Getting more from life: my daily goals

[Came]

I've been inspired by fallian and Ubermensch to create daily goals and tasks. I want to become more successful mentally and socially. Please give me tips on how to. I am willing to do almost anything to change.

Background Info

I am 14, from the UK and make websites for people, mainly in New York. I get roughly around £800 a month from it but I'm not very socially successful. I also feel like I'm really unproductive and lazy. For example, it's 7pm when I write this and all I've done today is got up at 11am, spent about 4 hours on a site that should have taken an hour, watched 2 episodes of lost and well to be honest, I'm not even sure what else I did today. I could have done all of that before 12pm if I got up early enough and worked harder. On weekdays I sleep from around 1am-8am and 2:30am-11am at weekends. I recently tried adapting to a biphasic sleep cycle but it was quite awkward. For example on day my brothers friend came over and I was too embarrassed to say I was going to go to bed at 5pm and so I stopped.

I do hardly any exercise other than walk to school every month or something. I'm not fat either which is kind of surprising when I think about it. I don't eat a huge amount, it must have been about 6 months since I last had a takeaway but I'm certainly not a healthy eater. I eat maybe 1/2 fruit or vegetables a day and mainly pasta or bread.

You might laugh when I say this but I feel quite stressed. I stress myself out way too much over stupid things. I don't get angry though. I don't have any proper friends really. Other than a few people at school who kick me for fun who are kind of friends but no one who would care if I dropped dead. I'm not really considered a nerd. People call me a nerd as a joke but its not meant to be offensive, I don't hang around with the average I-think-i'm-100-times-cleverer-than-I-actually-am style nerd because, well, they annoy me. I've got good grades, A* in English, Maths, Physics, Chemistry, ICT and Geography and B in French and Biology (probably, that's what I was given in my end of year report anyway). I tried an online IQ test but it's probably completely inaccurate. It said I had an IQ of 149 which would be nice but probably not true. Anyone know of any good free online IQ tests?

My motivations are money, getting a girlfriend and having fun. I just don't really know where to start! People I know are having sex and getting drunk while I'm procrastinating in front of my computer. I'll start by setting some goals for me to do and then maybe people can suggest what I can do or how to be more successful when I do them.

Things I'm going to work on

Social

Confidence
Friends
Girlfriend
Looks

Recreation

Watch less TV
Read more
Listen to more music
Sport
Hobbies
Write a book

Health

Eat healthier
Walk more
Biphasic/Uberman sleep schedule

School

Work harder

Work/Money Making

Productivity
Finish things before moving onto new things

So how do I actually start? Should I write a list of targets? I don't really know where to start.

[taylor]

Yeah, that's a good start. Basically what you want is two things: clarity of specific actions and then the ability to take those actions.

You have vague goals right now which do not tell you exactly what to do next. You need to translate vague direction into concrete goals with specific action steps. Try to get a clear image in your head of exactly what you want, then get a clear image of how you would accomplish that. For some things you might not know exactly what you want or how to get it, but that's why they made the internet. Once you figure it out, be sure to write it down and put it where you'll see it. Then start acting on it ASAP.

The next step after getting clear on your chosen specific actions is the ability to take those actions. This just takes the willingness to forget about your resistances to doing the work and instead just diving in regardless of your feelings. It's not gritting your teeth or "fighting" the resistance to work, it's more like forgetting about your resistance and acting as if it isn't there. In short while, sometimes instantly, resistance to your work may vanish.

[VinceG]

Anyone know of any good free online IQ tests?

IQ can't be measured in a rigorous fashion online. If you care so much about it, you should find, say, a local Mensa chapter to do it for you.

[Came]

Originally Posted by VinceG

IQ can't be measured in a rigorous fashion online. If you care so much about it, you should find, say, a local Mensa chapter to do it for you.

Yeah, I might do. I'm not that bothered, I'm just interested.

Ok well, I'll write a list of things I want to accomplish by the end of the school year. I can't now but I will tomorrow.

[Ubermensch]

When I was 14, I really wished I had a big brother - or a model figure - to tell me this. ♥♥♥♥ I wish I did. Anyways ...

Advice on gaining confidence and getting a girlfriend

The gym is the breeding ground for confidence. When you can squat 2 times your body weight, or bench press 1.5 times your body weight, you will feel an overwhelming sense of confidence.

Why? You - intuitively - know that you're capable of punching a hole into someone's skull should you get into a fight. Once you can stand up for yourself, your fear of failure, fear of getting ridicule by others, will dissipate like snow during a summer heat wave.

You will go through a phase of "Mother ♥♥♥♥er, you think I give a ♥♥♥♥ what you think? Don't make me ♥♥♥♥♥ smack you". After a while, you will become more humble. But you first will go through the "I'm better then you" phase. That's just the nature of things.

By hitting the gym, you will build chisel muscles that will get the "girls" wet. Their body will tingle, and your reputation as the "hunk" around school was circulate. Girls will line up and jockey for position to date you. When you walk around school, they will give you a flirty gaze while twirling their hair.

By having a big, chisel body packed with muscles and a relax confident attitude, having a girlfriend - or mutiple girlfriends. I recommend 2 - shouldn't be a problem. The first step is work on yourself, the girls will follow.

I recommend you do a 5/3/1 routine (Strength Standards) and eat big. Eat lots of carb and protein. Bulk up. Be big, be alpha.

It goes back to the quote "Do the thing (gym) ,and get the power (girls).

Advice on making a pile of money

You don't get rich working for other people . You need to start a business that serves a market need, then learn how to systemize your business, so you can outsource or automate every single part of the operation.

The first book I recommend you to read is "Rich Dad Poor Dad: What The Rich Teach Their Kids About Money" by Robert T. Kiyosaki because it's an easy read. Next, read "The Narrow Road: A Brief Guide to the Getting of Money" by Felix Dennis

Understand the only way to become truely rich is owning a business, and putting your money into various investment vechicles. You're making about $800 a month, that's great. Put $100 of it every month into a saving account and don't touch it. This should be a habit for life.

Advice on having fun and living a cool life

Do what you enjoy in life. This will eventually come to you naturally once you progress in your journey towards self improvement. I honestly don't know what you define as fun, but I suspect it's making a pile of money and having sex with your girlfriend. Right on.

Cliff note: Do this daily

• Go the gym
• Eat alot
• Watch TV 1 hour or less per day
• Read 1 chapter per day
• Focus on building a business
• Have sex with your girlfriend(s) (or whenever you obtain one)

Good luck and don't give up, have patience young one.

Go kick some ass,
Ubermensch

[taylor]

Originally Posted by Ubermensch

By hitting the gym, you will build chisel muscles that will get the "girls" wet. Their body will tingle, and your reputation as the "hunk" around school was circulate. Girls will line up and jockey for position to date you. When you walk around school, they will give you a flirty gaze while twirling their hair.

LOL.

I couldn't disagree more. Of primary importance is confidence, and everything superficial is a distant secondary quality. If you found confidence through building muscles, then that works, but indirectly. Confidence highlights your positive qualities whatever they are, while insecurity can sometimes make even your positive qualities look lame. Confidence here doesn't have to mean arrogance, but more of a stable state that isn't all over the place like a nervous insecure person. This whole idea that you need muscles or something to impress someone is already missing the point and buying into an unstable mindset.

[eduardotebaldi]

My opinion about the muscles-confidence thing:

Muscles do make you more confident. But this is really an indirect result. You should be confident on yourself, not on your appearance. I go to the gym and do weightlifting, but I understand that this is not the ultimate solution for confidence. I know people that have iron confidence without ever having stepped on a gym. Maybe if you build your confidence in your muscles, one day you will be in a place where everybody is wearing a suit (for example), and your body would be imperceptible. Also, you should know that you will never be the biggest guy in the world. If you go to nightclubs, what I do, you will see that there is always a man that's bigger than you.

Said that, I think going to gym is a wonderful thing for confidence and specially for self-discipline. And it will bring girls.

[Came]

Ok, this is a schedule I will stick to for now I think:

Weekdays

23:30-07:45 (8hrs 15mins) Sleep
07:45-08:30 (45mins) Breakfast/get ready for school
08:30-09:00 (30mins) Walk to school
09:00-15:35 (6hrs 35mins) School
15:35-16:15 (40mins) Walk home
16:15-17:15 (1hour) Revise French/Biology
17:15-17:25 (10mins) Break; check Facebook/Steve Pavlina/get cup of tea etc
17:25-17:55 (30mins) Revise/Homework for other subjects
17:55-18:15 (20mins) Tea (ie. dinner lol)
18:15-19:10 (55mins) Freelance stuff/work for New York
19:10-20:55 (45mins) TV
20:55-21:55 (1hr) My own business stuff eg Crinkld.com
21:55-21:00 (5mins) Break; check Facebook/Steve Pavlina/get cup of tea etc
21:00-22:15 (1hr 15mins) Writing book
22:15-23:00 (45mins) TV
23:00-23:30 (30mins) Read (I read at about 220 wpm)

Sleep: 8hrs 15mins
Health: 2hrs 15mins
School: 8hrs 5mins
Recreation: 2hrs 15mins
Work: 3hrs 10mins

Weekends

23:30-09:00 (9hrs 30mins) Sleep
09:00-09:45 (45mins) Breakfast/get ready
09:45-10:50 (1hr 5mins) Freelance stuff/work for New York
10:50-11:00 (10mins) Break; check Facebook/Steve Pavlina/get cup of tea etc
11:00-12:30 (1hr 30mins) My own business stuff eg Crinkld.com
12:30-13:00 (30mins) Lunch
13:00-15:00 (2hrs) My own business stuff eg Crinkld.com
15:00-15:45 (45mins) TV
15:45-17:00 (1hr) Freelance stuff/work for New York
17:00-17:45 (45mins) TV
17:45-18:15 (30mins) Tea (ie. dinner lol)
18:15-19:15 (1hr) My own business stuff eg Crinkld.com
19:15-20:00 (45mins) Revise French/Biology
20:00-21:00 (1hr) Relax; bath maybe
21:00-22:15 (1hr 15mins) Writing book
22:15-23:00 (45mins) TV
23:00-23:30 (30mins) Read

Sleep: 9hrs 30mins
Health: 1hr 45mins
School: 45mins
Recreation: 3hrs 55mins
Work: 7hrs 50mins

(Something's not quite right, this adds up to 23hrs and 45mins lol)

I'm currently reading Patricia Conrwell novels, I'm up to From Potter's Field which is the sixth of a series of 19 (so far... ). Each book is about 90k words. My reading speed is about 200wpm and so 30minutes of reading will be around 6000 words. And so it will take 15 (20 because I wont stop mid-chapter) nights to read each book. Therefore to read the remaining 14 books should be read by April 2012.

Social activities will override all of this and the schedule will be continued from the time it is, it will be a sort of incentive to get out more Any ideas on how to improve on this?

[Apresto]

If you're THAT sophisticated about writing a post here, you should be doing just fine in offline life I suppose. Unless there's something bothering you on another level...

[Came]

I probably am "alright", I just don't feel it. I want to make money and be successful. Getting the girl of my dreams would be a pretty cool way point too.

[Came]

I completely failed today... My alarm didn't go off and so I woke up at 8am and didn't have time to walk so my dad drove me. I walked home (and found a short cut which I'm quite please about lol) and then did some french homework but someone on facebook asked me to help them fix their computer so I only did about half an hour. I had a break and then continued with my french and then moved onto work for New York. I was quite productive and didn't watch TV and had tea at about 19:45. I then continued with New York work.

I haven't got school tomorrow (well I'm going on a trip at 2:30pm but its not really school) so I'll treat tomorrow like a weekend.

I'm going to try and get a bit more of the book plan done tonight. It's kind of like a sci-fi crime drama. People are disappearing and it's to do with freaky worm hole stuff. I might put the plan up here when I'm done so people can have a look at it. I'll also read some more of my book and watch an episode of Fringe.

[Ubermensch]

bump. try your best, came.

[Came]

Yeah, so where should I start with the whole gym thing? I assume I need some sort of plan or routine, I can't just go in and get muscles. There's a girl I really like and I would pretty much do anything to "be her boyfriend" but I don't know where to start. We used to have science together for a while until a couple of months ago. We now have PE together but I'm not the athletic type so I don't feel confident enough to talk to her. I told one of my friends how I feel about her, he has quite a high social status and he told me that if I tried hard enough I would definitely have a chance! I thought she was way to hot for me but apparently not. At first I didn't believe him but he is honest.

[Came]

Also is there anyway I could do things at home without going to a gym as there aren't any nearby.

[Alice Hive]

Originally Posted by Came

Also is there anyway I could do things at home without going to a gym as there aren't any nearby.

There's plenty of stuff! You could start here for example:

one hundred push ups
two hundred sit-ups
two hundred squats

Also you can go jogging without having to go to a gym.

[Metality]

Move to India... 800 bucks a month is like Rs. 64,000 here. That's a LOT.