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| After visiting the homeless shelter last semester for poverty awareness week, I decided to try living out of my car for a while. Initially it was going to be for all summer, but instead it's just for a few weeks, as I'll be getting paid to house sit starting starting June 6th. It's just been a few days so far, but it's already been educational. Of course I have more of a cushion than most guys I see on the streets, by having a car and money in the bank, but it's still a change. I go to bed by 10 or 11 because most everything closes by then. My only internet access is the libraries. Initially I wasn't even sure I'd have a place to shower, but I found I can make use of the showers in the men's locker room, and do so every couple days now (compared to twice a day when I had my own place). I'm considering eating at the soup kitchen more often as well, but for now I have coffee and a small meal at McDonald's at about 6 in the morning, where many of the guys that later show up at the soup kitchen can be found, and a later meal at night so I can sleep. I leave my car about as the sun rises, so no one will see me. I find it quite ironic how it's only in doing all this that I've become an early riser A couple nights ago as I arrived at the spot I'd be sleeping I heard a rustling sound. An older white man was going through recycleables looking for cans. He went on for at least 30 minutes, and I fell asleep before he stopped. I felt a lot of empathy for him, while at the same time knowing we're in very different stations of life. My current situation is a temporary one of choice, almost a luxury. I'm not sure I want to know what it's truly like to live without hope. Well, now I have class to head off to ... |
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| Hey, man. That sounds like a great experiment. Can you give me more details on the legal/safety issues? I'm going on an extended road trip later this year, and I don't plan on booking any hotels. I've got no problem with the comfort aspect, but I am a little worried about either getting arrested or car-jacked/robbed/assaulted. Thanks! |
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| If you're going on a roadtrip, I recommend checking out CouchSurfing Sleeping in one's car CAN be a little sketchy. Enforcement and danger varies by the area. Over the summer doing door to door sales in California I became skilled at taking naps most anywhere. One may be better off finding a place to park and then go off somewhere less visible. If there are many trees with few people around at night, a tent hammock could be lovely (and more comfortable than a car seat anyhow). You can use them in areas that may be too rocky or wet for tents, and they can be set up or taken down in a couple minutes. I haven't yet tried this myself, but it looks promising. HENNESSY HAMMOCKS: ultra-light line of jungle hammocks, ultra-comfortable camping hammock /chair/ tent combo |
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| Just for a quick update, it's been a week now and things have gone suprisingly well. For the first time in a while I'm following a very active, early riser schedule. I get up around 6 and go to bed by 11 (sleeping quite well) with a brief nap or two in between, usually on a bench somewhere, with the day starting and ending with an hour or two of simply reading for fun. Spending less time online now, I'm actually driven to study a bit So far this has been a test to reset and see what I really need in order to enjoy my life, trimming away whatever is costing me in time or money without adding much to my quality of life. For the moment, my expenses have effectively been cut in half, while my enjoyment has actually increased After I graduate in about 7 months, I'll be able to fit all my essentials except perhaps a quilt into carry on luggage (on a plane, train, bus, or maybe my bike or back), making it feasible to simply move around to wherever the weather and mood fits me at the time. Right now I could amply support my expenses working 20 hours per week for minimum wage if necessary. Drop the car and it's closer to 12 hours per week. And that's when I'm eating at restaurants most of the time instead of going by the grocery store or soup kitchen. I don't plan on simply lazing about though. Not always at least. I find myself more full energy to actually be doing something than before, for profit or otherwise. Also, I'm not committing to this long term yet. I'm simply overjoyed at knowing this can work for me, at least as a young, single white guy in a nice walkable college town (one of my favorite environments) with currently great weather. |
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| Openeyes, my husband and I use Hennessey Hammocks when we backpack. They are much lighter than traditional tents, with all the stakes and the footprint and the fly and MUCH more comfortable! The hammock can double as a chair, which is comfy for relaxing before it's time to crawl in and drift off to sleep. And much easier to sleep on than the cold hard lumpy ground. Besides sleeping, sitting while backpacking can be quite uncomfortable. It's hard to find a position that supports your back really well, but is also easy on the bottom. Sitting in a hammock is like sitting in a nicely cushioned porch swing The only drawback is that in the cold weather, it's difficult to stay warm without the added insulation of a Therma rest or some other insulating object, which adds weight. |
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| I'm sorry to play devil's advocate, but I just don't get these type of experiments. There's a lot more to being homeless than just not sleeping inside of a house. Homeless people usually don't have a roof period. If it rains they get wet. If it snows they freeze. If they get harrassed by the cops or someone else they have to walk away. They can't drive to the other side of town and stop for a cappuccino on the way there. They can't go to McDonalds at 6:00 am for hot cup of coffee and a McMuffin. You might see them going through the dumpster behind McDonalds, but not inside. Plus, you're going to soup kitchens when you have money in the bank? I hope no actual homeless people end up not getting a meal because you got there first. I know you understand all of this, but I think if you really want to help homeless people, why not volunteer at the soup kitchen instead of eating their food? Or gather up some blankets and take them to the park at night. By having a car, a house, and money in the bank, you can do a lot more for the homeless than by pretending to be like them. This is just like when Deborah Norville spent a night in jail for a television report, or when Tyra Banks donned a fat suit to see what it would be like to be fat. They got in front of the cameras and cried because of their "horrible experiences", but then went back to the lap of luxury, while all the prisoners stayed in jail, and all the fat people got fatter. Unless you're actually in jail, fat, or homeless, you will really never know what it's like -- so by playing this role you're only feeding your own ego thinking that you're doing something great for humanity, when nothing could be further from the truth. I hope you never get the urge to jump from a bridge just to see what attempting suicide feels like! |
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Also, sorry if it wasn't clear in my first post that I realize my situation is radically different from that of homeless people. As the end of my first post said, "I felt a lot of empathy for him, while at the same time knowing we're in very different stations of life. My current situation is a temporary one of choice, almost a luxury. I'm not sure I want to know what it's truly like to live without hope." For me, visiting the local homeless shelters during poverty awareness week woke me up to the fact that I didn't need nearly as many material trappings as I had. It made me want to see how I'd do not living in an apartment with a place nearby to store a ton of stuff. What I'm doing now is more like camping than living a life of quiet desparation. If you saw me you likely wouldn't even suspect anything. Still, for me it's shown me new possibilities, which is a good deal of what I was going for. |
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Your observations are appreciated, openeyes. Keep them coming. |
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| Thanks John. Things have continued to go well. I'm eating better than I have in years, and spending more time around people than ever before, while still having a healthy amount of solitude. A couple weeks ago I saw a bumper sticker that resonated with me: The more you know, the less you need. There's an excellent sense of freedom that comes from knowing that I have all that I need (if not more), and that even if I lost everything I own, I could easily replace it. I likely wouldn't bother getting another car, as it seems superfluous now. My health is one of my greatest assets and I plan to take good care of it, as the body isn't nearly as replaceable as a bike. Until recently, I'd never ridden my bike more than a few miles, mostly using it to go to class or pick up a few groceries. On Wednesday I went 10 miles and it was surprisingly easy and fun. Suddenly I was interested in doing much longer bicycle trips, and I realized that with my current ultralight way of living, about all I'd need is a couple quarts of water, maybe one change of clothes that can easily be hand washed and air dried, and a tent hammock I can set up most anywhere (will likely be ordering one in the next few days, as now I have a fun use for it). This morning I took a 40 mile bicycle trip, and it too was surprisingly easy. I set out at 7:45 am and was back before the restaurant at the local grocery coop was done serving breakfast Now I'm saving up and getting experience so that when I graduate in 7 months I can take at least a couple months to ride around. Europe would be great for it, as so many of the major cities are within a few hundred miles of each other, less than a week's bike ride with good scenery along the way. Soon I plan on volunteering at the local nonprofit bike shop so I'll be more prepared to maintain/fix my own bike as I use it more. |
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| Dude! That sounds like an awesome plan, i think I'll give this a try also, when the opportunity comes. I might consider just working for a year or so, save up all my money... seems like quite a nice way to get out of the rat race and live a healthy fun life, and escape the isolated materialistic hell, you know... enjoy life now instead of when you're old. |
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| A very interesting experiment openeyes. I'm not about to rush out and try it, but I'm happy to learn from your observations. From your comments I can see some comparisons with my experience of travelling around the world with only a backpack and the vaguest of plans. There was such a sense of freedom having only the essential material possessions and being able to go wherever the wind took me without worrying about such things as a mortgage.
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| Great thread openeyes. I did something similar last fall. I lived in my car at a wal-mart parking lot for a month. You can read about it here: Why Work? :: View topic - becoming a hobo (a summary of my experiences is on page two of the thread) Also, here is a fantastic blog by a guy who's lived in his truck for a year and a half! Andy's Truck Adventure! |
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| Nice. I'm curious what made you stop. Were the savings/benefits not worth the tradeoffs to you? Was living out of your car making it more difficult to have a significantly higher paying job (perhaps due to reduced access to showers and a place to store suits)? Last edited by openeyes : 05-29-2007 at 12:32 PM. |
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| I really enjoyed reading this! Thanks for posting. If you get to a place where you *would* like to settle down, you can look into Tiny Houses -- we can do with so much less than we originally think we need! |
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| Wow, awesome thread! I would have never guessed that anyone else had tried this. I did the same thing for ten days when I moved to a new city a few years ago. My favorite tagline back then was, "What some people call a four-door, for me, is a four bedroom."
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