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Old 06-09-2007, 10:01 PM   #91 (permalink)
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Thanks Shamou, I thought it looked a bit weird!
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Old 08-03-2007, 03:33 AM   #92 (permalink)
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The most profound eye-opener for me was the notion of self-image, and how it greatly determines how your life will unfold. I've read through all the threads and really liked this one:

"To grow, observe what you react strongly to."

I've been practicing this one lately. For instance, if someone gets a rise out of me, I reframe it as an indicator that I need to work on handling my emotions better.
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Old 08-04-2007, 04:41 AM   #93 (permalink)
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Talking you're all you got, so lkng out for #1 isn't selfish

Accept/love your self...
Perception IS everything...
What's outside will tell you wha't going on inside...
One good deed a day...
It's all in your mind....
Never count your birthday age...
There are no accidents....
No one, no thing will come to save you - but you...
Be your best probable self....
May the chase and dance be a long one.....
Accept that love; can cause pain undescribably excruciating....
Accept nothing lasts forever...
You get what you pay for... and what you want/fearr....
Marriage?? poly, background, prenup....
The acorn doesn't fall far from the tree...
LOA knowledge now and not before I created many mistakes? damn...
"I created what ever I like/love/hate" - can no longer blame (darn)
Never carry your kids on your shoulders for they'll never learn to walk (so true)
Life IS hard.. learning 2 not take it personally nor B2 serious, we're all heroes..
We're all heroes accepting to be a human form at this time of shift.....
Allow yourself to forget the past and live/laff/luv/learn B4 disengaging....
Grateful for this forum for growth and awareness...
Choclolate..
Learn happiness is a choice...
Don't sit around waiting for his call......
Learning that there is substance in the invisible....
Live and give...
Laugh a lot...
Hope for true 'soul mate'....
Good friends..
South Park (haha)

This was fun. Thanks, Shamou
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Old 08-04-2007, 04:45 PM   #94 (permalink)
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The only thing of value I've learned in life is just this...

Stop listening to the peanut gallery and listen to yourself.

My one act of no longer seeking outside opinion, support or validation has created enormous freedom and increased effectiveness in my life.
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Old 08-05-2007, 01:40 PM   #95 (permalink)
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The two magical words in life;

'No problem !'
- Mark Hughes, founder of Herbalife international

No more whining, no more wondering if something is possible, no more procastrination (it ain't no problem) there simply is no problem...

Its also a excellent answer to a lot of questions;
Can I do this?
Can you help me? (no problem, instead of gringe, sigh well I guess so)
Why can't I change !
Why is everything so difficult? (no problem, lets see what we can do etc.)
Am I good enough for this?


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Old 02-11-2008, 04:12 AM   #96 (permalink)
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Life lessons:

1) To worry about problems, circumstances and events is the only worry.

Every Problem has solution, If problem has no solution. then it is not a 'Problem'.

Shifting to right attitude is more important than the solution of a problem.

Every problem has gift with it. Problems come in our life to give that gift.

Every Problem is stepping stone. Use problems as a spring board to jump higher and higher.

Every Problem is tuition teacher. Problem comes to teach you something.

Every Problem is a challenge in the great game called Life..

Dare to laugh at your problems.

Don't afraid of problems, do your homework.

Change word 'problem' to 'project'

2) Only live thing is PRESENT MOMENT.

3)Greatest secret of life is..
"What you give to others, you get that in your life."
Give love, get love.
Give happiness, get happiness.
Give torture, get torture..

4)We are all guests in this world. one day we all have to leave. so be kind to other guests

5) Whatever happening in your life right now is your true need for progress and understanding.. so change your attitude.

6) Never ever compare yourself to others just compare yourself only.

7) You are not body, you are in body. Self is different from body and mind.
Body and mind are just instruments of self.
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When you know who you really are, and what you really want, there's no end to the possibility.

Duct Tape is like the Force: It has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together.
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The only permanent thing in this world is CHANGE!
If you are rich, you can be richer or become poor again. If you are good, you can be bad and vice versa. In short, life is a continuous tour so be prepared to ride with it.
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Life has been called, 'The University of Hard Knocks.' Some of us have been around the block a few times... and should have learned some invaluable lessons... maybe you could share them with us...

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I guess, having just turned 40, I am one of the oldest on this forum. I have been married nigh on 12 years, have five children, and have worked constantly since leaving school at 16 years of age. A few tips from me.

# Tip for a successful marriage - Compromise

# Tip for a successful marriage - Remember that a 'fact' can be completely different from where you perceive it from. Where You Are Depends on How You Look at Things - Lifehack.org

# Read 'Automatic Millionaire' ( and A.I. Homeowner) by David Bach, as early in your life as you can.

# Implement GTD now.

# Learn to just be neutral on things you might disagree with that dont really impact on you, especially when dealing with siblings. When siblings quarrel, they tend to excel in it.

# Throw off the yokes of alcohol, drugs, coffee, tobacco and animal products immediately. The younger the do it, the less of an impact these will have in your life, and the easier they will be to leave behind.

# Give up work as an 'employee' as soon as you can, and work for yourself.

# Make Personal Development an every day part of your life
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Ya, it is a song lyric but I knew it long before they wrote it into a song.
Life is cyclical and when you are in your winter, there is always a spring just around the corner and likewise when it is summer, you must prepare for fall and winter.
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I guess, having just turned 40, I am one of the oldest on this forum. I have been married nigh on 12 years, have five children, and have worked constantly since leaving school at 16 years of age. A few tips from me.

# Tip for a successful marriage - Compromise

# Tip for a successful marriage - Remember that a 'fact' can be completely different from where you perceive it from. Where You Are Depends on How You Look at Things - Lifehack.org

# Read 'Automatic Millionaire' ( and A.I. Homeowner) by David Bach, as early in your life as you can.

# Implement GTD now.

# Learn to just be neutral on things you might disagree with that dont really impact on you, especially when dealing with siblings. When siblings quarrel, they tend to excel in it.

# Throw off the yokes of alcohol, drugs, coffee, tobacco immediately. The younger the do it, the less of an impact these will have in your life, and the easier they will be to leave behind.

# Give up work as an 'employee' as soon as you can, and work for yourself.

# Make Personal Development an every day part of your life





I'm impressed by your kindness. Hope the younger ones here take it to heart. Because it's all true.

At 37, I consider myself 40. I've just always rounded up.

Anyway, Thank you for posting it so eloquently...
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Correct.

Just be healthy, don't do drugs, no to alcohol, no to many dates etc etc...

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Life cannot break you. What happens when you say it did is that you give up. - Don't.

On a similar note:

Life is a grindstone. But if it grinds you down or polishes you up depends on you.

Don't know who said that last one. But after a lot of thinking, I have come to the conclusion that it holds the key to all the rest.
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Old 03-01-2008, 06:05 AM   #104 (permalink)
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Some of the things I've learned in my 39 years is:

You must be open to change in order to grow.

Everything happens for a reason! You may not know why at the time it does, but you will eventually.

I am a firm believer in Karma and I believe everybody gets what they deserve. Good, bad, right or wrong it will always come back around. So as Shakespere says, "Love all, trust few and do wrong to no one!"

Tell the people you love in your life that you love them and tell them often. It may be the last chance you'll ever get.

And last but certainly not least the only person you can ever depend on is yourself!
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I like that one. One thing I've learned while working is that anticipating the end of the day makes it harder to get through, because I'm not focused on working. I like to remind myself of these things:

1. There is no 'break'.
2. There is no 'end of the day'
3. There certainly is no 'weekend'.
4. You aren't working hard enough!
*cough* heart attack *cough*

just kidding... but don't you think that that's a bit harsh
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Learn as much as you can about yourself, your values, your passions, your abilities, your dreams, and what motivates you. Be as authentic as possible. Don't let other people or situations determine who you are. Be relentless in that pursuit.

Change is always possible. You are never stuck. You just need to make the first step forward and be open to all possibilities.

Be kind and forgiving. To yourself first, then to others.

Seek help when necessary. That is a bold act, not a weak one.

Move past mistakes and failures. Every moment is a new beginning and a gift.
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Life has taught me to believe in Karma or deeds. I have seen this so many time. When people do good deeds, good things happen to them; and when people do bad things, no matter how much they try to escape, the karma does come back to bite them....

So keep your karma clean
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Our beliefs come from the meanings we attribute to events. There is no inherent meaning in the things that happen to us, but we always draw meanings anyway. When I realised this, it helped me remove a lot of beliefs that were bringing me down. Instead of drawing negative conclusions from events in my life, I chose to frame them in a positive light and it just changed my life!

Another thing that helped me was when someone told me that there is a positive motive behind everything everyone does in the world. Before, I found it hard to get on with people but when I started putting myself in their shoes and saw what their motives were, it changed my whole viewpoint.

Ultimately, it's all about an attitude change. It seems simple, but I think if people just learnt to cultivate better attitudes the world would be such a better place. It's something they should teach in school!
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Never underestimate the power of your being on other people.
You can choose to do great things and make amazing ripples in the pond of life.
I appeciate the impact that I can have on others and I choose my actions accordingly.
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Life is what you make it.

Nothing is truly right or wrong, good or bad, its how we look at a situation that determines what it is for ourselves.

Pain is resistance.

Reality is what is.

Love has no expectations.

I make life hard with my thoughts about it.

That I can change the way I feel by working on changing my thoughts and beliefs.

I can't ask someone to do something I can't even do myself.

The harder I am on myself, the harder I am on others.

To what extent I am able to truly love myself is directly the same extent I am able to love others.

Life lessons are repeated until learned.
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The most important thing that I've learnt and still trying to grasp is that security can only be found from within.
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At the top of the list of great life lessons is turning obstacles into opportunities. It's something that requires conscious living, but will contribute unimaginably to a positive attitude. You might not see why at first, but with time, anything can be viewed as a lesson. You will certainly be better off for looking at it that way.
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My purpose in life is joy. ~ Abraham Hicks (Well-Being card deck)
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To listen to my gut when I don't know what to do - the gut is right almost every time!
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That whatever happens happens for the best.

I don't want to go into a long story but the things that caused me much pain were the things that later on turned out to be turning points in my life. If they had not happened, I would not be who I am today.
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Give it a go!

Believe in yourself.

Whenever your inner voice says "yes" and other people say "no", the answer is "yes".

Question everything, do everything according to real understanding and not just by parroting the technique. If everyone brushes their teeth, try not brushing your teeth just to learn why it's a good idea.

Learn from experience.

Experience.

Do things.

No really, get out there!

Do what you are called to do - now. There is no obstacle to getting started. Express your love, or you will be one of the living dead.

Love hard, feel safe.

And something I'm learning now: slow down.

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Life is like a ride people are afraid to ride on, but then they don't want to get off of it when the time comes. Sort of like that.

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