Vibrations & The Ex (long...sorry but at least its entertaining lol)

[Reader74]

Hello everyone,

I'm new here and not really sure where to start. I'm not quick to call myself psychic but I've always been a little aware of feelings, vibrations, dreams, voices since I was young

I use to be able to talk to certain folks within my family/friend circle about this, but I dont feel that I can any longer so here I am

What does it mean when you keep getting messages and vibes from someone?

I hate to say this because its embarrassing but here it goes

I recently broke up with someone a few weeks ago, it wasnt a huge blowup but just enough to where feelings & egos were battered and bruised on both ends I imagine

My ex James wasnt psychic but I sure felt he was at times

I would form questions in my mind and he would answer them outloud, just simple things

I would sit there thinking...I think we should do something tonight

James would turn to me & say...Wanna go to the movies?

Or I would wonder in my head when the last time he spoke to his father, then James would turn and say...You know my Pops called me yesterday, did I tell you that?

Those things happened quite alot & I always thought they were cool

The breakup has been very hard on me, my friends think that I am making half of these things up & that its preventing me from moving on with my life

I dreamt about James this entire week, which sucked

I use to dream about him when he was laying right next to me so dreaming about him wasnt a big deal

These were sorta message dreams, dreams that he was hurting and wanted to come back but he didnt know how to come back, etc

Yeah imagine the eye rolls that I got from my friends when I told them that one lol

I'd get these insane vibrations that were either from him or about him

Its like a physical buzzing, the best way to describe it is to imagine sitting on top of a dryer, my whole body would buzz/vibrate and I couldnt stand it...it was the anticipation...it felt like something was coming

I would get those buzzing feelings at the oddest moments & it would torture me to no end because the logical part of my brain said to wait for proof, what proof is there that he's thinking about me? Or that he even wants to come back at all?

Then you throw in my impatience and I'm just all over the place, its like trying to wait for Christmas

I was told to "watch for the signs"

Signs of what? but hey, I went along with it, I went along with life as usual

Making plans to go on vacation, and I recently passed my real estate exam so I've been busy with that too, making sure this fee is paid, that paper is signed, etc etc

I came across this firm online and my instincts told me that this was the place, no need to look any further...I just had such a great feeling about it that I knew that I would sign with them no matter what

So I looked over the website a little more and I came across this realtor who works there and he has the same exact last name that James does

I sat there like Wow, what are the odds? It would be different if James had a common last name like Smith, Jones, Williams or Johnson but he doesnt

My normal question would be, does this mean James is coming back?
But more than that, I'm wondering what do I do with these messages?
What do I do with myself? lol How do you distinguish between real vibes and just wishful thinking? Or do you just know?

The hardest part is trying to relax & letting it happen, I know that I am getting in the way at times but these feelings/vibes/dreams, etc are kicking my *** lol

Does anyone have any clue what I'm talking about? LOL Suggestions? Advice? Tips? Beer perhaps?

[Bruce Achterberg]

I have no beer. That's a good thing.

I do have experience with this phenomena, though, and it seems to me that all you're doing is (A) focusing on something, and (B) having evidence of that internal focus manifest in external reality, as a sort of ripple effect.

It's up to *you* to choose what you want, including whether or not there's some big "plan" for how things are supposed to happen and whether you and this James guy have any sort of connection.

As for "what do these feelings mean"... I need to do more research on that, heh.

So to simply, apply truth: what do you want? Make a decision, and align with it. This may require some experimentation. Recognise that is part of the "preferring" process, so even if you'd like to have an answer right now, usually it doesn’t work that way (for me, anyway). I often resist this for months, heh (it's not a pattern I'm good at dealing with yet), but eventually I tend to find a way to go with the flow in which I'm ok with moving forward while still aligning with what seem to be pretty practical universal truths of the objective world that I just have to accept.

But my intuitive side likes to step in and make my intellect seem silly, heh. I'm sensing that there's something different in play. I think you'll need to define that before any of us can really help you, if I am indeed reading whatever I am reading correctly.

[Holistic Star]

Can I just check if I'm reading this correctly?

You broke up with a guy. Now you miss him and you're wondering if he wants you back? You see signs and wonder if it means he will come back to you or not.

A very important question to ask yourself here:

'Do you want him back? '

Not, 'Do you want him to miss you', or 'do you want him to feel bad about what he said / did / didn't do'. But 'Do YOU want him back?' 'Do you want a relationship with him'

If you do want him back, then why don't you get in touch with him and tell him that? What are you waiting for? An apology? him to call you first? What if he is waiting for you to make the first move because he thinks you don't like him anymore? Even if he did turn you down, you wouldn't be stuck in this limbo waiting for some signs that he wants you back.

And if you decide that you don't want him back for who he is, then that's fine too. Just make a decision to move on.

Think about what you really want here, then act on it.


Good luck

[mahreenferdous]

Firstly I love the fact that you are totally laughing about your present situation. That's a great place to be. To be sad/upset but being able to step back really look at your life and genuinely find it funny.

I have also been thinking of my ex on and off- we've broken up a few months ago now and it's pretty hopeless in an objective sense. He's with someone else. The few lines from the latest on Steve's blog made me laugh out loud. He's what he says-

"Wanting to get back together with an ex-partner who dumped you. You want to get back together with someone who doesn’t even want you? Talk about needy and clingy…. Why not just bribe the other person to get back with you? If you can’t laugh at yourself for doing this, you must really be asleep. The only thing worse is wanting to get back with an ex-partner that you originally dumped."

It totally cracked me up!

In terms of whether there are any signs in this- I think there may be but it may be best to give it some time and see how you feel. They might slowly subside. My ex's first name is pretty common and I would almost hear it every day! In the begining it was really annoying and then I just accepted that that's going to happen with a common first name. I also kept hearing or seeing his current partner's name. Which was a little stranger because her name isn't quite as common. Also, his last name isn't very common but I certainly started thinking its more common because again it started coming up in my reality. So I went to holiday to NY to get away and see some old friends and funnily enough there is a college near NY that is named like this last name and one day on the subway the whole carriage had adverts for this college! Talk about signs! And when I went on a trip out of NY with some family friends as it happens we were driving toward this college! Freaked me out a lot! This is it hasn't been happening as much. I think it does have something to do with the external world showing us our internal reality. The name reminders especially annoyed me because it wasn't like I was trying to remember him by things that we'd done together or notice things that reminded me of him. It was his name! So felt like my mind wasn't in action as much. But maybe it is.

It's probably very normal to get like this soon after you break up. My solution has been to just follow my intuition. If at any point I wanted to really contact him I have as it happened the first time I really thought we'd get back together at some point, he actually called me up. Following my intuitive guidance so far has been the best thing. It feels like it's taking me whereever I need to be. eg. finding this post and knowing it happens to others too...signs or no signs!

[mahreenferdous]

Reader74....any updates on your situation?

[marinik]

Call HIM!!!!

[sgregory]

I didn't read all the comments, but my advice is this. Just talk to him. Did you only get into an argument and ended it because of that? May he wants you back, maybe he doesn't, but why give on on the relationship so early anyhow? Relationships are not something to be ended because of one fight, they are to be worked on. I don't know exactly what the fights were about, but I hate to see people give up so easily.

About the thoughts, it could just be your subconscious missing him. Anyhow, the strongest relationships are those that have gone through struggle and overcome obstacles, so go see if you can work out what is between you. Good luck!