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05-03-2007, 08:10 AM
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 New To the forum!!!! Hi there!! I am new to this forum... don know exactly how to make best use of it... As for me... I am a person with some bad habits such as procrastinating but want to give up my this habit badly... i just thought experiences from others could help me out... wil definitely want to improve on this.. lets see...      |
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05-03-2007, 08:35 AM
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 What exactly do you want to learn here?
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05-03-2007, 10:04 AM
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hmmm Did you ever change a habit before? This includes even simple ones like instead of putting sugar into your coffee you now drink it black.
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05-03-2007, 10:12 AM
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| Hey sum, I am waaaay into developing new habits. How im going about it, it's all in my sig + link. One of my favorite articles on PD ever Implementing a habit (Article by Tyler) - Real Social Dynamics Community |
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05-03-2007, 12:44 PM
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There's an interesting podcast by Steve that talks about "patterns". The main idea in his podcast is that in order to fully change an habit you have to find some positive habit that gives you the "reward" the bad habit provides you. For example, you play a lot of videogames to have fun. If you want to play less, then you'll have to find another way of having fun. Just quitting games won't be effective. So, I'm having the same problem as you: procastination. Now I'm trying to identify the patterns that make up this bad habit. By now, I just know that one of the reasons I procastinate is that I avoid challenging obstacles. For example, I'm writing a story. I get stuck. So I try another different thing: learn Ruby on Rails. I get stuck again. Then I start to program a videogame. I get stuck... You get the idea  I don't know if "avoiding problems" is a kind of "reward", but I know this is a pattern. I'm still figuring out how to get rid of this (and to find more patterns), though... |
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05-03-2007, 12:57 PM
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 Stop Procastination, Do it Now! Here is a simple but effective way to get things done! 1. Decide what you need to do most. 2. Forget everything else. 3. Put all your effort into this activity This really is simple. Step 1 is about picking a priority. Step 2 tells you not to worry! Just do what you need to do most. Step 3 means you should try your best. Try it right now. Pick the most important thing that needs doing in your life. Then really go for it!
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05-03-2007, 03:59 PM
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| Let me play the bastard here for a bit; Telling this guy how to change his habits will NOT help him, just like almost every other human being on this planet he will intelllectually understand it and than think 'Hmmm thats interesting perhaps they are correct' proceeding to continue doing whatever the ************ he was doing (which obviously isn't working). Now I understand I sound like a truly negative guy by now, and I'm not. You see the only way to help him is to let him discover the truth for himself. And giving info is probably the least effective way BY FAR. I'm still at the beginning phases of this, its a learning process for me. However I do know that humans learn best if they discover something inside themselves, thats when they remember and apply it. I know for a fact that its how I work and that I am still very much guilty of asking to little or the wrong questions. My questions are aimed to help him understand how to do it and let him discover that inside himself. Now I'm sure that if I'll be able to talk to him in person that I can help him much better. I am also sure that I am not nearly as skilled in this as I want to be, its a continues learning experience both for me and the rest of the world. Now answer my question; Did you ever consciously change a habit? Edit: The above suggestions are awesome and I suggest reading them, however I seriously doubt that you will actually DO it. Knowing it and actually doing it are two different things.
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05-05-2007, 02:28 PM
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I am glad you are here and believe there is wisdom and support for almost any goal or life situation available here in the forums. I find the people here to be a wonderful group of like minded friends. The forums are like life, take what you want and leave the rest. |
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05-05-2007, 03:16 PM
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Hi Sum! Firstly, welcome to the forum... altho' I'm relatively new also, but the time since I've been here, there's been much that I've learnt and I've also found out that there are much all can learn about personal development from the many enlightene people who are here! But one thing you must remember is that habits have to be broken by ... no one else but yourself. You can read and learn from others how to break habits but more importantly is that you must determine yourself to want to - break your unwanted and undesired habits. ONe way you can do that is to work out a daily list of things you want and need to do for the day, and it would help if this list is a by-the-hour kinda list. Plan your day down to the hour if you can and bring the list with you whereever you go. Each time you complete a planned task, strike it out and move on to the next task for the day. At perhaps mid-day and end of the day, do reviews to see if you are keeping to the plan. Better still get a close friend to be checking on you whether you've been sticking to your schedule... it always helps to have another person to "breathe down your neck"! Try it out for a week and let this list-making be a habit! Celebrate at the end of the first day when you realise that you've stuck to and completed your planned things to do. Tell someone who can celebrate with you about it. And it will be an encouragement for your next day! You can then tell us how you're doing at the end of the coming week! ----------- Kayceezharold The World Thru Kayceez Eyes My Success Plan for Personal Development |
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05-05-2007, 03:34 PM
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 I have three lists going all the time: One for my life goals, one for my goals for each specific year, and my daily to-do lists, which I keep in desktop calendar.I have kept them all and it's a tremendous feeling of accomplishment to go back through and see all those items that have been scratched off my lists! If you start a list and find that you have not attended to it for a period of time, just pick it up and go at it again! Forgive yourself but do not let it go. |
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05-07-2007, 04:24 PM
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Wow! Since 1993? Your lists must be miles long, end-to-end!  Yup, perseverence is the name of the game!  ---------------- Kayceezharold The World Thru Kayceez Eyes My Success Plan for Personal Development |
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