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Clint Cora · 12-06-2011, 12:13 AM

We hear so much about the emergence of life coaches these days. Will you ever use a life coach and if so, what are would you want coaching on?

If you have already used a life coach, what was your experience like?

DANDUNGAN · 12-06-2011, 12:25 AM

I've engaged a life coach, Marilyn Sargent, in California. She has helped me in several ways.

If I have questions at work, I ask her first. She helps me clarify the question and find appropriate ways to present it at work. My communication with the CEO have improved.

She helped me heal from child abuse. She helped me learn to start loving and respecting myself.

I could go on, but I imagine you see how useful working with her has been.

I paid her $150 per hour, and it has been well worth it.

I thought that was way too much money to spend at first, but now I realize the value.

Prinie · 12-06-2011, 01:38 PM

I use to want a life coach and I've had a lot of people come into my life and try to be my life coach. It never worked and I found myself lost and confused.

I understand now that my daily life is my coach.

learnalifetime · 12-07-2011, 10:41 AM

I've contacted a life coach once, but never made an appointment. I thought that I would learn more if I would be my own coach.

Now it's 2 years later and I changed my mind. I think it's better to have people surrounding you that can help and support your, than when you do it alone. It doesn't have to be a life coach, it could as well be some kind of mastermind group about personal growth.

Apresto · 12-07-2011, 11:44 AM

Before accepting or getting a personal life coach in my opinion you should figure out if you really have the need of a life coach or a friend. If it's the second, you shouldn't seek for life coaching rather than having a good time.
If you decide that coaching is what you need it's best to find one who's background doesn't feature only life coaching. Like if his/hers whole life was giving life lessons to others, where has he/she learned all that(by sitting at home reading books?). Life is about living

wanzulfikri · 12-07-2011, 11:50 AM

So, life coach is a coach that guides you through life? But what about experience, isn't that a life coach as well?

Apresto · 12-07-2011, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by wanzulfikri

So, life coach is a coach that guides you through life? But what about experience, isn't that a life coach as well?

Sure, but the idea is those who have more experience than others to protect or warn them so they don't make the same mistakes, or better have similar success

Prinie · 12-07-2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Apresto

Sure, but the idea is those who have more experience than others to protect or warn them so they don't make the same mistakes, or better have similar success

That makes sense. Finding people who have lived life a little longer than you have who can help push you along your path. Hopefully those that do find a life coach will maintain a sense of independence and individuality.

BillyTheAdult · 12-07-2011, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Clint Cora

We hear so much about the emergence of life coaches these days. Will you ever use a life coach and if so, what are would you want coaching on?

If you have already used a life coach, what was your experience like?

I would be interested in using one for several issues but from what I can tell they are outrageously expensive and honestly if I need coaching, chances are that I can't afford one.

I personally can't afford one. No question.

Cochonette · 12-07-2011, 02:40 PM

A coworker / friend of mine is a life coach. I was feeling down a few days ago at work and told him, so he offered to do a free coaching session with me. I wanted to postpone it because I didn't expect it to be helpful, based on how we had interacted before as friends... I mean, I thought he was cool and such, but not that he had really helped me emotionally with anything. But I was very impressed, in fact, and he did help me. He mostly told me things I already "knew" and had thought about time and again, but the way he went about it just made it stick in a way it hadn't been sticking. That was better than any of the two dozen or more therapy sessions I've had.

He costs $25-$75, which is not bad for a life coach... he is not doing it as a main source of income at this point, so it works for him. It costs me $30 for three weeks of therapy, so for the value he actually costs a lot less than therapy. I think that I'm getting a better value for therapy because it's only $10/session, but the sessions are worthless, so no. I'd be willing to pay for it to have someone to keep me on track because sometimes I lose track.

It's kind of weird because the thing he did tell me are things I'd think the right person could easily offer me just as a friend. But sometimes you don't have that friend, so you're willing to pay for it. Eventually I want to be that friend for myself, an efficient and reliable self-coach. Having someone else coach me, I think, is a good way to learn how to do it.

wanzulfikri · 12-07-2011, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Prinie

That makes sense. Finding people who have lived life a little longer than you have who can help push you along your path. Hopefully those that do find a life coach will maintain a sense of independence and individuality.

I forgot that people who are experienced are EXPERIENCES themselves. Thanks for the reminder.

BillyTheAdult · 12-07-2011, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Cochonette

He costs $25-$75, which is not bad for a life coach... he is not doing it as a main source of income at this point, so it works for him.

If I could get it for this kind of money $25-$50 an hour and I was seeing real results I would jump on it. When I have looked into in the past cost of anywhere from $300-$1000 for a relatively short session seem to be pretty normal. I feel like for that kind of money I could be trained as an NLP practitioner or a certified life coach for a just a bit more.

Cochonette · 12-07-2011, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by BillyTheAdult

If I could get it for this kind of money $25-$50 an hour and I was seeing real results I would jump on it. When I have looked into in the past cost of anywhere from $300-$1000 for a relatively short session seem to be pretty normal. I feel like for that kind of money I could be trained as an NLP practitioner or a certified life coach for a just a bit more.

Right. Well, I imagine he will cost that much at some point. He is in his late 20s and not professionally trained, as far as I know. He's currently applying to grad school to study something on relationships, which is what he specializes in. He said he also plans to enroll in a coaching certification program. But he is already good at what he does, better than my therapist who is a PhD candidate. All that matters to me right now is that he is successfully coaching me to grow as a person.

Clint Cora · 12-07-2011, 09:35 PM

Probably important to make sure that each life coach will have the experience in areas that you want help in - I just can't imagine that a life coach will be effective in all areas so it's important to make sure there is a good fit.

As for costs, one thing to justify them is to weigh it against the cost of not improving in the areas you want. At least the benefits you get from any coach for that matter will last a lifetime compared to an expensive night out which will last you only as long as it takes to get that hangover wear off!

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Cochonette Family Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 3,216	A coworker / friend of mine is a life coach. I was feeling down a few days ago at work and told him, so he offered to do a free coaching session with me. I wanted to postpone it because I didn't expect it to be helpful, based on how we had interacted before as friends... I mean, I thought he was cool and such, but not that he had really helped me emotionally with anything. But I was very impressed, in fact, and he did help me. He mostly told me things I already "knew" and had thought about time and again, but the way he went about it just made it stick in a way it hadn't been sticking. That was better than any of the two dozen or more therapy sessions I've had. He costs $25-$75, which is not bad for a life coach... he is not doing it as a main source of income at this point, so it works for him. It costs me $30 for three weeks of therapy, so for the value he actually costs a lot less than therapy. I think that I'm getting a better value for therapy because it's only $10/session, but the sessions are worthless, so no. I'd be willing to pay for it to have someone to keep me on track because sometimes I lose track. It's kind of weird because the thing he did tell me are things I'd think the right person could easily offer me just as a friend. But sometimes you don't have that friend, so you're willing to pay for it. Eventually I want to be that friend for myself, an efficient and reliable self-coach. Having someone else coach me, I think, is a good way to learn how to do it. Last edited by Cochonette; 12-07-2011 at 03:03 PM.

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12-06-2011, 12:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
DANDUNGAN Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Sylmar, CA Posts: 195	I've engaged a life coach, Marilyn Sargent, in California. She has helped me in several ways. If I have questions at work, I ask her first. She helps me clarify the question and find appropriate ways to present it at work. My communication with the CEO have improved. She helped me heal from child abuse. She helped me learn to start loving and respecting myself. I could go on, but I imagine you see how useful working with her has been. I paid her $150 per hour, and it has been well worth it. I thought that was way too much money to spend at first, but now I realize the value.

12-06-2011, 01:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
Prinie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 159	I use to want a life coach and I've had a lot of people come into my life and try to be my life coach. It never worked and I found myself lost and confused. I understand now that my daily life is my coach.

12-07-2011, 10:41 AM	#4 (permalink)
learnalifetime Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 65	I've contacted a life coach once, but never made an appointment. I thought that I would learn more if I would be my own coach. Now it's 2 years later and I changed my mind. I think it's better to have people surrounding you that can help and support your, than when you do it alone. It doesn't have to be a life coach, it could as well be some kind of mastermind group about personal growth.

12-07-2011, 11:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
Apresto Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 78	Before accepting or getting a personal life coach in my opinion you should figure out if you really have the need of a life coach or a friend. If it's the second, you shouldn't seek for life coaching rather than having a good time. If you decide that coaching is what you need it's best to find one who's background doesn't feature only life coaching. Like if his/hers whole life was giving life lessons to others, where has he/she learned all that(by sitting at home reading books?). Life is about living

12-07-2011, 11:50 AM	#6 (permalink)
wanzulfikri Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Malaysia Posts: 184	So, life coach is a coach that guides you through life? But what about experience, isn't that a life coach as well?

12-07-2011, 09:35 PM	#14 (permalink)
Clint Cora Family Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Mississauga, On Canada Posts: 1,502	Probably important to make sure that each life coach will have the experience in areas that you want help in - I just can't imagine that a life coach will be effective in all areas so it's important to make sure there is a good fit. As for costs, one thing to justify them is to weigh it against the cost of not improving in the areas you want. At least the benefits you get from any coach for that matter will last a lifetime compared to an expensive night out which will last you only as long as it takes to get that hangover wear off!

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