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gloci · 11-29-2011, 10:42 PM

Ok I started a competition today with my friend to see who could go the longest without doing it. The last time I lasted 6+ weeks.

Before today I usually did it quite a bit, even reaching high score such as 5 a night. I did try to give up but I used willpower instead of competition.

Anyone wanna join? I don't know about over the internet, but in real life I went from doing it once per day to none at all for six plus weeks because I was competitive.

CroMagna · 11-29-2011, 10:50 PM

Why do you want to stop masturbating? It's healthy, it relieves stress, and it doesn't result in unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Albert Ellis the psychologist and father of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy said that refraining for masturbating can lead to neuroses.

gloci · 11-29-2011, 11:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Why do you want to stop masturbating? It's healthy, it relieves stress, and it doesn't result in unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Albert Ellis the psychologist and father of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy said that refraining for masturbating can lead to neuroses.

I have had the best of both worlds and I can say from personal experience that non masturbation is a more fufilling option. I am much more driven towards acheiving stuff when I dont, and when I do masturbate, I start to lose progress with my studies and goals

gloci · 11-29-2011, 11:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Why do you want to stop masturbating? It's healthy, it relieves stress, and it doesn't result in unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Albert Ellis the psychologist and father of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy said that refraining for masturbating can lead to neuroses.

I have had the best of both worlds and I can say from personal experience that non masturbation is a more fufilling option. I am much more driven towards acheiving stuff when I dont, and when I do masturbate, I start to lose progress with my studies and goals

how long have you ever went without it?

CroMagna · 11-29-2011, 11:17 PM

I started masturbating when I was 10 and because I lost my reputation, I became a conformist and stopped until the age of 19. But when I was masturbating at 10, I wasn't bringing myself to orgasm yet.

UrI · 12-01-2011, 09:51 AM

yer, i tried that in the past and i think i went for like 4 weeks or smth. It really feels great, i felt so ernergetic. Bu with time it became hard to control the thoughts which kept going back to beautiful girls and sex

Im willing to accept the challenge. Starting today, for me. Ill make it 4 weeks without. since im single this will be a piece of cake

Foxree · 12-01-2011, 10:39 AM

Why not to change it to get a girlfriend instead ?

Prinie · 12-01-2011, 03:01 PM

I'll join you in my own way, gloci. I'm actually giving up porn watching.

I've gone an entire month and yesterday I had a little slip up and watched about 3 minutes of the stuff. I don't masturbate very often, once a month...the week before my menstrual cycle...so I don't think I have a problem there. Actually, since giving up porn, I don't masturbate much and I don't feel that weighty, sluggishness that use to come after orgasm. I feel much healthier and in control of my life,my thoughts, and my focus. So, I'll join you in this venture.

Rooting for you!

munish · 12-01-2011, 03:37 PM

If you want to remain w/o masturbation. Channel that energy into other pursuits.

I travel, read books , run early morning @ 5 am.

You can remain w/o masturbtion for several months.

babuji · 12-01-2011, 05:07 PM

Starting today, I've made a commitment to stop masturbating for 3 months (Dec, Jan, Feb).

I've done it before and I've also felt much calmer and less agitated when I let go of it. Recently, I've gotten a bit obsessive about it again and I truly sense the drop in focus/concentration and drive to do things.

I'll also begin exploring and experimenting with Chinese herbs that are targeted at improving Jing energy. It's said that masturbating and ejaculating (for men) is one of the biggest reasons we deplete Jing (essential energy).

Let's see how this turns out. May you all find the will power to stick to your commitments..

gloci · 12-01-2011, 05:40 PM

well done to everyone who joined

im still goin strong by the way

Prinie · 12-02-2011, 03:30 PM

That's great new gloci.

Today may or may not be my last day on this forum but I wanted to post that I realize that most of my behavior is more mental. A certain thought creeps in and that influences my behavior. Today I got the urge from a thought I had and so I had to change the programming. I shifted focus.

dracvija · 12-03-2011, 12:22 PM

Allright! no-fap december it is!

Prinie · 12-03-2011, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by dracvija

Allright! no-fap december it is!

CroMagna · 12-03-2011, 07:27 PM

I hadn't thought about it before like this. Interesting.

How long has it been OP?

abcbac · 12-03-2011, 08:57 PM

It is great that you guys want to stop masturbation for some time. Stopping it gives you greater self confidence and self esteem. However, along with not masturbating make other goals as well. If you keep on focusing on not masturbating and resisting the urges you are going to cave in or go crazy. Instead replace the masturbation with a healthy habit such as working out. So if you always jack off before going to bed then replace that by reading a book. Focusing on other things will help you reach your goal of no masturbation easier.

Prinie · 12-03-2011, 11:22 PM

^ That's a great idea abcbac.

dracvija · 12-04-2011, 10:01 AM

I would recommend anyone doing this challenge to read or reread
the 11th chapter in Think and Grow Rich (The Mystery of Sex Transmutation)

wanzulfikri · 12-04-2011, 10:25 AM

Why do you guys masturbate at the first place? I wonder...

ButterflyWoman · 12-04-2011, 01:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gloci

I started a competition today with my friend to see who could go the longest without doing it.

Very Seinfeld of you.

UrI · 12-05-2011, 02:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wanzulfikri

Why do you guys masturbate at the first place? I wonder...

are you a girl??

MariconesUnited · 12-06-2011, 06:03 PM

I'd like to try something like this sometime. Not sure if ready. I think sex drive and creativity are related. Like...I'll feel inspired, masturbate, then want to sleep or something. Thoughts?

Prinie · 12-06-2011, 09:54 PM

On the verge of having a slip up, tempted to watch porn, so I came on here again to chat with you guys.

Sajor · 12-07-2011, 06:29 AM

I would like to join, but the longest i went without masturbating was 11 days, now days, i do it twice a week, I would like to stop for 2 wks to start , what do you guys recommend to get your mind out of the gutter

alexb5784 · 12-08-2011, 04:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dracvija

I would recommend anyone doing this challenge to read or reread
the 11th chapter in Think and Grow Rich (The Mystery of Sex Transmutation)

I'll take on the challenge publicly. I'm lasting 6 weeks without doing anything.
And I will go back and read that chapter in Think & Grow Rich.

UrI · 12-08-2011, 03:49 PM

ive been thinking about Foxree's comment and it struck me, that maybe, wanting love is a wish thats more powerful to me, than not masturbating.
Thanks foxree.

Because of that comment, I remembered that I actually had this intention of having a wonderful girlfriend and i tried to really feel that sensation for a few weeks.
i kinda forgot about that, tho. And now, guess what, I met the woman of my dreams, we had sex, and I got her email-address (it shouldve been her phone number but that wasnt possible atm

).
We met before during the last weeks but we actually didnt rly know each other.

The thing is, i wasnt even trying to go after her or something! And I wasnt asking for her email or her number. lol the universe and the LoA are both straaaange things sometimes!

So, i wont masturbate, but i probly wont be able to hold on to that actual goal of not having an ejaculation for a month,...i should say unfortunately

Prinie · 12-08-2011, 03:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UrI

ive been thinking about Foxree's comment and it struck me, that maybe, wanting love is a wish thats more powerful to me, than not masturbating.
Thanks foxree.

Because of that comment, I remembered that I actually had this intention of having a wonderful girlfriend and i tried to really feel that sensation for a few weeks.
i kinda forgot about that, tho. And now, guess what, I met the woman of my dreams, we had sex, and I got her email-address (it shouldve been her phone number but that wasnt possible atm

).
We met before during the last weeks but we actually didnt rly know each other.

The thing is, i wasnt even trying to go after her or something! And I wasnt asking for her email or her number. lol the universe and the LoA are both straaaange things sometimes!

So, i wont masturbate, but i probly wont be able to hold on to that actual goal of not having an ejaculation for a month,...i should say unfortunately

Congrats UrI. Good luck, okay?

abcbac · 12-09-2011, 04:22 AM

Also, try to get rid of lustful thoughts. Masturbation is just an act of your thinking. If see a cute girl,admire her beauty instead of thinking of the dirty things you want to do with her. Thoughts lead to action and action leads to habit. Habit leads to your character which ultimately leads to your destiny.
Keep that in the mind!!! Also, sorry if I got a little too philosophical.

nistacular · 12-11-2011, 09:46 PM

okay guys, I'm in lol.... I really need to stop masturbating so much... usually I do it once a day, but I find myself with far more energy after not masturbating for a while. Right now I really need to apply to colleges but I'm procrastinating soooo badly. Maybe masturbating will be like, my prize in the end.

Apresto · 12-12-2011, 07:26 AM

This thread is so much fun so far! You know that if three people have sex it's called a threesome, if two are having sex it's a twosome, but if only one is doing it, the man is called handsome

But to put joke for other threads, masturbating can lower one's energy level and may lead to more frequent fatigue or lack of motivation. So doing it very often is not quite the effective way of developing yourself.

11-29-2011, 10:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
gloci Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Longford, Ireland Posts: 238	[ADULT] Non masturbation competition Ok I started a competition today with my friend to see who could go the longest without doing it. The last time I lasted 6+ weeks. Before today I usually did it quite a bit, even reaching high score such as 5 a night. I did try to give up but I used willpower instead of competition. Anyone wanna join? I don't know about over the internet, but in real life I went from doing it once per day to none at all for six plus weeks because I was competitive.

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11-29-2011, 10:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
CroMagna Family Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,975	Why do you want to stop masturbating? It's healthy, it relieves stress, and it doesn't result in unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Albert Ellis the psychologist and father of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy said that refraining for masturbating can lead to neuroses.

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CroMagna Family Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,975	I started masturbating when I was 10 and because I lost my reputation, I became a conformist and stopped until the age of 19. But when I was masturbating at 10, I wasn't bringing myself to orgasm yet.

12-01-2011, 09:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
UrI Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 12	yer, i tried that in the past and i think i went for like 4 weeks or smth. It really feels great, i felt so ernergetic. Bu with time it became hard to control the thoughts which kept going back to beautiful girls and sex Im willing to accept the challenge. Starting today, for me. Ill make it 4 weeks without. since im single this will be a piece of cake

12-01-2011, 10:39 AM	#7 (permalink)
Foxree Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 6	Why not to change it to get a girlfriend instead ?

12-01-2011, 03:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
Prinie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 159	I'll join you in my own way, gloci. I'm actually giving up porn watching. I've gone an entire month and yesterday I had a little slip up and watched about 3 minutes of the stuff. I don't masturbate very often, once a month...the week before my menstrual cycle...so I don't think I have a problem there. Actually, since giving up porn, I don't masturbate much and I don't feel that weighty, sluggishness that use to come after orgasm. I feel much healthier and in control of my life,my thoughts, and my focus. So, I'll join you in this venture. Rooting for you!

12-01-2011, 03:37 PM	#9 (permalink)
munish Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: New Delhi Posts: 1,065	If you want to remain w/o masturbation. Channel that energy into other pursuits. I travel, read books , run early morning @ 5 am. You can remain w/o masturbtion for several months.

12-01-2011, 05:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
babuji Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 154	Starting today, I've made a commitment to stop masturbating for 3 months (Dec, Jan, Feb). I've done it before and I've also felt much calmer and less agitated when I let go of it. Recently, I've gotten a bit obsessive about it again and I truly sense the drop in focus/concentration and drive to do things. I'll also begin exploring and experimenting with Chinese herbs that are targeted at improving Jing energy. It's said that masturbating and ejaculating (for men) is one of the biggest reasons we deplete Jing (essential energy). Let's see how this turns out. May you all find the will power to stick to your commitments..

12-01-2011, 05:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
gloci Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Longford, Ireland Posts: 238	well done to everyone who joined im still goin strong by the way

12-02-2011, 03:30 PM	#12 (permalink)
Prinie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 159	That's great new gloci. Today may or may not be my last day on this forum but I wanted to post that I realize that most of my behavior is more mental. A certain thought creeps in and that influences my behavior. Today I got the urge from a thought I had and so I had to change the programming. I shifted focus.

12-03-2011, 12:22 PM	#13 (permalink)
dracvija Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 4	Allright! no-fap december it is!

12-03-2011, 07:27 PM	#15 (permalink)
CroMagna Family Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,975	I hadn't thought about it before like this. Interesting. How long has it been OP?

12-03-2011, 08:57 PM	#16 (permalink)
abcbac Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 75	It is great that you guys want to stop masturbation for some time. Stopping it gives you greater self confidence and self esteem. However, along with not masturbating make other goals as well. If you keep on focusing on not masturbating and resisting the urges you are going to cave in or go crazy. Instead replace the masturbation with a healthy habit such as working out. So if you always jack off before going to bed then replace that by reading a book. Focusing on other things will help you reach your goal of no masturbation easier.

12-03-2011, 11:22 PM	#17 (permalink)
Prinie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 159	^ That's a great idea abcbac.

12-04-2011, 10:01 AM	#18 (permalink)
dracvija Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 4	I would recommend anyone doing this challenge to read or reread the 11th chapter in Think and Grow Rich (The Mystery of Sex Transmutation)

12-04-2011, 10:25 AM	#19 (permalink)
wanzulfikri Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Malaysia Posts: 184	Why do you guys masturbate at the first place? I wonder...

12-06-2011, 06:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
MariconesUnited Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Montreal Canada Posts: 735	I'd like to try something like this sometime. Not sure if ready. I think sex drive and creativity are related. Like...I'll feel inspired, masturbate, then want to sleep or something. Thoughts?

12-06-2011, 09:54 PM	#23 (permalink)
Prinie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 159	On the verge of having a slip up, tempted to watch porn, so I came on here again to chat with you guys.

12-07-2011, 06:29 AM	#24 (permalink)
Sajor Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 57	I would like to join, but the longest i went without masturbating was 11 days, now days, i do it twice a week, I would like to stop for 2 wks to start , what do you guys recommend to get your mind out of the gutter

12-08-2011, 03:49 PM	#26 (permalink)
UrI Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 12	ive been thinking about Foxree's comment and it struck me, that maybe, wanting love is a wish thats more powerful to me, than not masturbating. Thanks foxree. Because of that comment, I remembered that I actually had this intention of having a wonderful girlfriend and i tried to really feel that sensation for a few weeks. i kinda forgot about that, tho. And now, guess what, I met the woman of my dreams, we had sex, and I got her email-address (it shouldve been her phone number but that wasnt possible atm ). We met before during the last weeks but we actually didnt rly know each other. The thing is, i wasnt even trying to go after her or something! And I wasnt asking for her email or her number. lol the universe and the LoA are both straaaange things sometimes! So, i wont masturbate, but i probly wont be able to hold on to that actual goal of not having an ejaculation for a month,...i should say unfortunately

12-09-2011, 04:22 AM	#28 (permalink)
abcbac Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 75	Also, try to get rid of lustful thoughts. Masturbation is just an act of your thinking. If see a cute girl,admire her beauty instead of thinking of the dirty things you want to do with her. Thoughts lead to action and action leads to habit. Habit leads to your character which ultimately leads to your destiny. Keep that in the mind!!! Also, sorry if I got a little too philosophical.

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12-11-2011, 09:46 PM	#29 (permalink)
nistacular Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Detroit Posts: 99	okay guys, I'm in lol.... I really need to stop masturbating so much... usually I do it once a day, but I find myself with far more energy after not masturbating for a while. Right now I really need to apply to colleges but I'm procrastinating soooo badly. Maybe masturbating will be like, my prize in the end.

12-12-2011, 07:26 AM	#30 (permalink)
Apresto Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 78	This thread is so much fun so far! You know that if three people have sex it's called a threesome, if two are having sex it's a twosome, but if only one is doing it, the man is called handsome But to put joke for other threads, masturbating can lower one's energy level and may lead to more frequent fatigue or lack of motivation. So doing it very often is not quite the effective way of developing yourself.