Having violent dreams
 

Happy holidays all.

I'm concerned with my dreams, recently they got violent; I'm a very calm person; call me laconic: I don't talk too much, I try to keep things for myself; I don't overreact when someone hurts me, I always think about it, then if I feel like I must tell the person, I do; otherwise, I keep it for myself. I however share a lot with my fiancee; the only person, I think, that really knows what run through a mind like mine.

But I'm the opposite in my dreams; recently a family member hurt me in a message he sent me; I replied that I did not like what he wrote, and we settled the thing. But minutes ago—I just wake up—I was very violent, I even shouted in this dream, a thing I have not done in years; he said he would hit me, and I replied he could try if he was a man. Last week, I bit the ears of someone, it was very frightening.

Why I am violent in my dreams? This is annoying, because my life goal is an easy life; having violent dreams cannot make my life easy.

Hi, nvictor. I think your dreams are a way of making your life easy (or living whatever way of being you want). I think that there are certain internal conflicts that are either too painful or too entrenched in habitual ways of being for you to confront them directly in waking life.

I also think dream imagery and symbolism is very personal. I usually start with looking at how each character in the dream represents a facet of me, and then looking at how those facets are out of harmony. The words that are spoken can be very revealing, too, if you look at them that way. For instance, you might want to look at the way you linked violent behavior and manhood.

You bit someone's ear -- could that have some bearing on a difficulty you're having in being heard, or in listening? Is there something you're doing in your life that you feel stops you from being heard or listening?

Violence in dreams, I think, is a real gift from you to you. It's your subconscious' way of getting your attention, getting something through your thick skull, in a way that is safe.

That said, I'm still trying to figure what all those zombies in my dreams last night are all about. Zombies?

Angela, thanks; the ear part made me realize something :)