has anyone found a way to be more confident in their self-regulation ability?

[Marund]

like did you used to not care but started to care a lot and got really good at working tons?


i don't have horrible work-ethic but its not as good as i need either

i keep trying to get to a certain level it feels like im never accomplishing as much as i want

i am taking a break this semester /teaching myself

honestly i have amazed myself in some ways

still i HATED my old job and had to quit -- was over-worked and under-paid -- coming back from it you cant focus on anything. so im learning something new (something called rigging which is going to be better)
also im a college student btw


has anyone found ways to run businesses and never stop? where before you were used to working on a time-slot and now you make your own time slot? i need tips

besides keeping a schedule
i suck at keeping my own schedule
if i say im going to work from 8 AM to 6 it can be 2 to 12 am honestly wtf

tbh im good at doing homework and clocking in but working from home is bizarre and feels like theres no gravity.

mostly i can nail myself down, but not when i intended to. even when i have no distractions. i go outside or find myself walking hte dog
wtf

okay so lemme know

[CoolBee]

When I quit full-time work and moved overseas, after the first few weeks of getting the electricity and phones sorted and that kind of thing, I began to resent getting to sundown without having 'achieved' anything and was finding it stressful just messing about all day.

So, here's what worked for me:

I decided to call myself Oldbags Amalgamated MegaCorp plc.
Decided I would do 30 hours 'work' a week - and defined what I would include as 'work'. I thought about my last fulltime job and all the things I had to do round the edges like housework, messing about on forums etc were NOT allowed to count as work.
So WORK included studying my coaching qualifications, working on my business website, learning Arabic. I was also allowed to include NOT MORE THAN 30 mins a day of email and forum checking - even if I spent 12 hours LOL.
Every 30 minutes, I would then write down what I had been doing and 'departmentalize' it eg if I were doing budgets Finance Department, if I were doing CV or similar HR Department, installing new software for business purposes IT Department, working with a client 'Core Business' and so on and so forth.
It took me about 3 weeks to actually get up to doing 30 hours a week altogether (spread anyhow!). I also enforced 2 days 'off' per week to suit my schedule.
It really worked well for me for several months until I became much better at managing my own time in a more productive way.
I also made a point of dressing properly for work! And then I would have 'dress down Friday'. Also, having 1-1 meetings with myself, and then there was the day I gave myself a written warning LOL. 'Away days' for strategic thinking when I would work on the couch instead of in the office....

[jbsmith]

Yes, I've made some pretty big changes in my life over the last 10-years in this area...specifically what helped me to have more focus and self-discipline was:

1. Re-visiting to make sure what I was trying to accomplish (my priorities) were in line with a BIG why in my life. That is, there had to be a profound, emotional desire that powered my goals and plan...that makes a huge difference.

2. Working backward from my purpose to set goals, then working backward from goals to set a plan...so it's all linked

3. That I recognized and then deal with internal obstacles that get in the way (sabotage) progress....this is a constant battle, but fear, or some sort of expectation of pain is usually behind these self-sabotage thoughts and behaviors. Not perfect, but many of these are now under control

4. Review each day to reinforce the picture of outcome from accomplishing my goals...this keeps things fresh in my mind

Finally - another thing I found very useful is that I made SURE to make progress each day (even if it was the smallest thing) toward the important things to achieving my goals. No cop-outs and no substituting meaningless things for meaningful actions....by and large this means every day I make progress. Some days it doesn't feel like as much, there you need to have faith that these "low" days will add up to big breakthroughs - which they always do.

Jeff

[Ronnie Brown]

The primary strategies that helped me build confidence were keeping focused on my priorities (what I felt NEEDED to be done each day in order for me to feel accomplished, as if I used my time wisely).

I left the prison environment back in July - as an officer, not an inmate - and did so in order to pursue self-employment. I found out I was a lot less self-disciplined than I originally thought!

Seems the greatest obstacle to overcome when moving from a typical "9 to 5" to self-employment (especially home-based) is self-regulation, time management, and staying disciplined in structure.

When you have no one telling you when to begin work, when to stop and take breaks - as well as how long those breaks are to be - and when to stop working for the day, it proves daunting to do it yourself. Especially because no one is looking over your shoulder.

One of the greatest benefits of being self-employed is (in my opinion), the freedom to choose when I wake up, when I work, and when I don't work; however, when I went from a typical job to self-employment, I virtually lost all sense of self-discipline, because I was used to others structuring my life around me with the pressure of supervision and the imminence of loss of income and "job security" if I didn't abide by a structured, scheduled routine.

That fear was no longer there when I left my job. Making that transition is tough, for sure. But it is feasible.

Months later, I'm finally learning what works best for me, and that is generally knowing before I go to bed at night what I need to do for the next day, what my most important and valuable work will be, then focusing on that ABOVE ALL ELSE, no matter what crops up.

Time-blocking and sticking to a strict schedule of checking and responding to emails/ correspondence, taking/ returning phone calls, revising my website, writing my book, writing on my blog, making contacts to potential affiliate partners, etc. are things that need done on a weekly, sometimes daily basis.

So I plan for those things and prioritize them, and make them definite goals. Definiteness of purpose can't be overemphasized as far as I'm concerned.

Additionally, I've found it immensely helpful to get over the "I don't feel like it" or the "I'm just not in the mood" syndromes. They are excuses for not doing work that needs done and will ruin your day and business efforts if you allow them to. Gaining control over feelings and emotions is imperative for me to have a productive day.

No matter what happens, I condition my mind with a positive energy first thing in the morning - irrespective of which "side of the bed" I wake up on! That way I'm not tempted to allow any little stimulus to throw me off course and interrupt my focus.

We work good when we feel good. We work our best when we feel great! Likewise, the true is for feeling bad and working/ acting bad; making bad/ poor choices!

Gain control over how you feel and be sure to focus on the most important things that NEED done from day to day. Eventually you WILL get into the habit of doing them effortlessly if you persist.

Best,

- Ronnie

[Rimuel]

Please answer these two questions:

1. Which set describe you more?

Set A

- I often show up late at work/school/appointments.
- I prefer to start projects.
- Work should be play.
- I have difficulty making some decisions.
- Why are there so many rules to follow in life?
- Plans are changeable, even at the last minute.
- I prefer to have many options available to me.

Set B

- I often show up on time at work/school/appointments.
- I prefer to finish projects.
- There is a clear line between work and play. We should work first, then play.
- We need many rules to follow in life.
- We should make plans that account for almost every situation, and we should stick to them.
- I like to have things settled once and for all.


2. How much more do you prefer the set more than the other?

A) A little
B) Somewhat
C) Very much