Keep dreaming about an ex-boyfriend from years ago

[Snootycat]

Except in my case he is a Catholic Priest! We had a kind off relationship but obviously It never went anywhere. I had very strong feelings for him at the time but after several years it had to come to an end. I am realistic now and have moved on in my life. I rarely think of him. To my surprise last night I had a dream that we got married! It wasnt a conventional wedding and in fact it was in secret. Only a few people seemed to know about it. We needed to consummate the marriage and despite the fact that a few people 'in the know' left me alone so that he could come back to visit me my son, who is an adult- and in this dream rather oddly dressed- refused to leave as he wanted to hang around and show me a new tv he had got. I was very frustrated as I was desperate for this chap to come back and if he did the secret could be out. This was the end of the dream! Any suggestions why on earth this story line should pop up now, so many years later. I am not in any relationship and havent been for years, but am now 60. This relationship was 25 years ago!

[Mmenightingale]

Last night I dreamt of an ex from almost 8 yrs ago. We were together very briefly (I fell for him while abroad), but I was young at the time and in love. When we inevitably broke up I was heartbroken for quite some time. Like everyone who has been heartbroken by an ex before I moved on, dated other people, and recently got married (less than 1 yr ago). I haven't been in touch with this ex since about 2 mths after we broke up. He made it very clear he didn't want to hear from me, and pride has kept me from ever contacting him again.

In my dream last night I was in a house I didn't recognize, but it was most definitely my family's home. There was a girl there about my age, but I don't have any sisters and I don't know who she was to me. I remember her telling me that there were two men hanging around outside looking for me. There wasn't a feeling of fear, so much as excitement. Then in walked an old friend I'm still in touch with (through whom I'd met my ex) and my ex. I knew it was him, though in my dream he looked slightly different than in reality. He was essentially begging me to talk to him. He kept asking me to talk, and it seemed like he really had something important to say. Instead I was busy being angry and resentful at him for showing up unexpectedly. In an odd twist the old house changed to a super modern hotel lobby (think all white) that apparently my family owned and where I was now suddendly busy working. After running around trying to lose my ex for a bit I finally agreed to speak to him. I sat down with him in a crowded spot and was about to start talking to him when I woke up.

I'm really curious as to how others would interpret this dream. I have been telling myself all day that it's just my subconscious messing with me, digging up old feelings for no good reason, but I haven't been able to convince myself or shake off the dream. Looking forward to an outside opinion. Thanks!

[Boosh]

I, too, have bee having dreams about my ex-boyfriend. We originally dated when we were 16 for 2 years, and when we broke up I was a hot mess. I even lost several pounds because I went into a depressed state.

Luckily I got over it and gained back those pounds, and then some.

Now that I'm 23, almost 24, we have all graduated college and just recently he has moved back home for work. I have been dating my current boyfriend for a year and a half, and I love him more than anything.

Yet, now that this old boyfriend is back in town, he is ALWAYS on my mind. My dreams consist of him apologizing profusively to me, of us being together, and of us just being happy. He recently came into my work and I bolted to the back and shook nervously. He asked if I was there and my co-workers said I was up doing book work.

I honestly feel like an idiot. I hate emotions.

[altin]

Hi everyone, sorry for my english as its not my first language and i will do my best to explain my situation. i am surprised that i am not alone in this. Before i dated my ex. i was with the opinion that if you do spend time with someone you eventually going to fall in love and love comes and goes...

4 years ago i meet a girl from the same nationality, at first i was not attracted to her but with time i started to connect with her more and more. We meet 3 months before i had to move to another city for work. We decided that we should still continue the relationship till i got back. Because i was a way from home i was getting one free flight a month from the company and one extra flight i was paying so i was regularly back home with family and getting to know her, we talked on the phone/skype hours and hours and really though she was the one, i just felt at peace wit her. Sometime we where so connected that the moment she came into my mind she either would call or send a msg or something had happend to her that i find out later, it was a little freaky at times even though i was 2 hours away by plane i used to be connected with her in spiritual way. After a year and half we got a little tired of the travelling, with the emotion of not being together when we wanted to be... trouble started we lost our selfs and stop communicating that it started to play with our heads and created allot of confusion. To a point i could not handel it so i said lets break up for a bit so we can breath a little, she started to rebel on the idea as she may thought i did not love her. I knew we loved eachother just the intensity when we where together..... at the time i thought she was being very inmature and want her to understand that i wanted a life with her... anyway for the first year was a little hard i had many temptations to contact her and in some case did do that but in my mind was just the idea that i need to let go all the emotional anchorage when i was with her and with time it will fade.... The thing is once in a while i get stomach sick and she comes to my mind and i feel her energy, also i see allot of dreams with her and the next day i feel so down... recently i say a dream... i was going to a restaurant and out of the blue meet her brother, i spoke to him for a little bit and than i moved to another room where my eye glared at a girl, she turned around and was her.. at first i though she cut her long hair but than realized that she has tighten her air.. she was dressed like a brides mate.. i come close and say hi and she replied with a smiley and was very polite, she seemed very matured and with he maturity apologised for what has happend to both of us than she had to go and i asked her for her number, she pulled to phones out of her bag saying she still has keept the old number with her... the energy was incredible to a point when i woke up all the details where running through my mind... was she reaching to me again?
The next day i felt like seeing or contacting her but than i forced my self not to do anything stupid... what does it all mean?

thank you in advanced
altin

[Bonadea]

(only read your first post)

I find I dream of certain people when I need certain things in my life. It really doesn't have to do with the person.

Like I had a friend that I found very protective and comforting, so any time I needed that in my life, I dreamt of him.

When I need to feel desired, it was someone else (which ironically was the one who rejected me on the deepest level, go figure).


Unless you're having astral visits with him while sleeping.

[Saidabusaud]

Hello everyone, I found this website and quite honestly I am hoping to find closure to this situation. I met this girl back in 2005 a couple months after graduating highschool and I was immediatley swept off my feet. I had dated prior to her but nothing serious at all little flings. Anyways, I met her actually at work (old retail job) and the relationship blossomed from there. We started off as friends, dating, exclusive relationship and not only that but we came best friends. It was quite honestly an amazing feeling, stuff you would watch in movies that you would think would never happen to you . I could go on and on with memories that I dont like to think about too much as it hurts to reflect. Well, fast foward to 2009 we were talking about marriage and how we couldnt wait to start planning.. I was in the ending of college and she was starting her third year in college moving in these apartment (student housing complex) they just opened near the University. I and her mom helped her move in and everything. She was quite nervous moving in because she didnt think she would make any friends. That was the first time I had ever seen her cry, she was tough. September of 2009 was when my life came to a halt. Out of know where, she broke up with me. I didnt believe it. I was devastated beyond belief. I thought my life was over. She fell out of love with me and months later I found out she started dating a good friend of mine that also worked at the retail place. We are now at Sept of 2011 I have dated a couple of girls after her. None the same. Some I break it off with and one mutual. I am very invested into movies and film and keep myself busy with my small film production company. Its something ive very passionate about. For those wondering, when we broke up back in Sep of 09. I told her more then likely this would be the last time we ever spoke again. It was one of the hardest things I had ever said in my life. She wanted to be friends, but in my mind how can you be "friends" with someone you were with for Four Years? She texted me Happy Birthday at the end of 09 (dec 21st bday) and I didnt respond. I dream about her all the time. Esp in the month of September, one even last night of her just being mean to me when she wasnt like that to me only ever sweet. Till this very day I still think about her and want to call her but sometimes I dont think its a good idea. Its as if I call her she wins. I dont want to think like that but it is what it is. I loved her with everything I had and more. I dont expect anyone to respond to this but if you do I would greatly appreciate the advice. God bless you all. Take care.

[badger]

Hello, i have same kind of problems with my ex. i am a male. i am constantly barraged at night of her making love with guys or sometimes just flashes of her being places. to be honest , i don't really consciously think of her. i loved her , still love her but that is the rope of life after all. ancient history is just that, ancient. however, i cant stand this constant sensation of her forcing her 'will' into my mind. its like i can be just sitting around thinking of quantum mechanics or if there is some difference between Hershey's and cadbury's if all you want is the chocolate. mindless, life stuff is what i mean or i can be talking to someone and suddenly i get a shot of her, doing something.
rationally i know this cant be a memory, i have never seen her in some of the places , the events are different, never been with her in certain ways. it has been about two years, i have had this sneaking anxiety of her just showing up. she did to accuse me of doing hang up calls. which is ludicrous, because i intentionally cut off all communications. she wants me to bow down and be her garbage dump, the person she tells all her crud too then go reward less deserving people for my efforts to help. i cant do it. emotionally and sanely it gets too much. people tell me she is just afraid to admit that she loves me and this has always been the source of our pain in the relationship when it existed. i don't care really. i just want her to stop 'visiting' me in my sleep and these strange psychic attacks to stop.
i don't know who to talk to, cause it sounds crazy, god, i know it does, but i have to tell you guys. there is no other way to explain this. i have two years in psychology , so, i am not looking for any answers like that, after all i could solve it that way myself. i want to know how to make these visits stop. please help. thanks.

[spiritdanbi]

I have a friend who keeps having recurring dreams about her ex boyfriend/who became her husband then divorced him and girlfriends, especially the two latest ones, called Rachel and Julie. Rachel and Julie's faces however are placed on different bodies, certainly not their own. Another one is that her daughter in another dream is much younger than Julie's daughter and yet, on the other hand, Julie's daughter is much older than my friend's daughter in real life. My friend was with Rachel for 7 yrs and they brought up a child together before she decided to leave her for a man and had married him. It took my friend about 18 months to get over this and had found Julie, who had a daughter aged five and my friend was heavily pregnant with her second daughter, she had already got another daughter aged 12 at that time. By the time they both became an item, my friend's second daughter and Julie's second child, a son, they brought them up together as a family. They were together for 15 years, five of them, they lived together, but argued and had fighting matches, though they could not live without each other, they could not live with each other either. So they lived in separate houses but tried to see each other often as they could, going on holidays and that for the next ten years. After that my friend changed her name by deed poll to Julie's surname, by marriage apparently, they had both exchanged rings as well. Afterwards Julie had left my friend altogether, as she had found someone else and she never told my friend about this. My friend went to look for her and that, she knows where she lives but she dare not make any sort of contact with her again to bring that relationship to a closure. Also my friend has been on her own for a year now and finds that she likes her independence better although she has now started dating other women but she does not feel she wants a relationship with anyone. She met one for 3 months and she had only seen her 3 times, had sex once but the woman kissed her first, then she left her to go back to her ex girlfriend. Now my friend has met another, since July, she keeps pushing this woman away, sometimes she wants her and another time she doesn't and yet this woman really likes my friend a lot, she's told her so, they have had sex once, and most of the time they kiss, hug each other and play sex games too, they see each other three or four times a week. This woman always shows her affections towards her, her emotions and that but my friend doesn't seem very happy about this, hates this woman touching her. My friend also has told this woman how she feels and doesn't want a relationship after all she's been through with her ex's and Julie but may later on change her mind if she likes someone. Could this be to do with her dreams? Why my friend feels like this towards this particular woman because this woman is a great person full of love, wouldn't hurt a fly, very kind and helpful, who loves my friend very much and wants to be with her, it's sad really. Any ideas what this dream means please and thanks if anyone can help?