Inferior to my Co-workers

[pollycupcake]

The office I'm working in has about a dozen others in the same job role (across various divisions) around the same age/stage (i.e. recent graduates up to about 4 years experience, in our 20s) and every one of them seems to be AMAZING not just at work, but at other things in life.

A few examples -
Chris - Age 25 - Masters degree, athletic and could be a male model (tall with gorgeous face and excellent body)
Alexandra - Age 23 - The "popular girl" - Super social, and also has a masters degree and good figure. AND an excellent wadrobe.
Charlotte - Age 24 - Double degree, was Head Girl at her high school, social and popular

Need I go on.....They're all super talented, great at being social (which I envy because I'm more shy and reserved), do well at sports and other things outside of work and have great degrees.

I try my hardest, but I just feel like I'll never measure up....=(

[Indiana]

Polly, the trouble with looking at others and deciding that they're 'better' than you is that you'll also look at others and decide they're 'worse' than you.

In order for you to make up for your feelings of inadequacy to some people, you'll look at others and quietly think, "Well, I may not be as gorgeous as Alexandra, but I'm certainly better-looking than that fat cow Jennifer." Or you'll tell yourself, "I might not be as sporty as Charlotte, but I am much more intelligent than Ben, who can't even use a comma properly."

This is a very fast way to shrivel your soul.

Your co-workers may have more advanced degrees than you, but you are all doing the same job, no? So what does it matter?

Your co-workers may be highly sociable, but if you prefer more low-key events and intimate friendships, how is one better or worse than the other?

Jealousy leads to resentment, and that will ruin you quicker than any difference in looks, or the letters you can write after your name, or the ability to tell jokes at parties.

If you are unhappy with aspects of your own life, or feel you could do better for yourself, work on those areas. But do it for your own satisfaction, not out of some nebulous sense of competition. In five years you probably won't be working with any of those people, and may never see or speak to them again in your life. What good will your simmering resentment do then?

[dillydot]

I'd look at it like this -- wow, I am in this room with these amazing people! i know they are all reflections of myself, and I like what I see. So, I am now accepting that everything I see in them, is in me also, and congratulating myself on showing up! And now that I feel good about myself and my role here, I can take advantage of all the intelligence and experience in this room to learn and grow and move forward in the path that is my divine plan, and enjoy connecting with colleagues and possibly new friends as well! Hmm... maybe she'll let me borrow that awesome skirt she was wearing for my presentation next week... What grace!

[Ubermensch]

Originally Posted by Indiana

Polly, the trouble with looking at others and deciding that they're 'better' than you is that you'll also look at others and decide they're 'worse' than you.

In order for you to make up for your feelings of inadequacy to some people, you'll look at others and quietly think, "Well, I may not be as gorgeous as Alexandra, but I'm certainly better-looking than that fat cow Jennifer." Or you'll tell yourself, "I might not be as sporty as Charlotte, but I am much more intelligent than Ben, who can't even use a comma properly."

This is a very fast way to shrivel your soul.

Your co-workers may have more advanced degrees than you, but you are all doing the same job, no? So what does it matter?

Your co-workers may be highly sociable, but if you prefer more low-key events and intimate friendships, how is one better or worse than the other?

Jealousy leads to resentment, and that will ruin you quicker than any difference in looks, or the letters you can write after your name, or the ability to tell jokes at parties.

If you are unhappy with aspects of your own life, or feel you could do better for yourself, work on those areas. But do it for your own satisfaction, not out of some nebulous sense of competition. In five years you probably won't be working with any of those people, and may never see or speak to them again in your life. What good will your simmering resentment do then?

Wise, wise words.

In other words, "don't be jelly".

[cheesedip1]

Do you like talking to them? Are they generally nice people?