I Still Can't Find a Job

[MariconesUnited]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Maricones United,

Why do you call yourself that? Are you gay? Isn't that a derogatory term in Spanish for faggot?

Yes I'm gay. I'm taking back the ''M'' word just like black people took back the ''N'' word. My dad disagrees. And that makes my will stronger lol.

Originally Posted by CroMagna

What do you mean by "don't let your clients dictate what you must and mustn't do?"

And why doesn't 6 clients a day sound like a reasonable estimate? Too much?

What I mean is that you need to set your limits for what you will and will not do and stick to them no matter what. Self-respect is crucial to an escort. Just because your clients have the penis and the money doesn't mean that they can treat you however they want and get away with it! And protect yourself no matter what.

6 clients per day just seems like a lot of physical labor to me. I suppose that depends on what you will do specifically with them. My point is this: pace yourself. Health is more important than money.

Health is more important than money!!

I worked as a caretaker last summer for an aging comedian. The guy had known fame and he was wealthy. He was stuck in his bedroom because he was old and couldn't move much without assistance. Needless to say, that experience opened my eyes wide open to this truth that bears repeating yet again.

Health is more important than money!!

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by lycan

It is not illegal to be an escort.

There are ways other than this to make money from sex.

It's not?? I just saw a police show where escorts were arrested who had put ads up on the internet. They were only 17 and 19!

What other ways?

As for my diet, well, it's going. I keep slipping so I don't think I've lost weight. But starting today, I'm committed to sticking with it full force. Thanks for checking up on me. Today I ate a bowl of chicken soup and a sandwich. That's all I'm eating today. I will keep track of my food here to keep myself accountable. So to recap: if you eat between 200 and 1,000 calories a day you'll lose the weight?

[straysweeper]

Guthrio, I bow to your masterful use of language and insight.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

So to recap: if you eat between 200 and 1,000 calories a day you'll lose the weight?

You don't need 200 calories. If you eat less than 1,000 calories, you will lose weight. How fast depends on things like your size and your activities. You haven't lost any weight at all?

[guthrio]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

Guthrio, I bow to your masterful use of language and insight.

Straysweeper,

I thank you for your compliment....as I bow to your own insight of the deep meaning behind the language....of your signoff phrase.

[straysweeper]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

It's not?? I just saw a police show where escorts were arrested who had put ads up on the internet. They were only 17 and 19!

What other ways?

As for my diet, well, it's going. I keep slipping so I don't think I've lost weight. But starting today, I'm committed to sticking with it full force. Thanks for checking up on me. Today I ate a bowl of chicken soup and a have a sandwich. That's all I'm eating today. I will keep track of my food here to keep myself accountable. So to recap: if you eat between 200 and 1,000 calories a day you'll lose the weight?

My understanding is thus: Prostitution is Illegal. Escorting is a way around it, where you a 'paid' to be with them such as dates etc. Anything sexual is supposed to be considered consensual. As much as it is policed there are also ways around it.

Higher Paid Escorts are portrayed that the higher level ones subscribe to the emotional, psychological aspect of sex as much or more than the physical aspect of it.

As far as weight loss. I've read that if you don't eat a certain number of calories per day, your body will go into starvation mode which will prevent you from losing weight. I do not subscribe to the starvation methods. What I subscribe to is, for my size eating between 1800 to 2300 with with splurge days to jump up to 3000 so my body doesn't get too used to set calories. While also doing aerobic at between 60% to 80% of my heart rate max for at least 60 minutes up to 90 minutes a day 3 to 5 times a week. (Included up to a 10 to 15 min warm up & cool down depending on how long you go). Doing this I've lost from 290-295 down to currently 263 since September. (I'm 75 inches in height btw)

Building muscle helps raise your resting metabolic weight. At my peak 4 years ago, I was able to consume on average 3k to upwards of 5k calories per day and still lost weight going from 233 to 217 in 5 weeks.

PS:
Some out there subscribe that weight is also a buffer for toxins in both diet and lifestyle, so when you start go alkaline you will no longer need the extra weight and will lose it faster.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

Higher Paid Escorts are portrayed that the higher level ones subscribe to the emotional, psychological aspect of sex as much or more than the physical aspect of it.

What do you mean?

As far as weight loss, lycan said starvation mode is myth. He said not eating is the best way to lose weight. He said not to bother exercising because it takes up energy and doesn't burn that many calories. I find that after 30 minutes of jogging, I only burn 130 calories. So I'm following his method.

I'm watching a show interviewing Moonlight Bunny Ranch prostitutes. I envy them. They live in a beautiful ranch with amazing rooms, wear sexy clothes, look highly bangable, and can make half a million dollars having sex. That's what I want for myself.

[Laurenaus]

cro magna from most of the threads you leave up here your real interest is sex work you sort of entertain ideas of certain careers but the common thread is you want to have a lucrative job in the adult industry. If you're so intent on getting a mainstream career why not just do freelance work here and there but really dive into the sex thing? You can probably make bucko bucks being a high class call girl and then you can build a comfy nest egg and just retire early.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by Laurenaus

cro magna from most of the threads you leave up here your real interest is sex work you sort of entertain ideas of certain careers but the common thread is you want to have a lucrative job in the adult industry. If you're so intent on getting a mainstream career why not just do freelance work here and there but really dive into the sex thing? You can probably make bucko bucks being a high class call girl and then you can build a comfy nest egg and just retire early.

You're right. I've been exploring mainstream careers, mostly because it was the thing to do, but the salient, constant factor has been my interest in sex work. It would make me much happier than a mainstream 9-5. Computer programming is boro-snoro and I wouldn't even be considering it if it weren't for the money. Plus I hear so many bad things about so many other types of jobs, like the high burnout rate of social work and the fact that computer programmers have to constantly learn new languages to avoid getting fired. I've heard bad things about sex work but they don't apply to me, things like being uncomfortable with casual sex.

I think I've found my passion. I immediately became excited when I read your post. The thought of being a high priced call girl is like a dream. Do you know how I could go about doing that? Otherwise I'll ask around.

Yay!! Thanks!! I feel at peace now.

[Laurenaus]

hi cro! well I'm happy my post resonated with you. There's a very informative forum called StripperWeb where you can post in the Other Work section asking how you could go about working at the upscale type brothels and I'm sure there's other good resources or forums as well but StripperWeb is a nice starting point.

[CroMagna]

Hi Laurenaus!

Thanks for the info. Are you talking about Nevada brothels or in any area, like the DC Area where I am?

[Laurenaus]

hmm im not sure where there would be brothels in your area but im sure the members on the forum could point you in the right direction for that

I'd also use the search function under "Other Work" and use words like brothel, upscale, high class, escort cuz there's already a lot of good information on there

[CroMagna]

Thanks. I ready to go full force with this. A lot of the girls post their ads online and I'm concerned about law enforcement. I just saw a police show today where girls who had put up ads on the net were busted by the cops. For one of them, it was her very first call. I wonder if there's a way around this. For example, I could only charge guys I know through other guys. That way I'm sure they're not cops.

[Laurenaus]

there's a thread on there on how to be careful and screen properly, doing IN CALLS etc plus some seasoned escorts u can message

[straysweeper]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

What do you mean?

Think about it, most people have learned not to accept themselves and their sexuality. So, either they look outside their current relationship for their more obscure desires to get more variety or validation. Something I've come across recently said something about 'talking' a women into multiple orgasms. All this pointing that as much as sex is a physical activity, but has major psychological aspects. What turns someone on may turn off someone else.

Another example is the typical power roll reversal. Some men in power want to give up the power in the bedroom.

Originally Posted by CroMagna

As far as weight loss, lycan said starvation mode is myth. He said not eating is the best way to lose weight. He said not to bother exercising because it takes up energy and doesn't burn that many calories. I find that after 30 minutes of jogging, I only burn 130 calories. So I'm following his method.

Is starvation mode a myth? I am not qualified to say. My thoughts are this though, not eating is not sustainable. Your body needs things in order to provide the energy for what you wish to do. That said, working out provides other benefits like increasing cardio and heart health. What a machine says your burning and what your actually burning may not be in the same zip code. Go with how you feel doing it, versus afterwards.

If you don't like jogging, looking into Yoga, I've heard Bikram Yoga can burn up to 800 to 1100 cal in 90 minutes plus does alot of sweating that aids detoxing etc. It will also help tone and improve flexibility.

Originally Posted by CroMagna

I'm watching a show interviewing Moonlight Bunny Ranch prostitutes. I envy them. They live in a beautiful ranch with amazing rooms, wear sexy clothes, look highly bangable, and can make half a million dollars having sex. That's what I want for myself.

I have felt, yet wasn't sure, that you've been seeking to give yourself permission to explore this. I admire your courage, self acceptance and confidence in your sexuality. It is something I struggle with myself

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

I admire your courage, self acceptance and confidence in your sexuality. It is something I struggle with myself

Thank you. Let me know if you need help in your struggle.

[CroMagna]

I signed up to Stripperweb and posted the following:

"Hi Ladies,

I'm a stripper who's interested in escorting. I was wondering: do I have to have an internet presence as far as attracting clientele or can I just go by word of mouth? I'm much more comfortable with word of mouth because I know that it's very easy to get busted by LE [law enforcement] if you post ads online. The only thing is, the guys my friends know are cheap and would only pay like $150 an hour. But if I get 6 clients a day at $150 a hour, I'll make $200,000 in a year. It's better than going to jail.

Thanks!"

[Laurenaus]

lol i like your member name on there. Good first post but I'd definitely look through the all the escorting threads cuz there's so much good information on there about how to get customers, how to be discreet, how to screen.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by Laurenaus

lol i like your member name on there. Good first post but I'd definitely look through the all the escorting threads cuz there's so much good information on there about how to get customers, how to be discreet, how to screen.

lol thanks will do

[MagicalRealist]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

I wish escorting were legal but that would mean more competition. If I go through with it, I plan to only involve people I know rather than putting myself on the internet and getting busted.

I'm the one who voted for the escorting option. Because frankly, I think that's what you really want to do (at least at this time in your life). And if you're willing to take reasonable precautions--such as starting out with clients you already know and trust--I think it could work.

Taking care of six clients a day sounds like a recipe for burnout, though. So maybe ease into it, and gradually find a number of clients you can easily handle, while still having time to rest and pursue other interests and educational opportunities?

Maybe setting up a webcam and doing live sessions that way would be an option for you? I have no idea how to go about doing that, but that's what Google's for.

If I didn't have to worry about money, I would do what I'm doing now, reading, watching documentaries and learning about politics, atheism, science, psychology, etc., giving advice, interacting with likeminded people, and hooking up.

If you're okay with hooking up and making money at it, you can still do all the other things you enjoy in your spare time. Just take care of yourself, okay?

[MariconesUnited]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

If you don't like jogging, looking into Yoga, I've heard Bikram Yoga can burn up to 800 to 1100 cal in 90 minutes plus does alot of sweating that aids detoxing etc. It will also help tone and improve flexibility.

I will vouch for Yoga as well

Pilates are also a great way of targeting those muscles you would not with a regular gym workout. Great for toning and flexibility too.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

As far as weight loss. I've read that if you don't eat a certain number of calories per day, your body will go into starvation mode which will prevent you from losing weight.

That is a myth.

I do not subscribe to the starvation methods. What I subscribe to is, for my size eating between 1800 to 2300 with with splurge days to jump up to 3000 so my body doesn't get too used to set calories.

She is a short woman. If she eats that much, even without the splurge days, she is likely to gain weight.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

My thoughts are this though, not eating is not sustainable. Your body needs things in order to provide the energy for what you wish to do.

This is the purpose of fat cells. To supply the body with energy in the form of fatty acids. You do not need to eat your energy.

[lycan]

If your dream is to be a high class escort, feed the dream. Use the good feelings you get from this idea to help you in taking care of your body and mind. Feed this fantasy into your mind until it becomes who you are.

[Lioness]

Originally Posted by lycan

This is the purpose of fat cells. To supply the body with energy in the form of fatty acids. You do not need to eat your energy.

Your body may be breaking down fat for energy. But I know from experience, this doesn't reduce hunger and cravings. One has to rely on will power. Very hard to do for an extended period of time.

Have you actually had lasting success with a low-cal diet yourself?

[straysweeper]

Lycan, I'm tall so yeah, 1800 to 2300 would not work for a female, little own a small one. All I an say is what has worked for me.

As or the myths or not again, I cant say. Fat will provide energy yeah, I'm all over that with the Stu Mittleman and Slow Burn. Yet, energy also comes from chemistry. Vitamins, Minerals, Amino Acids, etc.

Gabriel Method talks about when you get hungry after eating, its your bodies way of saying your not getting something that you need.

Those that I've learned that have really lost weight and kept it off, usually make exercise a priority in their lives. Strength and Aerobic. To do more you have to fuel more.

Sex will take a lot of energy and have its own sets of nutrition. Not to mention staying well hydrated!!!

[lycan]

Originally Posted by Lioness

Your body may be breaking down fat for energy. But I know from experience, this doesn't reduce hunger and cravings. One has to rely on will power. Very hard to do for an extended period of time.

Which is why my main advice is to find something pleasurable and focus on it. The hunger mechanism is primarily psychological until the person reaches a low bodyfat level. If you take away all flavor from an overweight person's diet for example, they will automaticaly start eating less than 500 calories a day until they are at a normal weight. That is because they do not eat out of hunger, but out of a mix of boredom and habit. The so-called hunger does go away as the body adjusts to the new eating habit, until it is no longer a sustainable habit (they have already burned off their excess energy stored in their fat cells and the body is afraid of reaching actual starvation).

Have you actually had lasting success with a low-cal diet yourself?

Yes.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

Gabriel Method talks about when you get hungry after eating, its your bodies way of saying your not getting something that you need.

That is possible. Doesn't mean that what you need is calories. It is also more likely that the feeling of hunger is actually disguised boredom.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by MagicalRealist

I'm the one who voted for the escorting option. Because frankly, I think that's what you really want to do (at least at this time in your life). And if you're willing to take reasonable precautions--such as starting out with clients you already know and trust--I think it could work.

Taking care of six clients a day sounds like a recipe for burnout, though. So maybe ease into it, and gradually find a number of clients you can easily handle, while still having time to rest and pursue other interests and educational opportunities?

Maybe setting up a webcam and doing live sessions that way would be an option for you? I have no idea how to go about doing that, but that's what Google's for.


If you're okay with hooking up and making money at it, you can still do all the other things you enjoy in your spare time. Just take care of yourself, okay?

Thanks babe. I'll be careful.

[CroMagna]

Update:

I just embarked upon the research phase. I signed up for Stripperweb and have gotten feedback. I also browsed Eros.com. I need to learn about the screening process as I'm very much in the dark about that. I feel very relieved to escape wage slavery and doing what I hate but on some level I still feel like this is a pipedream.

I hate how the media and society are against prostitution and "selling your body for money" for no logical reason. A lot of prostitutes give the adult industry a bad name by making it seem like they hate their jobs and by doing drugs. It makes women who don't have what it takes to make it in the industry, because they're unattractive and lack charisma, etc., feel like they're superior because they have normal "respectable" (boring) jobs.

I admire Cami Parker of Bunny Ranch. She's my idol. She's a goddess and I want to be just like her.

I'm on Day 1 of Lycan's Diet. I feel better knowing that it worked for him. I think it can work for me. My last fattening meal was at 5 am, one chicken wing and a few fries. I'm not eating again until much later and it will be healthy, probably chicken soup. I plan to lose all the weight in 4 months, so by mid-April/early May.

I'm scared to have an internet presense as far as posting pics and advertising online. I can't afford to go to jail. Do you think it's better to go by the people I know? The problem is they're cheap and aren't willing to pay $300/hr, the suggested minimum rate on Stripperweb.