance).

In the case of you trying to set boundaries with him, I could be speaking prematurely here about your stepfather, but I'll bet he'll be ok with your requests initially, but then fall back into old behavioral patterns very quickly. This will become a constant cycle unless he stops drinking. I have a feeling you've already witnessed this first hand from him. Well, I think you said that in your post.

I'll be honest with you and say that I can't tell you what you should do in this situation. If I were you, I would seriously evaluate his role in your life and how you think he will influence the baby. Is he negative? Is he positive? I get an impression about what the answers to these questions are, but I'll leave that for you to decide. Then I guess the next step would be to whole-heartedly decide whether or not it's worth it to keep his company around. It sounds heartless, but you are entitled to having your privacy and the health of your family. No one, not even your stepfather, has the right to just barge in on you and take over. I know family tends to get a lot more leeway than anyone else when it comes to this sort of thing, but enough is enough. Especially if you are fearing for your child's safety.

Whatever decision you make, if you feel safe sharing your feelings with him, just sit down and explain what's bothering you, your boundaries, etc. Hopefully he'll listen.

Remember, this alcoholism is HIS problem, not yours. You don't have to be responsible for putting up with this if you feel it is going to disable your family. There are places that can help him if he decides he would rather be sober and have a more pleasant role in your family. It sounds like you've carried his burden for many years. I understand you love him and he's family, but this is not your responsibility. I'm sure in his right mind, he would never want you to suffer because of him.

If you do decide to allow his behavior to continue in your home, just be aware that all of these incidents could very well continue despite boundaries and get even worse as he ages. So beware of what you're setting yourself up for in that situation.