Bad energy in my parents' house

[Buttercat Apocalypse]

I just came back to my parents' house after a month and my sixth sense is a bit better turned on. Well, damn. The energy here is terrible. No wonder I was so depressed while here.

This is to do with my parents, who are really stuck. I'd call my father an unintentional energy-vampire in that he feels he needs to drain self-esteem from others. That is he feels he has some serious emotional needs and he has to make me fulfil them. But of course he's scared of me hurting him, so he cautiously waits to spring, for the safe moment to grab a bit of fulfillment and run away into his cave to gnaw at it. All I want is to get away from him; how can I tell him that the way to get fulfilment is to stop needing it so much?

So I'll be out of the house again soon and with any luck I'll be able to raise my vibration so I can visit them a bit better equipped to deal with their energy. I have some work I'd like to do here on their computer, but really what I want to do is get as far away as possible. I'm only just starting out my adult life so it's hard.

I don't know why I wrote this; to vent I guess. Still if anyone has any advice for keeping my vibration up...

[Liveformx64]

Firstly, I love your metaphor about the vampire / cave bit...

Secondly, it is your choice to give energy away. It is also your choice to accept any negative thoughts. I would say focus on giving the gift of your positive energy, this should help them, and recharge you at the same time. Give with a smile, and come from a place of understanding and unconditional love. Ask yourself, "what about what your dad says actually makes you feel poorly?" It very well may be a reflection of your own insecurities.

Finally, When you are feeling drained get out and recharge a little. Go get some exercise, fresh air etc...

As far as helping your parents out of the rut. I have found that the best way to lead is by example. It is the hardest, but most profound way to enact change. Pepper this with a few non-offensive hints as to how "YOU" have found your way to a happy life. The gift is now theirs to accept or reject. That my friend is all you can do.

[Old Soul]

unintentional energy-vampire

Understood my FIL is the same, Although I can say I have personally been able to be around him now without being so "effected" , this is a welcomed experience too, as it did not use to be that way..... I still direct the conversation, as he is a victim thinker, and loves to lay blame and gossip and cause family problems... I do not see this as ever changing as he is 83 and his victim game is working for him just enough to keep him in this mind set

I can't give a diffinitive reason or formula as to how I* am able to be around him and not
become effected, except to say that even though he is the same, I am stronger and do not take in his energy

i love it!!

[Old Soul]

it is your choice to give energy away

I do believe that is exactly the key... somewhere along the line I just stopped giving away my energy to someone who really loves being a victim :-)))

[Buttercat Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by Liveformx64

Firstly, I love your metaphor about the vampire / cave bit...

Secondly, it is your choice to give energy away. It is also your choice to accept any negative thoughts. I would say focus on giving the gift of your positive energy, this should help them, and recharge you at the same time. Give with a smile, and come from a place of understanding and unconditional love. Ask yourself, "what about what your dad says actually makes you feel poorly?" It very well may be a reflection of your own insecurities.

Finally, When you are feeling drained get out and recharge a little. Go get some exercise, fresh air etc...

As far as helping your parents out of the rut. I have found that the best way to lead is by example. It is the hardest, but most profound way to enact change. Pepper this with a few non-offensive hints as to how "YOU" have found your way to a happy life. The gift is now theirs to accept or reject. That my friend is all you can do.

Thanks for the reply lifeform, you know I tried that visualisation just now and the effect was noticeable, it really relieved some of the tension.

My plan to help them actually is through the website I'm going to write about personal development and this stuff. I'm going to put some real love into that and hopefully my parents will end up reading it and get to changing their own assumptions.

My father's going to a psychiatrist. I've been to two and my intuition disagreed with them very strongly; I think a large part of the profession is a scam and the rest, not really effective (as if a college degree made you automatically qualified to help people change! Only love can do that!)

Sigh..

[Buttercat Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by Old Soul

Understood my FIL is the same, Although I can say I have personally been able to be around him now without being so "effected" , this is a welcomed experience too, as it did not use to be that way..... I still direct the conversation, as he is a victim thinker, and loves to lay blame and gossip and cause family problems... I do not see this as ever changing as he is 83 and his victim game is working for him just enough to keep him in this mind set

I can't give a diffinitive reason or formula as to how I* am able to be around him and not
become effected, except to say that even though he is the same, I am stronger and do not take in his energy

i love it!!

You love what? Lol.

[Old Soul]

You love what? Lol.

I love the fact that he no longer has a hold on me , that I do not take in his* energy

[Old Soul]

I think a large part of the profession is a scam and the rest, not really effective (as if a college degree made you automatically qualified to help people change! Only love can do that

I would agree with that statment:-)