Pretending you have tons of self-esteem when you are daunted with work.

[no pocky for kitty]

Do you think it helps?

I'm not where i want to be right now. My work isn't improving at the rate I want it to.

In any case lemme know.


I feel like I used to go above and beyond a lot more than i do now. Its like im getting weighed down by my thoughts. Though i have the intention of not thinking too much, they sometimes sneak up on me. They catch me off gaurd WAY too much.

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by no pocky for kitty

Do you think it helps?

I'm not where i want to be right now. My work isn't improving at the rate I want it to.

In any case lemme know.


I feel like I used to go above and beyond a lot more than i do now. Its like im getting weighed down by my thoughts. Though i have the intention of not thinking too much, they sometimes sneak up on me. They catch me off gaurd WAY too much.

New jobs have phases. Phase one is the honeymoon period, you're excited about the job and will do anything for it. Phase two is the comedown period, where you can't keep up the honeymoon anymore because you were never meant to pour your life's energy into someone else's money-making engine. Phase three is what happens when you decide to either give up on your personal ambitions and devote yourself to your job anew, or to give your own self-growth the number one spot and give your job what's left. Sounds like you're square in phase two. I'll tell you what helped me to phase three.

Basically I decided that I should put myself first. The best I have to offer is wasted on other people because they won't know how best to utilize my talents, nor is their business flexible enough to accommodate my telling them how to use me. Luckily, I love my job enough that what's left over after I put myself first is more than enough to survive and thrive in my environment. It helps to be competent and have real skills that aren't easily replicated.

But even if you don't and aren't, you shouldn't sweat the compromising of your work ethic. It's much more likely that even your mediocre efforts are better than other's best efforts. I've had a programmer friend of mine tell me that half of his best effort is still better than all of his coworkers, on a pure lines of code basis. But he still feels like he's cheating his employer when he doesn't put forth that best effort all the time.

Bottom line: Relax.

[no pocky for kitty]

Originally Posted by VinceG

New jobs have phases. Phase one is the honeymoon period, you're excited about the job and will do anything for it. Phase two is the comedown period, where you can't keep up the honeymoon anymore because you were never meant to pour your life's energy into someone else's money-making engine. Phase three is what happens when you decide to either give up on your personal ambitions and devote yourself to your job anew, or to give your own self-growth the number one spot and give your job what's left. Sounds like you're square in phase two. I'll tell you what helped me to phase three.

Basically I decided that I should put myself first. The best I have to offer is wasted on other people because they won't know how best to utilize my talents, nor is their business flexible enough to accommodate my telling them how to use me. Luckily, I love my job enough that what's left over after I put myself first is more than enough to survive and thrive in my environment. It helps to be competent and have real skills that aren't easily replicated.

But even if you don't and aren't, you shouldn't sweat the compromising of your work ethic. It's much more likely that even your mediocre efforts are better than other's best efforts. I've had a programmer friend of mine tell me that half of his best effort is still better than all of his coworkers, on a pure lines of code basis. But he still feels like he's cheating his employer when he doesn't put forth that best effort all the time.

Bottom line: Relax.

I agree with you to an extent. I'm a wary of assuming that automatically though. I mean whose to say its really true that my efforts are better than most people.

I have no way of gauging that.
Thanks for your feedback.

[IEvo]

Well, there's no way to fake self-esteem, although faking it and maintining positive self-talk can help you achieve it over time.

As VinceG said, you need to look at your work and decide if that's what you really want to be doing with your life. Because if it isn't, that's the reason you are losing passion and finding that your work ethic isn't where you'd like it to be.

What thoughts are you having that are weighing you down? Perhaps that would give more insight into the problem.