Coming out the closet (of self development/knowledge) ?

[lotusseed52]

Hello everyone,

For a long time, I've kept self development (or learning more about myself) away from everyone, family and friends. Recently I've been only a little open about my views...

yet I wonder...... I feel like I should remind this "natural sincerity" to a lot of people. This naturalness we already have......what I'd like to know is ... how were your experiences? Any reasons not to? Certain things I should be aware of? Of course, i do NOT expect to follow what you experienced. I merely wish to hear your experiences, being open to what you all will say. (Was it gradual or all at once?!)

I also have another question, how do you deal with the conflict of when you feel like you could much more to help others? Ease their suffering a bit? While we're all still suffering in our own way.

I'm confident there's a thread similar to this but... I wasn't sure of the keywords to search. I don't mean to bring up an extra possibly useless thread of the same theme.

Thank you!

[Minimabs]

In real life? I don't tend to push my stuff onto people. If people are interested in something about me, a behaviour, the way I think things through, goals I've achieved etc and ask for my advice then I might offer it in such a way as - I read this book, attended this seminar or did this class.

Personally? I run for the hills when someone comes across as evangelical about some new found something. I'd rather observe someone living a dream then approach them to find out how they are doing it.

You might also like to think about why the people you know appear to be suffering - what do they gain for being that way? We only do things for one of two reasons - to avoid pain or to gain pleasure. They may be getting a much bigger payoff right now from what they have than from what you might be able to offer them.

There is nothing wrong in wanting to help other people - that is a great value to have. Maybe just direct it at people that are looking for change and guidance on how to change. Set an example and they may well come to you for guidance.