Feeling Overwhelmed, Getting Nothing Done, Don't Know What to do Next

[CamC]

OK first I would like to say that I am young (not a little kid) and I have very high aims. I'm currently a horrible reader, very slow, very low comprehension. There are certain skills I want to learn and I don't know where to start. I keep bouncing back from book to book, skill to skill. It feels like I'm moving ahead at about 100 mph but am on a treadmill.

The skills I want to learn are as follows:
LoA (deliberate creation)
PhotoReading
The Sedona Method
NLP


Now I keep getting confused on which thing I should try to learn first. One moment I think LoA, then, I get anxiety and think I need to learn PhotoReading first, but then I think that will take too long and I will lose my motivation to move forward, etc. etc. Then if I decide to do LoA, I don't know what product to try (Abundance for Life, Wealth Beyond Reason, The Science of Success).

My time management is all off. I keep procrastinating, feeling tired, and getting nothing done. I have begun using the "Get Around to It" Paraliminal with little results. Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

[pinkhighlighter]

I have this same problem. So many things I want to do, but my time management is horrible. I am a freelance writer. I do this during the day, during the week. I also love to read. I want to improve my vocabulary. I am also into genealogy.
I think we need to get our time management perfected.
24 hours in a day minus 6-8 for sleeping. Still many hours of the day. Start yourself on a schedule. It might vary from day to day. Fix your schedule the next before or the morning of. At either of those times, you will know what you want to accomplish that day.
You want to work on 4 things. There are 7 days of the week. Devote your weekend to a project. Divide the other 3 between the week? Maybe one hour on each Mon, Wed, and Friday? This gives you two days off to refresh yourself. I think if we do anything too much, we stop doing it altogether.

[Jon]

Originally Posted by CamC

The skills I want to learn are as follows:
LoA (deliberate creation)
PhotoReading
The Sedona Method
NLP

Why do you want to learn all this?

[CamC]

Originally Posted by Jon

Why do you want to learn all this?

Like I said, I have very high goals.

[m0vingon]

I would suggest taking on one thing at a time. Doing too much at once can lead to lots of incomplete projects or lots of projects that get done but end up being less enjoyable or sub-par in the end.

I'd say look at the list of things you want to do and decide that if you could only do one, which would it be? Or, you can look at it and choose to start on the task that will be on of: 1) the easiest 2) the fastest, or 3) lend itself the most to the process of learning the others. But, choose one, really focus on it and give it your all. Let the process be about what you're doing and not about what you plan on accomplishing.

Does that make sense?

[Jon]

Originally Posted by CamC

Like I said, I have very high goals.

My point was.. when your 'Why' is strong enough, you forget all about procrastination and lack of motivation.

[Sunnybayes]

How old are you though? I just turned 21 years old. Most of the people on this forum are in their twenties. There is a thread somewhere that has a pole with the age distribution. Are you in high school or college, or just graduated?


And the feeling of procrastination is actually not a bad thing. That feeling of procrastination actually means that you are trying to push your limits. But it becomes a bad thing if you constantly feel like it because that means your brain never gets a chance to settle on concentrating on learning one thing.

I keep bouncing back from book to book, skill to skill.

Ok, so you defiantly need to stop jumping around. Why? Because it takes so much energy for your brain to reorganize itself to learning a new skill. And all the transitions of trying to learn something new is what causes you to feel like you are procrastinating.

Well, it sounds like you want to learn many things, so it sounds like alot of reading.

But seriously though, stop bouncing around, that is where all the feelings of uneasiness comes from.

From my experience this semester studying abroad, I have been able to work on my skills on attracting women. I have read material for about 4 hours a day, I've become very motivated and have been able to see alot of progress in myself.

But now this week I actually have to write a paper. This is a major transition in a type of skill that I now must make my brain reorganize itself to tackle, and it feels like hell and lots of energy to get myself to switch modes. So I had to spend three days just trying to focus myself on even thinking about writing the paper, and the feeling like I have been procrastinating was intense during those days and I always felt really uneasy and was distracted easy and was really unmotivated to do it, because it was such a different thing from the habits that I had in me before. Now I am able to concentrate on writing my paper just fine, and I don't feel like I am procrastinating and am at ease because my brain has reorganized itself to handle this task. But this is at the expense that now I am not able to concentrate as well on being able to read about and attracting women.

The first time that I consciously experienced this was last thanksgiving. I am a physics student, but I spent the whole thanks giving break 2 weeks, thinking about relationship stuff, becasuse I really wanted to learn how to get a girl friend. And it was the case that the day that I would get back that I had a midterm in thermal physics. But I knew that I normally only needed to study about 5 hours and then I would be fine. But since my brain was organized to learn and to read about relationship stuff, it took me a day .... 12 hours.... of just sitting there and staring at my thermal physics book before the information would even attempt to go into my head. Then I had to study an additional 5 hours on top of that. I wondered what the hell was wrong with me, but then I look back and realized that was the cause.

I've found that it takes me about 1 - 3 days of transition time to get my brain set and motivation running to be able to learn about something new. So it might be like a week or so depending on how much time you spend.

AND A REALLY IMPORTANT THING. Whatever you do, during this transition period don't get frustrated and try really really hard and bust your balls, because there is a physical limit to how fast your brain can reorganize its neural circuits, so don't let negative thoughts get you unmotivated. Just recognize and except it as a fact that it will just take time, and that as long as you try at least a little bit then you will get through the transition period and then it will become very easy to concentrate and study and get motivation once you get over that hill.


So just take on the task of tackling the PhotoReading for 3 months or 5 or so. It is a very new skill so you are going to have to go through the pain of reorganizing your brain you that you are able to concentrate on the new skill. But if you stick to actually putting in real effort into it, and you'll know you are putting effort into it if you are feeling uneasy, then about after a week, it wont be so hard to think about it and your motivation to learn it will sky rocket and will become fun, and you will form a subconscious habit in your brain of studying it daily and then you will be able to read faster and faster.

Then after about 3 or 4 months or so, of you've felt like you've learned photo reading enough then you can jump onto learning a new skill. But definatly there is a limit to how many skills you can learn at once.

I think that school would be much easier for kids if it was the case that they spent an extended amount of time just learning one or two subjects, instead of 8....

[Sunnybayes]

When you are trying to get yourself to focus on the task
Say affirmations to yourself. All you have to do is say "I am able to learn and focus and concentrate on learning this PhotoSystem, it is becoming very easy" or something along those lines. Just keep on saying that to yourself over and over and over again, basically when a negative thought or feeling pops up when as you are trying to bring yourself to learn the new skill.

This works because when you say it, saying the words of the sentence cause very specific neural circuits in your brain to fire, ones that specifically go along with your command that you gave your mind, and so causes your brain to reorganize faster.

Ok so that sounded very hand wavy I'd admit, I'll just need to think about a way to explain the reasons a little better in a later post, but do it anyway and you'll feel the negative emotions go away.

Well people also call this on the LAW OF ATTRACTION. So the way that I would describe it as it feels inside you body is that when you are trying to make yourself focus, that intention/command that you give your mind, it feels like where it happens it at the top... to me it feels like in your nose. And the resistance and the pain feels like it comes from the bottom, like your stomach.

But anyway saying the affirmation to yourself, to me felt like it made the feeling inside my stomach align with the command that I was giving at the top... but anyway that sounds kinda like fuzzy B.S. but I'll just have to explain it better in a later post.

I just found this out yesterday as I was going through the transition of concentrating on writing my paper, and I remeber using this when I was in high school as well but I forgot about this technique... so I'm glad I rediscovered it.

But say the affirmations anyway, and as you do that, you will be able to actually physically feel what I'm talking about, just be conscious of that feeling in your body, which that in itself might take practice, and you'll know what I'm talking about.