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Old 04-11-2007, 09:20 PM
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Life has been called, 'The University of Hard Knocks.' Some of us have been around the block a few times... and should have learned some invaluable lessons... maybe you could share them with us...

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One thing that life has taught me is that 1) things are never as bad as they first seem to be... and 2) most things take longer than first expected too...

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don't whine about your problems.

action is always better then inaction.

do something, even if it's wrong.

mistakes are feedback.

most of your fears are irrational.

learn from animals.

don't accept 2nd class behavior.

never be afraid to walk out of a situation if it doesn't meet your standards.
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Good points Scumbag...

Just curious though... why did you use "Scumbag" as a moniker...???

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Number one is that each person is wholly responsible for his or her own life. We may not be the cause of every single thing that happens to us, certainly a sexually abused child didn't ask to be abused, but we are responsible for how we react. The difference between someone who never again has a healthy sexual experience, and someone who lives a wonderful, sexually fulfilled life, is due entirely their response to the abuse, and that is entirely under their control, even taking into account strong negative conditioning.

However, that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with getting help from others in order to handle your responsibility. It simply means never shifting that responsibility to someone else. If you ask someone for help, you can't blame them if you still fail.

I was a lot more frustrated at the world until I realised this.

Number two is that there's no such thing as failure. Every setback is either an indication that you're on the wrong path, or a clue as to how to walk your current path better.
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The secret to success is in being at the right place at the right time, as well as realizing that the right place and time are always here and now.
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Number one is that each person is wholly responsible for his or her own life. We may not be the cause of every single thing that happens to us, certainly a sexually abused child didn't ask to be abused, but we are responsible for how we react. The difference between someone who never again has a healthy sexual experience, and someone who lives a wonderful, sexually fulfilled life, is due entirely their response to the abuse, and that is entirely under their control, even taking into account strong negative conditioning.

However, that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with getting help from others in order to handle your responsibility. It simply means never shifting that responsibility to someone else. If you ask someone for help, you can't blame them if you still fail.

I was a lot more frustrated at the world until I realised this.

Number two is that there's no such thing as failure. Every setback is either an indication that you're on the wrong path, or a clue as to how to walk your current path better.
Fantastic post Mark... right on the button again... Congratulation...

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Don't forget to count your blessings.
This too shall pass.
You've only got one shot so go for it!
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Don't forget to count your blessings.
This too shall pass.
You've only got one shot so go for it!
Truer words were never spoken...

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I think an aphorism I came across the other day sums it up. Your ideas only work if you do.
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Good post.

The problem with Life is it may teach you things but by the time you learn it, it is too late. When you learn through a problem and hard knock, sometimes it's too late, you've lost the thing you wanted in order to learn it. Bit curel really. So we need to learn all these lessons before it is too late.
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Attitude is everything.
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Here are the two I live by:

"Shut the f@$& up and get to work."

"Shikin Haramitsu Daikomyo"
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Here are the two I live by:

"Shut the f@$& up and get to work."

"Shikin Haramitsu Daikomyo"
"Shikin Haramitsu Daikomyo"... which mean...???

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"Shikin Haramitsu Daikomyo"... which mean...???

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Life taught me not to quit so soon.
Sometimes success may be near when it seems afar.

A inspiring poem to share with you by Edgar Guest:

“When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
When you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a little bit,
Rest, if you must - but don’t you quit!

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow
You must succeed with another blow.

Success is a failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you can never tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit
It’s when things get worse you mustn’t quit.”
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Its your life: Rise up and live it.


Nothing is better than a bottle of ice cold cider and a good friend to have a chat with.


If life gives you lemons. You make the most complicated Lemon dish you possibly can.

Willfully turning aside from the truth is treason to oneself.

Passion Rules Reason.

Dead is dead.

What is, is.

Truth isn't always what you want it to be. But its always what you know it to be.

People are idefatigably, unequivolcally, unabashedly, uncomprimisingly stupid.

People don't listen to a word you say.

Its a waste of time trying to tell people something about the true nature of reality, because they won't listen, then mock you in some way.
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Life never teaches the lessons, it puts them in a military compound, surrounded by highly-trained professionals and gives you a toothbrush and a gun with a single bullet in it. Then it laughs at you.

Damn you life! You always make it so hard...
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Life never teaches the lessons, it puts them in a military compound, surrounded by highly-trained professionals and gives you a toothbrush and a gun with a single bullet in it. Then it laughs at you.

Damn you life! You always make it so hard...
Looks like you're having a bad hair day...

Gotta get rid of that mindset... turn the music full blast... take a deep breath... and tell us about the best thing that has ever happened to you... and all the positive things that you are going to do for the rest of your life...

Whining and moping is for wimps... you are better than that... so, let's see it...

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"Shikin Haramitsu Daikomyo"... which mean...???
It's an 8th century Buddhist prayer, and thus difficult to translate. Here's one possibility:

"In every encounter experience, there is the potential for gaining our enlightenment, the possibility of finding that one missing piece of the puzzle that brings about illumination. It is our own mind that determines the experience to be positive or negative."
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~That the things we think will be the big, life-changing decisions or actions seldom are - instead seemingly random occurrences drive our lives. It is not until years later that the pattern becomes clear.

~Dream big and then quit worrying and focus on what needs to happen today.

~All people (including oneself) are both absolutely unique and capable of unimagined kindess & greatness and utterly predictable and capable of unimagined cruelty and pettiness.
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It's an 8th century Buddhist prayer, and hus difficult to translate. Here's one possibility:

"In every encounter experience, there is the potential for gaining our enlightenment, the possibility of finding that one missing piece of the puzzle that brings about illumination. It is our own mind that determines the experience to be positive or negative."
Thank you for the translation llong... so, it would be a little like "meh" ...that is, almost anything you would like for it to be...

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Do what you want, no matter what anyone else says.

But obviously don't do something like heroin or whatever. Oh, and take care of your children first.
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