Questions about psychic reading/mediums

[LynsShadow]

Hi everyone. I've got some questions about psychic readings because I am considering getting one. I am somewhat skeptical because I've never had a supernatural experience and I don't know any psychics in real life. But, I try to be open minded and I want to explore different options. I know answers will depend on what psychic I go to, but I'm just looking for some guidelines...

-How much do I have to tell the psychic about myself for him or her to be able to contact my guides and deceased loved ones? Do I have to tell the psychic which loved ones are deceased, or will a good psychic be able to identify that on his or her own by contacting the deceased loved ones around me? Like, if I lie and say both my parents are deceased, but only my father is deceased, will the psychic start giving me messages from my "deceased" mother, or will a good psychic be able to call me on it? Can lying cause supernatural disturbances that throw off even a good psychic into giving me messages from someone who isn't dead?

-How high should my expectations be about a psychic review? Testimonials are usually short and vague, so it's hard for me to tell. Like, will they be able to tell me the name of the deceased relative, and his or her occupation? Or no? Will they really be able to tell me things about myself or my relatives that they wouldn't be able to tell me unless they really are psychic?

-Are there ways I can check, during the review, whether I'm being given legitimate information or if I'm being conned and manipulated? I'm genuinely interested in getting a psychic review, but I'm also wary of being conned. I'm sure most psychics have good, honest intentions, but I'm sure some are out there that just want to get my money (as with all business). If I'm giving a reasonable sum of money to a psychic, I want to know I'm getting legitimate advice from guides and deceased loved ones. Like with my previous questions, is it a good test to see if they can identify which of my closest loved ones are deceased, or do they need to be provided with that info? Is respectfully testing a psychic a no-no?

-In one of Erin and Steve's audios about psychics, Erin said that if a person is too much of a skeptic, it causes an interference. I definitely don't want that to happen. What do you suggest is the best way for me to be open to a psychic reading and make it as effective as possible while still making sure that the information is valuable and true?

Thanks,

-Lyn

[Erin Pavlina]

Hi Lyn,

Every psychic works a little differently and different psychics have different skills and modalities.

Read this article for more info on that:
Psychics Are Like Doctors

When you are too skeptical it's like putting a shield up. Can you read a book? Sure. Can you read it in the dark? No. Aha! That means you can't read! no, it means you need to turn the light back on so I can see the words on the page. If you go into a reading with the lights turned off, the psychic may not pick up anything. For me it comes through like static. it's like hearing every other word to a song. sure I can get the gist of the song, but when I read for someone who is open and interested then it's like hearing the whole song in stereo with the volume turned up.

As for getting conned, your best bet is to go with a psychic who has good referrals and charges based on their skill and their demand. Some frauds will charge a small amount like $10 or $15 and then scare you into thinking you're cursed and for an extra $200 they can remove the curse. That's a scam.

Some psychics are good at getting names. Some aren't. Some are good at reading your past events, some are better at picking up on the present. Figure out what sort of information you want from a psychic and find a psychic who specializes in what you need.

For example, most of my clients aren't interested in connecting with their deceased relatives. I'm not the best medium out there, but when a deceased person comes through I can get some pretty good information. But if connecting with a deceased relative is your primary purpose for a reading, don't book with me. Book with someone who only does medium readings.

My clients prefer to get advice in the area of career, relationships, health, family, financnes, and spirituality. Sometimes I can tell exactly what a person does fo ra living and sometimes I can't. I'm at the mercy of what the person's spirit guides want me to know.

If you're hesitant or don't believe, I would start with someone who is lower in price or doing readings for free to build up their clientele base. Get referrals first.

bottom line though, you'll get exactly what you give. If you close off your energy to test the psychic, you'll get very little in return.

[codenamesmiley]

I am aware that a Shaman will suffice for dealing with deceased relatives, as well as past life regression.

You can use the same guidelines that Erin recommends for a psychic, to find a good shaman.

You may authentically have a parent that definitely IS deceased and go to a psychic to get a message from them and be disappointed to find, that your guides would rather discuss your career or love life.

I think that a real good psychic would sniff right thru your lie about deceased parents. Actually, that would be a pretty good test. But, at what expense? You still have to pay for the reading and how much will you spend out of your own pocket, weeding them out?

In one way skepticism will block some things from coming thru, but all that is necessary for an authentic psychic to receive messages from your guides is you seeking them out. Once you go to them...you open that door of communication, and gives an immediate "permission" to your guides to discuss your personal issues with a stranger. Your guides are very loyal to YOU. The things that will not come thru, are the things that your guides know for a fact would embarrass, mortify or devastate you. (unless it is something that is necessary for you to know) An example would be say...you are married and having an extra marital affair with in a bisexual way. You are in the closet and dont want anyone to know you are gay or bi. In this type of situation a psychic would know that you are cheating and where it would lead you in order to warn you, but remain "none the wiser" of your sexual preference. I hope that made sense.

It is my understanding, that Shaman can go directly to a spirit, without having to get thru guides and other life circumstances to do so. They can also so this from a long distance, because they are seeking definite spirit, which can defy real time/space as we know it. They may have to be on the phone or in the same room with you, to talk to a live person..but in spirit there is no geographical boundaries.

PM me and I can give you some contact information for a couple that I have heard great things about that have total trust of some close friends of mine. They are who I would seek out, if I were looking for a Shaman.

Blessings,
Rebecca

[MichaelP]

It is my understanidng that psychics access your local energy body directly and thus your conscious (or subconscious) resistance could have a dampening effect.

In my modality, scepticism normally would have no effect because your information in the Akashic record is what's being accessed.

That said, you seem to be talking more about a psychic medium than a psychic. All mediums are "psychic", but not all psychics are mediums (if you're talking about channeling information from souls and entities).

Just for the record, I'm an intuitive but not a psychic.

Originally Posted by LynsShadow

Hi everyone. I've got some questions about psychic readings because I am considering getting one. I am somewhat skeptical because I've never had a supernatural experience and I don't know any psychics in real life. But, I try to be open minded and I want to explore different options. I know answers will depend on what psychic I go to, but I'm just looking for some guidelines...<snip>

Thanks,

-Lyn

[LynsShadow]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

Hi Lyn,

Every psychic works a little differently and different psychics have different skills and modalities.

Read this article for more info on that:
Psychics Are Like Doctors

When you are too skeptical it's like putting a shield up. Can you read a book? Sure. Can you read it in the dark? No. Aha! That means you can't read! no, it means you need to turn the light back on so I can see the words on the page. If you go into a reading with the lights turned off, the psychic may not pick up anything. For me it comes through like static. it's like hearing every other word to a song. sure I can get the gist of the song, but when I read for someone who is open and interested then it's like hearing the whole song in stereo with the volume turned up.

As for getting conned, your best bet is to go with a psychic who has good referrals and charges based on their skill and their demand. Some frauds will charge a small amount like $10 or $15 and then scare you into thinking you're cursed and for an extra $200 they can remove the curse. That's a scam.

Some psychics are good at getting names. Some aren't. Some are good at reading your past events, some are better at picking up on the present. Figure out what sort of information you want from a psychic and find a psychic who specializes in what you need.

For example, most of my clients aren't interested in connecting with their deceased relatives. I'm not the best medium out there, but when a deceased person comes through I can get some pretty good information. But if connecting with a deceased relative is your primary purpose for a reading, don't book with me. Book with someone who only does medium readings.

My clients prefer to get advice in the area of career, relationships, health, family, financnes, and spirituality. Sometimes I can tell exactly what a person does fo ra living and sometimes I can't. I'm at the mercy of what the person's spirit guides want me to know.

If you're hesitant or don't believe, I would start with someone who is lower in price or doing readings for free to build up their clientele base. Get referrals first.

bottom line though, you'll get exactly what you give. If you close off your energy to test the psychic, you'll get very little in return.

Thanks Erin.

I will keep in mind what you said about referrals. That seems like a good way to at least know whether the psychic has good intentions.

I have read your statements previously about a skeptic being like a book in the dark. I think you also used a cellphone analogy. One thing about that which makes me a bit critical is that it is possibly a convenient explanation for why it works with some people, and not with others. It may just be that supernatural things don't work as well with a skeptic around because they are more analytical and have a higher probability of seeing through false statements. But, it also seems reasonable that a skeptic really would be interfering with true supernatural occurrence, so I don't have a conclusion on the matter.

I suppose my best course of action is to try to find a balance between skepticism and belief. That way, I will be reasonably open to supernatural events while reducing my chances of falling victim to fraud. I genuinely want to experience something supernatural or to find validation in a psychic, so I guess it's good that I have that on my side, and hopefully that will help reduce interference. Hopefully my guide(s) understand me enough to be able to help me out in that validation.

Anyway, thanks again for your reply!

-Lyn

[LynsShadow]

Thanks Rebecca.

I didn't realize that shaman is term that is still commonly used. I guess I'm just not that knowledgeable about this sort of thing. I thought they were always called psychics or psychic mediums. I'll keep that in mind when I look for someone to give me a reading, because it may help me find what I'm looking for.

Originally Posted by codenamesmiley

I think that a real good psychic would sniff right thru your lie about deceased parents. Actually, that would be a pretty good test. But, at what expense? You still have to pay for the reading and how much will you spend out of your own pocket, weeding them out?

Well, actually, I think a good psychic sniffing through a lie would be an excellent experience! That would be the point of the search, and a great find indeed. The point of the lie wouldn't be to make the psychic look bad, it would be to sort through psychics and see if any are able to figure it out. My only worry is that by lying, it would mess up even a terrific psychic. But if a good psychic probably wouldn't get derailed by that, then I think it's a good test.

I think if I had to go through a few psychics until one called me on my bluff, it would still be the best money I've ever spent.

I mean, what is it worth monetarily to receive validation about the supernatural, about an afterlife, about spiritual truths, and so forth? I'd say quite a lot.

-Lyn

[LynsShadow]

Originally Posted by MichaelP

It is my understanidng that psychics access your local energy body directly and thus your conscious (or subconscious) resistance could have a dampening effect.

To clarify- it wouldn't be resistance on my part because I want to let them in. The test is admittedly biased because I want them to get through and show validation.

In my modality, scepticism normally would have no effect because your information in the Akashic record is what's being accessed.

That said, you seem to be talking more about a psychic medium than a psychic. All mediums are "psychic", but not all psychics are mediums (if you're talking about channeling information from souls and entities).

Just for the record, I'm an intuitive but not a psychic.

Thanks for the clarification between psychics and mediums!

-Lyn

[Anna Conlan]

Well, actually, I think a good psychic sniffing through a lie would be an excellent experience! That would be the point of the search, and a great find indeed. The point of the lie wouldn't be to make the psychic look bad, it would be to sort through psychics and see if any are able to figure it out. My only worry is that by lying, it would mess up even a terrific psychic. But if a good psychic probably wouldn't get derailed by that, then I think it's a good test.

Hi Lyn, I just thought I'd give my two cents on this as I have some experience with it.

Testing a psychic through lies would actually have the opposite effect of weeding out the bad psychics. Like attracts like - you get what you give - i.e. if you go in with a lie, you'll get one back. Garbage in, garbage out. The psychic will definitely feel that something is 'off' when you ask a bogus question but your Guides will give as good as they get and you might get silly answers.

Also, maybe this is just me having a hot button moment, but if I realized a client was lying to trip me up, I'd end the reading there and then and I would refuse to work with them in the future. I do psychic work because I enjoy it. So when a skeptic books a reading and then doesn't believe a word I say or is not open, it's such an unpleasant experience and I discourage such people from using my services. I think it's a waste of their time and of mine.

The best approach is one of exploration and curiosity. You could also try and get some validation through your own experiences and experiments as well?

I wish you a good experience with your first psychic reading if you get one.

[LynsShadow]

Originally Posted by Anna Conlan

Hi Lyn, I just thought I'd give my two cents on this as I have some experience with it.

Testing a psychic through lies would actually have the opposite effect of weeding out the bad psychics. Like attracts like - you get what you give - i.e. if you go in with a lie, you'll get one back. Garbage in, garbage out. The psychic will definitely feel that something is 'off' when you ask a bogus question but your Guides will give as good as they get and you might get silly answers.

Also, maybe this is just me having a hot button moment, but if I realized a client was lying to trip me up, I'd end the reading there and then and I would refuse to work with them in the future. I do psychic work because I enjoy it. So when a skeptic books a reading and then doesn't believe a word I say or is not open, it's such an unpleasant experience and I discourage such people from using my services. I think it's a waste of their time and of mine.

I'm not sure I'd call it garbage in garbage out, because garbage implies that something cannot give positive results. If the intention is to receive positive results, then it is not garbage. If I'm trying to work with my guide to get validation, why would they give me silly answers?

Also, I haven't seen anyone touch on this question from the original post:
"How much do I have to tell the psychic about myself for him or her to be able to contact my guides and deceased loved ones? Do I have to tell the psychic which loved ones are deceased, or will a good psychic be able to identify that on his or her own by contacting the deceased loved ones around me?"

So if I just ask the medium if there are deceased relatives around me and who they are, would a good medium be able to say which ones are there, or would I have to tell them specifically which deceased relatives I'm looking for? If that works, then no lies have to be involved, and they could provide information based on very little.

The best approach is one of exploration and curiosity. You could also try and get some validation through your own experiences and experiments as well?

I wish you a good experience with your first psychic reading if you get one.

How do I get my own experiences and experiments with this sort of thing?

-Lyn

[Anna Conlan]

Hi Lyn,

I can only talk from my own experiences with this. I had one experience of a friend trying to trip me up because he found it fun to do that kind of thing, in spite of the fact that I'd given him lots and lots of validation prior to that. His intentions were not good and it really was a case of silly question, silly answer.

I guess it does depend somewhat on your intentions. If your intentions are good, then it's more likely to have a positive outcome. But I'm not entirely sure whether your good intentions + some misinformation are a good match for a positive outcome. And I've not yet seen Spirit guides go out of their way to prove the existence of the spirit world in that context. But of course all this is only based on my own experiences.

Also, I haven't seen anyone touch on this question from the original post:
"How much do I have to tell the psychic about myself for him or her to be able to contact my guides and deceased loved ones? Do I have to tell the psychic which loved ones are deceased, or will a good psychic be able to identify that on his or her own by contacting the deceased loved ones around me?"

So if I just ask the medium if there are deceased relatives around me and who they are, would a good medium be able to say which ones are there, or would I have to tell them specifically which deceased relatives I'm looking for? If that works, then no lies have to be involved, and they could provide information based on very little.

You shouldn't really have to tell the psychic anything. When I had a reading with Erin, she knew that my dad's brother was dead and how he died because he came through. I didn't tell her who I was hoping to hear from. The same with my mum's sister. Erin didn't know beforehand that my mum had a sister or that she was recently deceased.

[LynsShadow]

Originally Posted by Anna Conlan

You shouldn't really have to tell the psychic anything. When I had a reading with Erin, she knew that my dad's brother was dead and how he died because he came through. I didn't tell her who I was hoping to hear from. The same with my mum's sister. Erin didn't know beforehand that my mum had a sister or that she was recently deceased.

That's good news then. I was under the impression that you had to tell the psychic more things so they have something to work with.

If I don't have to tell the psychic much at all, that's even better. It sounds like you had an excellent experience. If a psychic was able to tell me which of my relatives are deceased and how they died or how they lived, that would be awesome validation!

-Lyn

[Zas]

I came from a hardcore skeptical background and struggled a bit with opening myself up in the way that you're describing . . . There were two readings I booked with psychics with good reputations as I was exploring this more and as I was working on quieting that resistant part in me. The things discussed were only as mystical as I'd let them be really, but still very impressive.

But then, I later was off doing something else and saw an advertisement for a group reading. Now THAT was amazing because there were people there who didn't have all my issues. So it was amazing to see what results they could get compared to what I would get right there in person.

So, if you're looking to explore these things, finding a way to get into a group situation could do a lot for you.

[wachusettgirl]

Why not just go ahead, suspend all skeptism and get a reading? You have gotten advice here on this thread from extraordinarily talented psychics (Erin, Anna...) who have been very generous with their time and patience. There comes a time when you must take the leap, and put your trust in a reader. As with almost everything in life, there are no guarantees, however in my experience the rewards with many psychic sessions have been positive and amazing.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

I can recommend a great psychic/medium, she works via chat and by phone. She is honest, straight-forward and efficient. I trust her with all the big questions. PM me if you're interested. It is pricey because she works for a psychic website that charges $4.29 a minute. What I do is write down my most important questions beforehand and prepare myself. This lady has helped me considerably in developing my psychic abilities.