Erin: Light Worker Syndrome

[confused]

Erin,
In an intuitive reading you gave me, you said you were going to write about Lightworker Syndrome. As of yet, you haven't done so, and I have a feeling it is important!

When I was meditating a couple of days ago, I was thinking about my spouse and his constant nagging about housework, and thinking about leaving because of it. I got a distinct feeling from my guides "No. He keeps you grounded, or you wouldn't do anything but meditate!"

Is that part of the syndrome?

[Erin Pavlina]

Interesting, I was just thinking last night that I needed to write that blog post about Lightworker Syndrome. Steve and I were discussing it at dinner. I guess your post is a sign that I need to get moving on that.

But yes, lightworker syndrome includes wanting to "meditate all the time" or pretty much just stay in those upper chakras. It's part of your desire to "go home."

But I'll write about it in a blog entry. This week. I promise.

[Erin Pavlina]

Hang on, quick amendment. Apparently Steve is working on an article on Lightworker Syndrome that he is intending to post this week. So I'm going to defer to him on this topic for now, and if necessary I'll write something on it later. In the meantime, I'll be posting a new blog entry on another topic shortly.

[Michelle]

This is the article I've been waiting for, too! I am one of these peeps who loves to meditate, gets weepy when I think about going "home", and has decorated my apartment to be just white and full of light. Earthy, everyday stuff is so difficult and somehow less interesting.

Please please do write about this.

[Brendon Colby]

Originally Posted by Michelle

I am one of these peeps who ... gets weepy when I think about going "home"

Wow, me too. What's up with that? Sometimes I really YEARN to go "home" and I'm not even that spiritual nor do I meditate that much. It's like a super deep lonliness and yearning that I have to just sit with because nothing seems to help. I don't get it. I am very eager to read what Steve has to say on this.

[Michelle]

Wow, that is the first time I have heard anyone admit to having similar feelings.

That is very encouraging.

[Erin Pavlina]

When I was young I used to whine at my parnts that I just wanted to go home. They would say, "Uh, honey, we are home!" but I would reply, "No, my REAL home." They never understood what I meant. I felt like I'd been banished to a strange land and forced to live out a dream or something. I hated being corporeal. Eventually I got used to it, and eventually I understood why I sent myself here. But there were days... oh indeed there were days, when going home seemed like a REALLY good idea.

[confused]

I knew I couldn't be alone in this!

Bless you all...hope we meet at home in the future!

[Amadeus]

Confused, I would really recommend you reading a book by Michele Davis called The Divorce Remedy. She also wrote Divorce Busters. If you don't communicate or change the course of this, you might get fed up and want a divorce. This is usually what happens to couples. Usually it is the wife that walks out. She eventually feels like there is no hope and she has tried everything.

Marriage is a relationship. Change the way you react to him and he will change. It could be the other way around, but he is not asking questions. Trust me when I say, "he thinks everything is fine and that there is no problems". You can shout to the top of your lungs, but he still will not understand. Here is one thing you can do. Be proactive in finding something to do around the house without him asking you. He will be surprised. Be encouraging to him and tell him that it is great that he is not lazy. Marriage must be fixed where it is. Some women in your position would eventually get a divorce and remarry. Hoping to find someone who is different you will find a man that is easy going. Then after a few years you will wonder why he is not proactive and why he lets things get messy and is not proactive with planning trips, etcs. You will get frustrated and leave him too.

Now if the shoe were on the other foot and he was wondering how to react to you. He could say, "honey, lets be lazy this weekend and have fun". "We can let the house work slide for a week". To your amazment you would appreciate this side to him and during the week, you would catch yourself doing house work you would not normally do. IT IS HOW WE RESPOND TO EACH OTHER. Someone needs to change the dynamic in the marriage right now, and usually it is the woman who is searching until she is fed up.

By the way, I am a married man. Trust me when I say that he has NO CLUE!!! If you did tell him it was over, he would do jump in jacks and bend over backwards to show how much he loved you. I would not recommend this though, because he would call your bluff and you are not at this point yet.

[confused]

Amadeus:
I know all of this. I have been married to the same man for 31 years. Whenever I start to get frustrated again (and it happens often), my guides usually give me a reminder that he is what I need. He does have a clue, because I am rather vocal about the problems. He loves me, but he is not a spiritual type at all. For a long time, I thought that my purpose was to teach him, but it can't be...I haven't done anything for him that way, because he doesn't want to! That's why I am confused: what is my life purpose

[Michelle]

Hi Confused,

A life purpose normally has little to do with teaching or healing one specific person.

I found my purpose by redefining my job description. On the surface I am an opera singer and voice teacher. Underneath I am a beautifier of the planet, entertainer, positive vibration transmitter, lover, healer, politician, comedianne, thought provoker and many more things.

This type of description feels much more purposeful than singer or teacher.

Let us know how you get on.

[confused]

Michelle:

beautifier of the planet, entertainer, positive vibration transmitter,

That is so beautiful! How did you come up with that?

[Michelle]

Thank you!

Like you I was searching for my purpose. I never had a problem living life persay, because it has always been fun and exciting. But I did have a problem with work. People's explanations for it were never satisfying (it is good because you can buy stuff, etc) and I never felt purposeful. The deeper meaning of things has always been an essential motivation to my doing anything.

You can do that exercise for yourself, too. This article helped me redefine what I do:

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...-self-be-true/

Take your job, or something you looove to do and redefine it to fit what you want your contribution to be.

[elainevdw]

I don't quite get it -- what's so bad about where we live now? Maybe I'm too grounded, or maybe I've read too much Annie Dillard, but when I drive over Mt. Rose Highway on my way to work and see Tahoe blanketed in one big cloud ("Lake of the Sky")... it makes me happy to be here to see and experience it. Ditto when I hear the office dog start barking in her sleep, or grab her leash and walk herself. Even in San Francisco, I loved the rainbow over the bus stop, the blue sky contrasting against the skyscrapers downtown, the marina on a sunny morning, the cat that lived in the fence in the parking lot.

And if you know what your life purpose is (which I haven't quite figured out, yet), wouldn't that make life here all the more precious? Unlike so many other people out there, you have a plan, and you're positive that it's what you're supposed to be doing. I would imagine it makes you less afraid of getting old and dying, because you know that it won't have been in vain, and that you and your purpose will continue.

Read Thoreau, Dillard, Abbey, Muir. It's amazing.

And I'm looking forward to the article on this, too. Until then, anybody want to try and explain your feelings for the likes of me?

[Michelle]

That is a great question.

For me it feels like being away from home for an extended period, maybe like an exchange student or for work. Normally, one is really excited and happy to be away from home and experience all that the new place has to offer. At the same time, one misses the familiarity, coziness and innate sense of belonging at home.

[Amadeus]

Maybe, you need to pick up the Bible and start reading. Jesus loves us and wants to come inside us so we can be more like him. The World reflects us.

[ahimel]

Originally Posted by elainevdw

I don't quite get it -- what's so bad about where we live now?

I'm also looking forward to the article - I'd never heard of this phenomenon before, so I thought I was just crazy. For me it manifests itself with an affinity for travelling songs, and songs that talk about wanting to go home but having to roam. They've always tugged at my soul, but I couldn't figure out why.

Erin, where can I find more information? I'd like to learn more.

Anyway, Elaine, I know how you feel. I converted from Christianity the day I was travelling through the San Luis valley in Colorado, looking at the wildflowers and the mountains, and thought to myself, "Just think, God is even more magnificent than this!" Then I looked at the scenery and thought, "Nothing could be more magnificent than this." On that day I became a pagan.

For me, though, my longing for home isn't a longing to leave. It's kind of like defining your home as people instead of as a place. As long as my family is there, it's home. If they're not there, it doesn't matter that I'm in the exact same geographical location.

I'll always love Colorado. But there's something missing, something that I could get it/find it/do it, would make this home. In the meantime, I'm incredibly homesick.

For those who have a clue -- does that sound even vaugely close? Or am I just crazy?

[Erin Pavlina]

For me, this home place we speak of, the ether... it's like the difference between eating a sweet apple and feeling the energy it gives me. The apple is like living here on earth. It can be very sweet. But it's just a physical, sweet apple. The energy you feel when you eat the apple, the sustenance it gives you, the energy of it that you take into your body, that is "home."

[Amadeus]

Erin, I just wanted you to read this. I know it is the wrong section. I went Vegan over a month ago and can not believe how great a feel. I don't think people realize the poison they are putting into their bodies with dairy and meat, because that is what most people have been doing their whole lives. They don't know how to feel normal. I really think dairy is the worse thing we can put in our bodies.

I weighed 260 at my heaviest. I use to believe the Atkins garbage and thought that carbs was making me fat. I loved sweets, however I believe that it is the dairy in sweets that makes it so addictive. Milk chocolate, ice cream, creams, cakes all have dairy in it. I was addicted to that poison. Last night I ate some cookies and a small regular Mountain Dew for a snack. For Dinner I had a tall salad full of veggies. However by this afternoon I realized I wasn't craving sweets at all, even after having a soda the night before. My blood pressure top number was at 175 at the highest. Now it is below 140. Thank you to you and Steve for making a difference in my life.

[elainevdw]

Michelle, I can relate to your metaphor. That makes a lot of sense to me.

And Ahimel, I sort of understand -- but aren't those people here with you now as well? From the reincarnated that have known you literally forever to the spirit guides who always welcome you when you return? (Speaking in terms of Erin's structure of the physical and the ether.)

Originally Posted by Amadeus

Maybe, you need to pick up the Bible and start reading. Jesus loves us and wants to come inside us so we can be more like him. The World reflects us.

I'm sorry, what? I can't help but feel hurt by your comment because (unbeknownst to you, of course) I was intensely Christian for 19 years and know the Bible inside and out, and I'm still recovering from the spiritual pain it caused me. It's only recently that I can walk into a church without crying.

However, the last part of your comment brings up another question: In what ways does this physical world reflect the ether? Those would be things that those of you who are homesick can focus on, I'd imagine.

[Amadeus]

People try to follow the Bible and it's teaching to the letter. This will only cause pain. If we look to Jesus, not the church, we will automatically follow the rules. When we decide to control the every aspect of our lives, this is when we get in trouble.

[Erin Pavlina]

Amadeus, I'm glad you are getting great results being vegan. I too experienced significant increases in my energy and overall health when I went vegan.

Unfortunately for me, I eat too much vegan junk food. Still working on manifesting those cravings out of my life.

[Athena]

again out of post, but to follow that,

how about try balanced macronutrient ratios? I know Steve wrote about how he doesn't believe in protein targets, but it is a very individual requirement
I know for me as with many others, I feel 100% better when I have adequate protein in my diet, about 80 to 100g of quality protein per day.

(anything under like 60g would usually leave me feeling unsated, and still hungry, and I would tend to overindulge on carby foods. having adequate protein is important, for many people, the body knows when it has proper nutrients, both macronutrients and micronutrients, a big hunger switch is flipped off with proper protein)

it's easy to do it from vegan sources too, like rice protein (like nutribiotic brand) or occasional soy/tofu,

and meal replacements like the Ultimate Meal

about 30g protein per meal.


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just something to try, but I know that balancing protein/fat/carb ratios and getting adequate protein was SUPER important for me when phasing my diet to mostly vegetarian.

[Alvin]