Jobs - I hate them

[ellie]

Oh wow, yeah it has been roughly a year. Wow it feels like such a shorter time frame

[lasti]

Originally Posted by Shamou

Circumstances do not determine our degree of happiness... we do...

If a person cannot be happy in his present job... changing it will not help...

Now, I would never suggest that someone should settle for less than he or she could be... but, what I am saying is that circumstances are not the deciding factor in the way we feel...

So you would tolerate in your life everything that is not as good as it could be? What are you doing in your life then?

[Murre]

Originally Posted by Steven Moros

The only reason that someone would want to change, grow and improve is because they are dissatisfied, thus unhappy with their present situation (circumstances). Without dissatisfaction there would be no reason to change. So ellie your dissatisfaction with your present situation (circumstances) is natural and a necessary component in compelling you to change it. You are on the right track, you only need to find out what you want to do, the thing that will make you happy.

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" - Shakespeare

Regarding the aforementioned quote, I wonder whether a slave would agree with Shakespeare, that his situation (circumstances) isn't bad, but that thinking makes it so.

All the best ellie
Steven.

Regarding the Shakespeare quote, I agree with it. But for it to make sense for a slave, I think we need to understand it on a deeper level. The key here in my opinion is to accept what already exists. If you are a slave there is little help in cursing and resisting the current situation. If you happen to be a slave, my advice would be to accept what already is, you can still look for ways to get out of the situation. Metaphorically speaking, if you are already stuck in a pile of mud, instead of cursing and resisting the fact that you are stuck, either accept the situation or do you best ot change it. Making the sitation into a problem or making it a bad or good situation doesn't help much.

I hope you understand my point

[Hyperchiller]

Hey Ellie that's very interesting. To see what you wanted and now that you have what you wanted! It's interesting how you have progressed.

It just goes to show that your experience in the emotion of "I'VE HAD ENOUGH" can be life changing. In your case it was "I've had enough of working for someone else!"

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Shamou

Circumstances do not determine our degree of happiness... we do...

If a person cannot be happy in his present job... changing it will not help...

Now, I would never suggest that someone should settle for less than he or she could be... but, what I am saying is that circumstances are not the deciding factor in the way we feel...

As Victor Frankl said,

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”


Need I say more...???

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I have always liked that victor frankl quote


but victor frankl himself stated that what got him through his life in the concentration camp was knowing that life was asking something from him and that was for him to live so he could write his books esp his speciality -logotherapy