Empathy Situation: Need Explanation

[me21876589163231896509186]

Okay, something that has really been bothering me lately and will not let my mind rest.

I suffer from depression and the other night I had a VERY bad night. though I can't really remember what triggered it. It was a negative emotions smorgasbord and I was thinking about my best friend at the same time who lives relatively close to me. The emotions I felt kept me up late into the night and the next day I was still feeling pretty down and physically felt sick to my stomach because of it. I had not talked to this friend all night or that day. At the end of the day she told me how the night before she had this feeling suddenly hit her, describing about the same time I started to feel down. She told me it was a really weird, awful feeling she had no idea where it came from and it kept her up til about 4 in the morning. She also told me that she still felt pretty bad all day and her stomach was upset. Another detail, she said she started to feel a bit better which is when I started to climb out of the hole of my depression. It was like when I thought of her I somehow transmitted my emotions to her. It really freaked me out and made me wonder.

Also, previously I've had experiences where I'll be at the computer or whatever not really thinking about a whole lot then this feeling would hit me, litterally hit me, the equivalent of someone giving me a bit of a shove. I'd get really excited, burst of energy and be really happy then minutes or, one time, seconds later this same friend called and would say something like "OMG I just found something out and I thought of you and I had to tell you!" Again, it was like the moment she thought of me, the strong emotions she was feeling were sent to me.

Along with this, I find when ever anyone around me is feeling a strong emotion, particularly a negative one, I can feel it on top of my own. I someitmes feel myself emotionally exhaugsted because of it. I've always been an empathetic person but lately it's like I've become more and more sensitive. It's actually starting to scare me and wear me out sometimes so if someone could explain what it's all about it would be greatly appreciated.

[help4me]

How old are you?

[AliB1959]

"I someitmes feel myself emotionally exhaugsted because of it. I've always been an empathetic person but lately it's like I've become more and more sensitive. It's actually starting to scare me and wear me out sometimes so if someone could explain what it's all about it would be greatly appreciated."

Sounds to me like you are not protecting yourself. Do you do any psychic protection for yourself? Also, you may want to "protect" your friend at the same time (I imagine white, loving, protecting light around as many people as I can and my dwelling before going to sleep)... It seems to help me sleep better and it sure can't hurt the other people! In some ways it's like asking a Higher Power to bless everyone you know.

You also may want to look into wearing or carrying a crystal or stone; it can't hurt... Gemstone meaning

[me21876589163231896509186]

I recently turned 16 and, yeah, I didn't mention because I dind't hink it was important, I have not been able to sleep well at all as of lately, meaning past few months. And thanks for replying, it's always good to know your not alone...or crazy.

[help4me]

I think your age has a lot to do with it as your body and your mind are still going through tremendous changes and that can most certainly be part of why you seem to be super sensitive to the emotions around you. Teenagers have a rough time of it with stress as well, which can amplify everything you are feeling and cause the restless nights. I promise I am not trying to explain away what you are going through. I do however think that your age is part of it. If you want to delve deeper and nurture the paranormal abilities that you might have... the first place to begin is to learn how to protect yourself. Protecting yourself will also allow you to block these overwhelming emotions that you get from others. Much like a person who is always coming to you for advice, whining about this, that, and the other thing, until you stop listening to them. So it is with other people's emotions. Those emotions won't attach themselves to you if you don't allow it. Protection is the most important thing in the paranormal field.

[LeahWhitehorse]

Hi there.
I emphathise - I really do - both as a sensitive and someone who has also suffered from depression.
You are a sensitive soul who needs to look after themselves at the moment. As someone else said here, protection is the most important thing. When you are tired, ill or depressed your own boundaries can be quite low and then you can end up feeling like a beacon for the world's problems!
A really simple thing to do is when you go to sleep and when you wake up, imagine yourself in a bubble that has a mirror on the outside. Inside this bubble you are safe. The mirror on the outside of the bubble reflects away any unwanted energy. If you are spiritually inclined you can also simply say a prayer to your deity or the Universe or whatever you believe in.
Another option is to get a piece of hematite (crystal). You can carry it in your pocket and this will draw away negative energy. Another one is smokey quartz.
In the meantime, aside from the spiritual issues you need to take care of the practical issues in life too - especially when you are depressed. To open up to spirit you need to feel grounded and protected. It may sound boring but make sure you eat, sleep and get enough exercise. It will help balance hormone levels and generally lift your mood.
It is most important to get yourself well first then if you wish to pursue the spiritual side of things you will feel strong enough to do so.

[Tigerlilly]

I don't believe you're imagining these empathetic connections, but I know how you must feel. It just seems crazy to get these feelings and thoughts coming from other people.

And still if you don't live your life with the understanding that there are these kind of empathetic connections, you do feel crazy as well, cause you have thoughts and emotions running through you all of a sudden which, if you pay attention and have reached a certain level of self awareness, just don't seem your own.

What bugs me is that with some people this connection seems to be online all the time, and the only thing that happens when I don't keep an eye on it, these other thoughts and emotions just sneak in and present themselves as my own.

I guess on a basic level it's still difficult for me to understand why another person's thoughts and emotions should come sneaking into my life experience time and again, why I should be forced to either share another one's life in this way whether I like it or not, or run around with a consciously held up protective psychic shield all the time.

And another thing, in case of believing of having unconsciously shared another one's life experience on such a soul energy level maybe all your life, putting a block up between the two of you consciously does feel a little like being parted from your daemon in the Philip Pullmann books.

And then if it's all about connectedness and being one than putting an effort to separating myself from another soul on a level I can't even understand for real, feels like the last thing to do. Though admittedly it's not always the most pleasant experience to get that sort of inflow, I just feel there must be another and better way to deal with this than to cut yourself of from it.

[Holistic Star]

Hi me.

I know how you feel. I used to get this too. I would pick up people's pain all the time and it would hurt! When I first started learning holistic healing, I would just touch a practice client and burst into tears which wasn't good for me or the client!

I found that as I dealt with my own pain, other people's pain stopped triggering me. I am able to tune in when I choose now, rather than having a bucket load of negative energy squash me every now and again.

You say you are depressed, I was too as a teenager and I think the problem is that real depression gets written off as teenage blues just because you happen to be under 18. Is there anyone who can help you? Does your school have a counselling service? If not, is there a friend or adult in your life that you can confide all your feelings too? Is there anyway we can help on the boards here?

I think you have a great gift and although it feels painful now, if you can learn to channel it and turn it off when you want to you will have an amazing guide to help you understand people in your life. Facing up to what is causing you depression is the first step to take.

wishing you all the best x