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05-09-2007, 04:41 AM
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 |  Why is it so hard to take action…???
Why is it so hard to take action…??? Most people know what needs to be done to get the things that they want… yet, they fail to take action… My contention is that: 1) They are either paralyzed with fear… the condition that they are in does not satisfy them… however, they know that they can cope with that… however, if they take action… and change the situation… maybe they will put themselves in a situation that is even worst… 2) They are not certain that they will succeed… what if they put up all these efforts and come up empty handed… will it be worth the efforts… 3) They are jaded… tried things before… and it never worked… why should they try again… Those are but a few reasons for stagnating in the status quo… give us your input on that… and maybe we can motivate someone to get off his/her sorry butt… and do something about his/her life…  . |
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05-09-2007, 07:52 AM
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it is the fact that you are not use with the action, you don't have the practice and the automatism of that kind of work and it seems you to be hard.it's like that on beggining.use overwhelming force |
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05-09-2007, 03:30 PM
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I have received the following PM… Quote:
Tony Robbins says, “You have to change your “I should do” into a “I must do.” Most of the times… we will not do what we should do… but we will do what we “must” do… It may be just a small change in semantic… but a huge change in results… Donald Trump says, “When I undertake a new project… I always look at the down side (the worst possible scenario that can happen) and if I can handle that… I go ahead with the project… because I can certainly handle the top side… (the best possible scenario.)” And… what Shamou says is, “If I can find a good enough reason to do anything… I am certain that I will do it… and succeed at it…” . | |
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05-09-2007, 03:35 PM
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Watching TV for me is harder - because while I am watching it I am running through my head the hundreds of things I could be doing instead of watching it, which creates an amount of discomfort for me... So I relegate myself to only one TV show, my favorite show, Stargate SG1 and Stargate Atlantis (that is actually two). That one and Babylon 5 have been the only TV shows ever worth my time. I think the root is in mental focus and clarity. Without it no one will take action. |
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05-09-2007, 04:22 PM
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|  Why is it so hard to take action…??? Hello Shamou, Here is another reason why people find it difficult to take action. It is not the complete story of why things happen the way they do; but it's an interesting read nevertheless: Quest for Personal Nirvana: The Jonah Complex. Cheers, Sanjay. |
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05-09-2007, 06:37 PM
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05-09-2007, 06:47 PM
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Action is a pain in the butt. Action is risky. Action requires effort. Action often takes a long time to pay off. Action is tiring and tedious. These are just a few of the many reasons action is much less enjoyable than doing nothing. |
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05-09-2007, 06:55 PM
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05-09-2007, 07:18 PM
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@John: On the contrary I find action to be very life giving. It is fun, and actually pays off quite quickly in my experience; often times, immediately. Most people don't 'think before they act' however, which might make it seem like walking through molasses. |
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05-10-2007, 05:23 AM
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For me, it's totally fear based. I'm afraid of failing, because what if I really f* up and ruin my life? Or worse...it's mediocre? (black and white thinking) I'm afraid of change because it's always uncomfortable. (low risk/unfamiliarity tolerance). I'm afraid of success, because people will expect me to fail, or to keep being "on top of my game." (people pleaser, and my own worst self critic) Thing is, no one would guess the above about me. I do a great job acting quite the opposite. Right now, I'm doing EFT to help with these issues. |
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05-10-2007, 12:18 PM
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I think another reason they avoid taking action is that once they do, they can no longer deny respsibility for what happens. If they just stick to their comfort zones, they can continue to blame everything and anything but themselves for their situations. Hundreds of "good" excuses can spawn from one real reason.. "I didn't try as hard as I could have."
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05-10-2007, 02:55 PM
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 Tony’s video in TED talk: Tony Robbins on top form (watch for the hilarious Al Gore moment) (TEDTalks) - Google Video With Charlie RoseCharlie Rose - ANTHONY ROBBINS - Google Video CNN with Larry KingAnthony Robbins on CNN | Flixya Video Sharing . | |
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05-11-2007, 08:45 AM
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| Why change management is so difficult Hello Shamou, Thought I would give you another of my takes on why managing change is difficult: http://success-nirvana.blogspot.com/2007/05/frog-that-found-itself-in-boiling.html. It is based on the parable of the frog in boiling waters, with a garnish of business setting thrown in for comparison-sake ... Cheers, Sanjay. |
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05-11-2007, 12:51 PM
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The thought on the quote below never fail to kick my butt to take action. Here It Is ==> "If there is one thing you don't want to do, but if you do it, it will dramatically improve your life/business. | |
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05-11-2007, 03:16 PM
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05-11-2007, 03:21 PM
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05-12-2007, 12:32 AM
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'Taking action is hard' is very much a perception thing. If you believe it will be hard you will do your best to avoid it. I like to massage certain phrases to soften them up and I find it really helps. For instance I could say that 'I absolutely detest doing the ironing.' From there I could change it to: 'I don't like ironing very much' to 'Ironing is OK and it makes my clothes look neat' etc etc. Thing is is that it almost sounds silly talking about stuff that way so I try to make myself smile by coming up with daft alternatives. 'Ironing is part life. The heat of the steel on the fabric dissolves the creases with boiling vapour but without effort. My strong arm merely guides it to reaching a successful conclusion. Ironing is a joy.' |
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05-12-2007, 12:44 AM
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05-12-2007, 09:42 PM
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I think the reason most people don't take action is because they have not discovered their message. Without a message, purpose is elusive. Without purpose, determination is fleeting. One thing I learned in my introductory psychology course really stands out: When people feel pulled equally in two different directions, they stand still. A person may be pulled in one direction by his present situation and in another by a future goal. But unless he uncovers a feeling of purpose and drive to "get over the hump" and break free from his old life, that old life will continue to tether him. In other words, many people need a deep, meaningful motivation to break free. Much time is wasted waited on an epiphany, when one could easily get out life's shovel and start mining his motivations from the inside out. Last edited by JohnPlace; 05-12-2007 at 09:49 PM. |
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05-12-2007, 11:08 PM
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I think it's an enormous amount of built up inertia. If you go too long without doing something (and then building up all these stories in your mind about what will happen...fear, worry, dread), it becomes almost impossible. I think "taking action" can be as simple as turning a door handle. It's not necessarily hard. But imagine if you went through life and you never turned a door knob. And days, weeks, months, years go by. And you build it up higher and higher. It can take on a life of its own. |
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