Do you talk alot and have people loving what you talk about?
 

So like your a fun person. talking alot, everyone likes being around you?

if so...


... what goes through your mind before you talk? How do you create what you say?

I been mostly shy quiet and introverted and wanna go the other way - to an extreme, in a good way and so thought to get some tips from people who already do what I want to be able to do

Two things that will help: Talk about stuff that excites you. That enthusiasm is contagious and others love being around someone like that. The other thing is to pay very close attention to others & listen to them and be interested (probably easy for an introvert). People like feeling like someone cares about what they have to say rather than always talking about themselves.

People like being around a positive, happy, enjoyable person who smiles and laughs often, someone who isn't negative or talks about negative things-complaining, gossiping, etc.

I agree with Dimond, especially the second bit.

You don't actually need to be a big talker to be someone people love to have conversations with. I'm more of a listener than a talker, so I hear what people say and offer my honest feedback (except if I don't know what to think, when I'll say, "I'm not sure. What do you really feel about it/what does your intuition tell you?" Sometimes just encouraging people to articulate their feelings helps them find clarity). But I am happy and supportive and positive, which I think is more important in a conversation partner.