My passion is sex

[CroMagna]

So I've finally decided to become a psychologist, specifically a sex therapist. It'll be easier to find jobs in this area than as a Sexuality Studies professor or a Sexologist.

There is a roadblock however. I need to pay my tuition from undergrad so they'll release my transcripts. I also need to take extra coursework in psychology to boost my GPA and secure teacher recommendations. I also want to fix my credit so I can get private loans just incase.

Which means I'll have to work for a few years.

So here's my issue. I could just get any old job like as an administrative assistant or I can try to get a job I'd love in my area of passion, such as dancer or counselor. Jobs I'd genuinely enjoy are few and far between. Admin jobs are plenty but they're hard to get because tons of people are applying for them and I hate the process of applying for these jobs, it's like pulling teeth. I hated my last office job and burned out. Waitressing jobs make peanuts and you're up on your feet all day dealing with rude customers.

Because jobs I'd love in my area of interest are so hard to get, it'll take much longer to get hired. Meanwhile I could apply to tons of administrative assistant jobs each week.

So what do you think: if you were me, would you just look for any job that would pay the bills or only pursue jobs you would enjoy?

[lycan]

Pics first, reply later.

[CroMagna]

You want me to post pics of myself? If so, how?

[lycan]

It's not an issue of what I want. If you are somewhat attractive, there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex. If you potentially attractive but haven't taken good care of your body, you can just take good care of your body and then there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex.

I looked at some of your previous posts and you stated you had problems with dieting. Dieting is very simple: find something that gives you pleasure or relieves tension that is NOT food, and focus on it. Women seem to have a problem taking the not eating thing too far (becoming anorexic), but really, not eating is the only way to burn fat. It's simple. It only takes a long time if you are trying to cut 100 calories a day from your diet, instead of using a real diet where you are at a real deficit.

[Swifthawk]

Originally Posted by lycan

It's not an issue of what I want. If you are somewhat attractive, there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex. If you potentially attractive but haven't taken good care of your body, you can just take good care of your body and then there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex.

I looked at some of your previous posts and you stated you had problems with dieting. Dieting is very simple: find something that gives you pleasure or relieves tension that is NOT food, and focus on it. Women seem to have a problem taking the not eating thing too far (becoming anorexic), but really, not eating is the only way to burn fat. It's simple. It only takes a long time if you are trying to cut 100 calories a day from your diet, instead of using a real diet where you are at a real deficit.

Uh....I don't think she's talking about becoming a prostitute. She wants to be a "sex therapist." Or being able to give people advice about sex. Not give them the sex herself haha.

It seems that you might be in a bind and have to bite the bullet so to speak and get a job that is not in your interest.

However, you don't have to give up completely. There may be jobs that might be useful towards you being a better therapist. A customer service job might teach you how to handle people when they are distraught or something.

I know I have learned a lot about people through working at a hotel front desk.

You may not get a dream job but you dont have to get one you hate.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by lycan

It's not an issue of what I want. If you are somewhat attractive, there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex. If you potentially attractive but haven't taken good care of your body, you can just take good care of your body and then there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex.

I looked at some of your previous posts and you stated you had problems with dieting. Dieting is very simple: find something that gives you pleasure or relieves tension that is NOT food, and focus on it. Women seem to have a problem taking the not eating thing too far (becoming anorexic), but really, not eating is the only way to burn fat. It's simple. It only takes a long time if you are trying to cut 100 calories a day from your diet, instead of using a real diet where you are at a real deficit.

Thanks lycan! That's excellent advice. I will use it. I can replace food with many things, including reading or sex or something. I could even join Overeaters Anonymous.

What would a real diet be? The raw food diet?

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by Swifthawk

Uh....I don't think she's talking about becoming a prostitute. She wants to be a "sex therapist." Or being able to give people advice about sex. Not give them the sex herself haha.

It seems that you might be in a bind and have to bite the bullet so to speak and get a job that is not in your interest.

However, you don't have to give up completely. There may be jobs that might be useful towards you being a better therapist. A customer service job might teach you how to handle people when they are distraught or something.

I know I have learned a lot about people through working at a hotel front desk.

You may not get a dream job but you dont have to get one you hate.

Thanks Swifthawk. I wouldn't mind being an ESL teacher.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by lycan

It's not an issue of what I want. If you are somewhat attractive, there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex. If you potentially attractive but haven't taken good care of your body, you can just take good care of your body and then there are a ton of opportunities available involving sex.

Like what?

[brendannz]

sometimes you have to make compromises to support what you want to be doing..

[Ceoarob]

Originally Posted by lycan

pics first, reply later.

+2

[lycan]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Like what?

What you need is a good pimp.

Prostitution, pornography and nude modeling come to mind. But that's just the obvious. There are many "behind the scenes" alternatives. You could be a photographer instead of the photographed.

Like, here is an idea if you don't feel comfortable with your body as it is right now. Start a blog/website. Write erotic stories. Record yourself reading these stories. Monetize with (relevant) affiliate offers and by offering to read other people's scripts.

Bottom line, be creative.

[VinceG]

Not eating is not the only way to burn fat. Tim Ferriss has written a ground-breaking book on the very best ways to get skinny. It's the only book you need.

[WarrenG]

Originally Posted by lycan

What you need is a good pimp.

Prostitution, pornography and nude modeling come to mind. But that's just the obvious. There are many "behind the scenes" alternatives. You could be a photographer instead of the photographed.

Like, here is an idea if you don't feel comfortable with your body as it is right now. Start a blog/website. Write erotic stories. Record yourself reading these stories. Monetize with (relevant) affiliate offers and by offering to read other people's scripts.

Bottom line, be creative.

I hope you're frakkin' kidding, lycan, telling someone who wants to be a psychologist to become a prostitute or porn star!

Cro, I wouldn't bother with these! The last paragraph... umm I'd use a pen name if you do that one!

Also, everyone is a photographer these days, and that needs training and also an established name or customer base. You'd have to hussle otherwise.

I would apply for both jobs that pay the bills, and ones you enjoy. If you get an admin job, just keep applying for good ones, and leave when something comes along, or if you start to burn out. Also, ask everyone you know if they know anyone who's looking to hire someone, I don't know what the stats are but it's something silly like only 10% of jobs are filled by application/interview process.

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by WarrenG

I hope you're frakkin' kidding, lycan, telling someone who wants to be a psychologist to become a prostitute or porn star!

These three professions aren't so different as you might think.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by WarrenG

I hope you're frakkin' kidding, lycan, telling someone who wants to be a psychologist to become a prostitute or porn star!

The name of this thread is not "My passion is psychology", is it? It doesn't really matter though. Some people enter these fields simply to finance other paths in their lives. Plus, first hand knowledge would be priceless for later work. It's not my decision either way. These are just options that exist.

Cro, I wouldn't bother with these! The last paragraph... umm I'd use a pen name if you do that one!

While that is certainly a good idea, I sense you have psychological issues with sex.

Also, everyone is a photographer these days, and that needs training and also an established name or customer base. You'd have to hussle otherwise.

So?

I would apply for both jobs that pay the bills, and ones you enjoy. If you get an admin job, just keep applying for good ones, and leave when something comes along, or if you start to burn out. Also, ask everyone you know if they know anyone who's looking to hire someone, I don't know what the stats are but it's something silly like only 10% of jobs are filled by application/interview process.

That is always an option.

[xtremelady]

My advice is do whatever you need to do – taking a job that isn’t what you want ultimately does not mean having to give up on your ambitions, there are many roads to get to where you want to be.

If for now you need to compromise – see it as a step to getting what you do want, use the contacts you make whilst doing this and make smaller goals which build up to your chosen goal.

Do not give up on your dreams and always remain focused – and eventually you will succeed.

[lycan]

Not eating is the only way to burn bodyfat. Or rather, not eating is the only way to avoid replenishing the bodyfat that you burn throughout the day. Unless you have an actual disease that prevents your body from absorbing what it eats. The book I read was full of nonsensical stuff that lots of people fail with. Nobody has ever failed to lose weight by not eating, ever. They might fail to not eat, that's all. You need to spend most of your time under a caloric deficit, regardless of how you do that (fasting, eating 6 very low calorie "meals" a day, exercising like a maniac, cocaine ). Small women have a particularly hard time because diets made for bodybuilders (eat at least 1,600 calories a day or you'll die!) are just too heavy, and diets that actually induce fatloss are perceived as too radical.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

What would a real diet be? The raw food diet?

For weightloss, all you need is to avoid treating food as entertainment, and keeping the total calories low over time (you don' have to stop eating completely forever, you just need to balance overeating with undereating. It's okay to eat. Just don't make a habit of eating large meals all the time). The raw food diet might be good for your skin though. Consider water fasting from time to time (no need for 30 day fasts, two days is fine).

[WarrenG]

Originally Posted by VinceG

These three professions aren't so different as you might think.

Do you have a reason why beyond "They all involve sex in some way?"

Originally Posted by lycan

The name of this thread is not "My passion is psychology", is it? It doesn't really matter though. Some people enter these fields simply to finance other paths in their lives. Plus, first hand knowledge would be priceless for later work. It's not my decision either way. These are just options that exist.

I was thinking reputation-wise for the latter two, and just general well-being in terms of prostitute.

While that is certainly a good idea, I sense you have psychological issues with sex.

I'll be CroMagna's first client then! (In the sex therapist role, that is )

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by WarrenG

Do you have a reason why beyond "They all involve sex in some way?"

Lots of people see one when who they really want to see is the other.

[WarrenG]

Originally Posted by VinceG

Lots of people see one when who they really want to see is the other.

Haha! Very good.

[Clint Cora]

Why don't you try both?

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by lycan

Not eating is the only way to burn bodyfat. Or rather, not eating is the only way to avoid replenishing the bodyfat that you burn throughout the day. Unless you have an actual disease that prevents your body from absorbing what it eats. The book I read was full of nonsensical stuff that lots of people fail with. Nobody has ever failed to lose weight by not eating, ever. They might fail to not eat, that's all. You need to spend most of your time under a caloric deficit, regardless of how you do that (fasting, eating 6 very low calorie "meals" a day, exercising like a maniac, cocaine ). Small women have a particularly hard time because diets made for bodybuilders (eat at least 1,600 calories a day or you'll die!) are just too heavy, and diets that actually induce fatloss are perceived as too radical.

Excellent advice, thank you so much lycan. Do you think I can limit to one medium sized meal per day and see results?

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by VinceG

Lots of people see one when who they really want to see is the other.

Clever

[CroMagna]

So the consensus seems to be to go for both, if I land an admin job I can keep looking for something I'd love. I figure I can volunteer at that sexual freedom non-profit on the side.

Thing is, I'm not motivated to look for admin jobs. How do I get motivated?

Thanks everyone.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Excellent advice, thank you so much lycan. Do you think I can limit to one medium sized meal per day and see results?

That depends on your definition of medium sized meal. If it is up to 1,000 calories and you don't snack throughout the day, yes, you'll see results. It all depends on too many factors, which is why people who recommend you go under a slight deficit don't help, people just can't manage to take all factors into consideration with small deficits, and they have to become obsessed with details for like, their entire lives. If they eat two bananas instead of one, their 100 year plan to lose weight crashes. They could be just focusing on not eating their bad emotions (such as boredom) away, and by doing so getting faster results and enjoying the process more. I highly recommend women do yoga as well. No point simply being skinny.

[Le Roi]

If I were you, I'd start taking classes in that field. Get a student loan, start taking classes. Even if it's just one class the first semester. Build some momentum toward your goal and learning something you'd love.

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by lycan

That depends on your definition of medium sized meal. If it is up to 1,000 calories and you don't snack throughout the day, yes, you'll see results. It all depends on too many factors, which is why people who recommend you go under a slight deficit don't help, people just can't manage to take all factors into consideration with small deficits, and they have to become obsessed with details for like, their entire lives. If they eat two bananas instead of one, their 100 year plan to lose weight crashes. They could be just focusing on not eating their bad emotions (such as boredom) away, and by doing so getting faster results and enjoying the process more. I highly recommend women do yoga as well. No point simply being skinny.

Awesome lycan, I can't thank you enough. What if the meal is less than 1,000calories?

[CroMagna]

Originally Posted by Le Roi

If I were you, I'd start taking classes in that field. Get a student loan, start taking classes. Even if it's just one class the first semester. Build some momentum toward your goal and learning something you'd love.

Thanks LeRoi. I'm very excited by the idea of taking classes in my field. I would love to be back in school. That's where I shine. I wasn't meant to work a 9-5.

I don't know if I can get student loans for extra coursework. Do you know anything about that or maybe I should check with the financial aid department at the school?

[lycan]

Originally Posted by CroMagna

Awesome lycan, I can't thank you enough. What if the meal is less than 1,000calories?

That's fine. How much weight do you want to lose?