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06-05-2007, 08:33 PM
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For the past 4 years i have a habbit of masturbating (but am still virgin). But recently this has gone very serious stage. Now am not able to concentrate at my work and also cant able to mingle friendly with women. Am mentally depressed due to this habbit. Am really aware of the consequences of this habbit, but still cant get rid of it. Could u guys please help me to get rid of this addiction ?? Regards Janny |
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06-05-2007, 08:58 PM
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One thing intrigues me about this post... you say that you are well aware of the consequences of masturbating... I don't know what BS you have been fed but I have never heard of any bad consequences deriving from masturbation... And the best advice that I can give you to get rid of that habit is... get yourself a girlfriend... . | |
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06-05-2007, 11:46 PM
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masturbation is not bad, it's when it starts affecting aspects of your life, like what is seems to be doing to you, then you have a problem with it, I suggest you go see a doctor and don't be ashame to explain your problem, you're not the first one with it Also if you have an addiction to porn, you should talk about it as well and a girlfriend won't change anyting to your problem, you have to be happy with yourself and not addict to masturbation before you get one Wish you the best Cheers Last edited by Sirene; 06-05-2007 at 11:49 PM. |
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06-06-2007, 12:57 AM
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I dated a guy in college who had a serious problem with masturbation. We only dated for a few weeks and I never had sex with him, because I got freaked out at his constant state of arousal. The night I broke up with him he told me he had masturbated 7 times that day and that he needed help. I helped him get some counseling, but not two weeks later he was dating someone else, so I never followed up on his recovery. But if the problem is chronic, there is help available, and I would venture to say that this is more normal than many men care to admit, so don't feel bad Janny. It's just something you have to deal with in order to have a healthy sex life in the future. |
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06-06-2007, 03:31 AM
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Um... how old are you? Over-masturbation is a weird affliction. I know more than a few guys who almost brag about how often they jerk off in a day. Maybe not 7 times, but at least four or five, so 7 isn't a stretch. These are college guys, who do alright with women. Over masturbation can be a problem, but only if the problem consumes your mind. I don't think it is so much a case of over-stimulation as sexual confusion. What are your opinions of porn and masturbation and sex? Do they conflict with any of your moral values? How do you view your habit? I've been there, and it sucks. Maybe you can't talk to women because you don't know how, in that case don't blame it on jerking off too much and rob yourself of the responsibility. Be a man, and get your brain in order. Go hang out with your guy friends and make sex jokes. Make sure you're making progress in all aspects of your life. Find your purpose. Control your neediness, man. Actual addiction is so uncommon, and I don't believe there is biological cause for something only affected you for four years, and only gets worse recently. IT's in your HEAD. You're depressed, so go for a run, watch Happy Gilmore, drink a couple beers with your friends, stop listening to that sad but deep music, learn to talk with a girl, go talk your mom or sister if you need to see women in a non-porn context. Pump the hardcore Techno and/or Rock out. Wake up dude, you have to help yourself. Reading Material: The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida. |
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06-06-2007, 04:28 AM
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06-06-2007, 12:00 PM
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How about accepting the fact that Masturbation is no big deal and limit one per day  . And change to one per weekly / monthly / yearly according to your wish later. Physical exercise, ignore the thought of Masturbation, Meditation and talking about masturbation seriously with friends will help to take control. |
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06-06-2007, 12:37 PM
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All goals begin at the beginning. If you desire to stop, try to control yourself for even one hour...then two....then a day....then two, etc. This is true for nearly every goal you will encounter. Start by doing that which you can do. |
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06-06-2007, 04:56 PM
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This is my take.. How did this all happen?..or in other words what is the REAL reason you want to masturbate. Well you need to find that out first. After that you need to find out what you really want. Do you want to stop masturbating at all??? or what is healthy for you (mentally)?..or once a week.....etc ....Someone suggested to limit it to one per day and then to a week/month which is also an effective method. Make a plan and then work on sticking to it which will help you develop discipline and self control. I think what you mean by "you cant mingle with women" is either you fantasize having sex with them or you masturbate thinking about them. If I am right, then you need to do some serious mental/behavioral introspection about what kind of beliefs you have conditioned about women inside your subconscious. No dont get a girl friend. That wont help things now.......My 2 cents |
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06-06-2007, 10:08 PM
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From Wikipedia... Compulsive masturbation "Masturbating frequently presents no physical, mental or emotional risk in itself, but masturbation can be used to relieve boredom or stress. In either case, as with any "nervous habit", it is more helpful to consider the causes of the boredom or of the stress, rather than try to repress the masturbation." . |
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06-06-2007, 10:36 PM
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^ You forgot this part There is some discussion between professionals and other interested parties as to the existence or validity of sexual addictions. Nevertheless, there are lists of warning signs such as when sexual activity affects a person's ability to function in everyday life, or is placing them at risk, for example, of pursuing illegal or destructive activities. Very frequent and compulsive masturbation may be seen as a sign of sexual addiction |
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06-06-2007, 10:44 PM
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06-07-2007, 03:07 AM
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Are you sure that you are mentally depressed because of the frequency you masturbate or because masturbation helps you deal with something else (stress, worries.. depression?) ? As you pointed it you seem to think this habit has dreadful consequences (and not masturbation as many here seems to make a shortcut  , although sexual habit (being excessed or not) are more studied and problematic than others for there usually lead to mix a whole lot of different things such as well being, relationships, personal view, etc.). Which I agree with. Habits you can't control invariably cause problems.There are many online advices for helping with masturbation. Are you also a porn addict? I think, you should try to find professional counselling in your city anyway ; onanism isn't as uncommon as one might think. So don't be too harsh on yourself, you deserve to feel better about your relationship with women.. and with yourself. Your body is your friend and you have the right to seek help to help it feel better. A professional counsellor is likely to find out what is the root of your problems or/and give you helpful advices and methods to control what you want to control. Good luck. Last edited by febflake; 06-07-2007 at 03:15 AM. | |
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06-07-2007, 03:41 AM
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 I thing is for sure... if he's no longer posting.. it's not because his habit made him blind...  . | |
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06-07-2007, 07:30 AM
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Hmm... I'm thinking he's a member of the forum, but invented a fake username so he wouldn't be that guy. You know, that guy who likes to rub President Johnson. That guy who chokes the smurf. That fan of the five finger shuffle. Thank you Shamou for the wikipedia entry, it links to this: Wikisaurus:masturbate - Wiktionary I had no idea... |
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06-07-2007, 08:45 AM
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06-07-2007, 04:00 PM
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06-17-2007, 07:05 PM
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Yes it is.But for the married men. | |
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06-17-2007, 07:17 PM
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"Answer: Up to a point, porn is for men what looking through fashion magazines is for women. You can look without buying something. You just enjoy seeing what's out there. It rarely means that the guy is thinking of cheating. In many cases, it's a substitute for cheating because it satisfies his needs for new experiences." . | |
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06-19-2007, 02:10 PM
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