kicking off a new adventure part 2

[fallian]

review day 55 (saturday)

+ played 1 game of chess
+ play a good game again
+ took my AK
+ i studied
+ thee
+ nails

- woke up around 11
- i ate cookies

me and my brother were the only ones who played a decent game, lately ( latest 4 months or so) i really started enjoying soccer, ad since then i have been playing better and better, it could also be the AK though, i feel like i have tremendous energy

planning day 56

-wake up at 9am, or earlier
-1 game of chess
-train for soccer 30 mins
-AK
-meet 2 new girl this week
-go to all classes
-go to the gym
-study 30 minutes
-no cookies or candy
-no nailbiting
-drink a cup of thee

[stevebrule]

Fallian you really really really need to read all 3 of these posts.

You have loaded yourself up with so many goals and habit changes that you are almost guaranteed to fail. I have been in your shoes and trust me, none of these goals and habits wil stick.

You need to slow down. Pick one thing you want to change. Then focus only on that until it is 100% automatic to you, as mindless as brushing your teeth.

I know you are eager to make changes in your life and my advice might seem like it will take too long. But think about this: a year from now would you rather have made 6 important lasting changes in your life, or have made none because you overwhelmed yourself?

Food for thought my friend. I wish you the best.

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[fallian]

Stevebrule, i have read the articles you posted, and you convinced me to change strategies. I will adapt myself and take another path to the future. Me new personal development plan will be this :

1) i will post all my challenges

2) order them in priority

3) pick the first one

4) make an action plan about that ONE particular challenge

[fallian]

Personal Development Plan 2

a) my challenges

1) Meet 2 new girls every week

2) party, have fun

3) graduate

4) visualize being confident, smart, funny, charismatic, playboy,... INTENSELY

5) train

6) wake up early

7) become a comedian

8) become a chess master

9) learn poker well

10) no synthetic sugars

11) learn a new sport

12) work on looks

13) think of a new invention

14) eat and drink healthy

15) make music

16) lucid dream

17) expand my knowledge of personal development ( mostly through books )

18) be creative

19) no more timewasters

20) travel

21) earn money while going to college


b) action plan

my chosen challenge : meet 2 new girls every week

i will focus solemnly on :

- force myself into social situations
- seek out opportunities to meet new girls
- proactively search for new girls
- seek out help if needed
- i will focus on this challenge and nothing else!

[Alice Hive]

Originally Posted by fallian

Personal Development Plan 2

a) my challenges

1) Meet 2 new girls every week

2) party, have fun

3) graduate

4) visualize being confident, smart, funny, charismatic, playboy,... INTENSELY

5) train

6) wake up early

7) become a comedian

8) become a chess master

9) learn poker well

10) no synthetic sugars

11) learn a new sport

12) work on looks

13) think of a new invention

14) eat and drink healthy

15) make music

16) lucid dream

17) expand my knowledge of personal development ( mostly through books )

18) be creative

19) no more timewasters

20) travel

21) earn money while going to college


b) action plan

my chosen challenge : meet 2 new girls every week

i will focus solemnly on :

- force myself into social situations
- seek out opportunities to meet new girls
- proactively search for new girls
- seek out help if needed
- i will focus on this challenge and nothing else!

I like your new plan! And if you find yourself having "too much" time, you can still do some of the other things casually (like make music, be creative, travel, eat healthy food) without comitting to them long term.

[fallian]

I AM SO FRICKING MAD AT MYSELF RIGHT NOW!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhh, we had class today, and out of nowhere there is this beautifull girl that is new to our class, and noone was talking to here, and i didn't talked to here either i feel like an idiot now, and i wished i could turn back time, i really really hope i meet her again,

[Spiderguy252]

Originally Posted by fallian

I AM SO FRICKING MAD AT MYSELF RIGHT NOW!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhh, we had class today, and out of nowhere there is this beautifull girl that is new to our class, and noone was talking to here, and i didn't talked to here either i feel like an idiot now, and i wished i could turn back time, i really really hope i meet her again,

Relax. Don't think about it.

[fallian]

i've calmed down, turns out she is in my brothers class, shes a friend off my brother, but my brother has a gf, she also told him she had class with me even tough we didn't talked, i will definetely see her again

[fallian]

ok so i've talked to her in class and it was amazing, i made her laugh a few times, we talked like the whole class trough... but ...

the girl comes from another school where she had this friend who did everyting with here and she had a lot of fun with him she says. She also broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, she posts stuff on her facebook that she misses someone, she was very scared for a test that was coming, she has a lot of pictures with a lot of different guys on her fb, on of those photo's is her kissing a girl, but she did looked at me a lot and i made her laugh a few times.....

my brain can't process all of this, i need help

[fallian]

ok so we are a few weeks after my previous post, we only have 1 class together every week, and every week i look forward to it, and everytime we laugh and have fun. Since i started talking with here, (she is really really pretty) my confidence gained a giant boost, i also tend to get more respect from other girls apparently... So i have grown and learned a lot since i met her, but now i encounter a new problem.

I really like here, but i don't know if she likes (really likes ) me too, she already said she thinks me and my twin brother are very friendly, and she smiles often to me, but she knows a lot of other guys. And in the hallway when we were talking another guy from here class walked by and she took his hands, and like clapped with them and asked to do something for here can't really remember wath, but she kinda manipulated him, and then she said that she knows he likes here so she kinda tricks him into doing something, but she also has a lot of male facebook friends, and she has pictures with a lot of different guys. She is so confusing....

when we went home we had to go different directions, and we stood there for a minute and we said something funny as goodbye, but there was this little silent moment and i was in a mental debate whether i should kiss her goodbye or not, cause it could become very awkward if she wasn't expecting it, but maybe she wanted me to kiss goodbye,

Next week is the last week we have class together , after that it's a long period of exams and i don't know if we have any classes in the second semester.

I don't know what to do, i'm afraid i'll never see her again or one time in a month or something, i only have 1 class left what should i do??

[Ubermensch]

Go ahead and kiss her. Embarrassment is 1000x better then regret.

Then say "Damn girl, I'm taking you out on a date".

("And that's how I met your mother, kids ...")

[fallian]

i so wanna do that, but i'm afraid i'm not gonna have the balls when the moment is there....