Learning on mistakes

[Wiper]

Hi guys ,I got this forum recommended somewhere and I decided to go and register here ...

Anyways I wanna ask you how you learn on your mistakes ? In order to succeed you need to make mistakes and you must not be afraid to make one .

I was afraid to do so ,cause I thought if I make even one I would never be able to became the best me I can become .

As I was making them more and more I realized it's not about avoiding them it's about learning from them .

But I have a challenge where I don't know how to learn from them ? I don't know what to learn from them ?

My mistakes are not taking action cause of fear .I got so much opportunites and I didn't use them at all cause I let fear control me .If I made a mistake while at least trying I wouldn't be unhappy . I would then ,tend to learn from it and fix it .

What can I learn from not taking action and making that same mistake over and over again ? I missed so much chances,especially with girls and to make myself more confident and more manly .

[Kourosh]

Hi!

This is one of my favorite topics.

I have summarized some of my conclusions on failure vs. success here:

Is failure really the opposite of success

If you never make mistakes, you will never grow.

Mistakes feel terrible at the time, but they are essential for learning and expanding. And always remember that

"Failure is an event - not a person!"

I think it was Zig Ziglar who said it.

Take care!

Kourosh

[Wiper]

I agree with that you need a mistakes to succeed .Success is a failure turned inside out .

But I was asking what can I learn from mistakes of not engaging myself in action due to fear .What can I learn from that and where can I apply it ?

Also ,there are times when you feel like you given up . You know like you just can't get anymore chances and you can't get where you wanted to go .
What to do in these times ,HOW NEVER TO GIVE UP ?

What are your methods of putting yourself back onto track and NEVER QUIT ?

How is it possible to give up or quit ?If you keep going that is keep doing things to improve ,you can't quit ,right ?I have some worries about this and I don't know if I gave up or not ,like something else is responsible for that not me .

But to give up is an option which only you can choose .

I want to ask ,how to stay pumped during tough times ,how not to lose faith in yourself and to keep going ?HOW TO KEEP GOING FORWARD WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL IT ?How to keep with actions and building from past when you feel like there is no hope and when you feel it doesn't make any sense to keep going ?When you feel like you gave up?
When you feel like you don't have a chance anymore and you messed up forever ?
How to endure in these times and what action to take ?When your path is covered in mist and you don't know what to do and where to go .

I want to build strong belief in me that I will lose everything and feel terrible if I give up . That's why I want never to give up .To figure out how to do it and BECOME A WARRIOR NOT A VICTIM ,TO BECOME A MAN WHO FIGHTS WITH HIS LAST ATOM ?TO BECOME A MAN WHO IS NEVER WILLING TO SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS?TO BE UNTAMABLE ,BRUTAL AND TO ALWAYS BEND OVER LIFE AND CONTROL HIS DESTINY .

HOW TO BECOME THAT KIND OF MEN ?

[AZen]

Don't worry. "Mistakes are the engine of growth".

Watch this great video about the failures of Jordan. Nobody talks about that.

Insider Zen

[Kourosh]

When you feel really down it´s useful to remind yourself of anything that is good in your life. Try to think of things you are grateful for.

Example:

I am grateful that I have food to eat and water to drink.

I am grateful that I can breathe.

etc

For a more detailed description, look here:

Steps of Positive Thinking

It is possible to change the negative chatter.

Usually it is totally unfounded, just the ego sabotaging your happiness.

Take care!

[wanzulfikri]

To be the man that you want to be, you must be proud of failures.

Failures can be some of the best things that happens to a person because failures is honest while success can sometimes be blind.

[Kourosh]

It´s also very important to look closely at the things you say you want success with.

Are they really your own goals? Do you really desire that specific outcome, or are you acting on somebody else´s beliefs?

Accordingly, you need to take a step back and figure out who you are and what you want. I might be surprised at what you find! But if it is done authentically, you need to follow that path, not someone else´s idea of success.

Take care!

[Clint Cora]

Not taking action can be regarded as a mistake in itself. You don't get the rewards if you don't try to go after them. It's almost like mistakes you make over and over without even realizing it. Maybe they will become more obvious if you keep some type of weekly journal that records opportunities taken as well as missed during a week. Then upon review, you will be reminded of the missed opps that you didn't take. This may help you realize these hidden mistakes faster.

[jbsmith]

The most valuable things I learned in life was the ability to look at setbacks, challenges, failures as...

1. Necessary to learn how to achieve your goals
2. Objective rather than subjective - learn from them, but don't let them define you
3. Something that sets the top achievers from everyone else
4. The only true test to find the way that DOES work - you can't always take other people's word, so you must try yourself
5. The faster you fail and adjust, the more successful you will be
6. Confidence builders when you fight your way through

Jeff

[JudithM]

I kept doing the same things in life and kept coming up with the same bad results. I FINALLY realized that it was something that I was doing, not just bad luck. I started to study about personal development and how I can change the results I was getting.

Part of it is habits, we do things because we learned to do them - we can relearn to do things differently, that is what I focus on. Repetition is key.

Another thing I am learning about now is self image. How do you see yourself. This is something that you can change too. Maybe start with your appearance. Act as if. Look at an actor. They become the part. This is what I am working with. And ya know what? It's fun.