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08-01-2010, 09:59 PM
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 Over and over and over again. I think you're going to have to acknowledge this one before your unconscious mind let's you go any further, much like I had to disconnect "I'm stuck" before I was Being a person who could go any further:  | ||
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08-01-2010, 10:03 PM
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08-01-2010, 10:07 PM
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08-01-2010, 10:07 PM
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Andrew, I want to honor you for doing this. It does take incredible courage. Some of the things brought through in this thread have a funny sting for me, just reading them. One thing that happened for me, in going through this, which may help you. I had to let it sneak up on me. When I was pushing and looking head-on I wasn't letting myself see it because I'd gotten so GOOD at being - guarded. Which means, I needed a roundabout sideways thing to get it to the surface (namely, being with a sense of privacy and seeing someone else mention it - that snuck through my defenses). I dunno how this would work for you, but what if you try on the idea that you are doing this for someone else? For a close friend who has had the exact same set of experiences? Might help? I will continue pulling for you to get wherever you're meaning to get with this. |
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08-01-2010, 10:08 PM
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Remember that there needs to be no logical, grammatical or any other type of sense in whatever you feel is true for you.... | |
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08-01-2010, 10:19 PM
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I accept that I am going in circles with not being able to identify the gremlin because I can't (  ) see it and I don't want to see it by going further because this is a belief. I am frustrating myself by going in this circle, and I am accepting that I CAN do this and go farther.
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08-01-2010, 10:25 PM
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Am I being too subtle? Look. Your unconscious mind has identified your gremlin, and is thinking about dropping a bookcase on your conscious mind to get you to see it: Quote:
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08-01-2010, 10:28 PM
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That I am powerless? WHAT? I CAN? It is that I can't? | |
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08-01-2010, 10:48 PM
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And there is nothing to do, as I said. I mean, there are some steps you can take to release it, but those steps are meaningless if you're not willing to bring that unconscious thought to the light of consciousness. If you're believing "I can't" why in the world would you think that you would also be believing you can? You might want to take a look at the earliest time you believed "I can't" -- how old were you, who was there, what happened, what was said. And if you say "I can't" or "I don't know" I'm going to lay the wrath of the Lord upon thee. |
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08-01-2010, 11:25 PM
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and look again, from that point of view. What are you seeing? (oh, and be nice to Angela. She's helping you here, if you don't want her help anymore, you just have to say the word and she'll back off. But you said you wanted. You said you wanted to continue looking and to continue on this road. Don't go blaming it on her now! Be nice to her, even when you're frustrated and angry with yourself!) | |
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08-01-2010, 11:29 PM
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08-01-2010, 11:32 PM
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It might be a good thing to apply that to this situation (Angela has some great questions as well). I suggest that you may have to work through this layer first, before being able (before you can ) work on the next levels.Your subconscious will lead you there when you are ready. | |
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08-01-2010, 11:42 PM
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08-01-2010, 11:45 PM
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08-02-2010, 12:06 AM
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  I started following along last night, typing out a list of statements with each followed by "and that means". The hit-with-a-brick moment came this afternoon. For me, the turning point came when I realized that my "I can't" gremlin is actually protecting me from a much scarier gremlin. I'm still getting to know this new Big Gremlin. St33med, I'm sorry this process is so frustrating for you, but as others have said, I applaud your courage and honesty in dealing with your gremlin out in the open where your experience can help others.  | |
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08-02-2010, 01:45 AM
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But now I think I get it. It's probably confusing to you because in the beginning, she told you that it would be in the form of an "I am" type statement (and it is). And now she's saying that that pesky "I can't" might be it. My interpretation here, and maybe this'll help a bit, is that she's wanting you to recognize the layers as you go down. The "I can't" thing is a buffer to some deeper layer, but it might help you to recognize the layer of "I can't" before you go deeper, or you're going to continue to convince yourself that you really can't find it and keep getting stuck. You mentioned the sliding board, not being able to go down it because it was metal and scary. I figure the "I can't" (you can't what???) probably surfaced there...and it probably lead you to say something like "I'm ___". And I think the title of this thread is ironic, because I think it's a huge gaping clue for you, sitting right there in the open. In other words, recognize and acknowledge the layer of "I can't," see if it really shows up in your life, see if it feels familiar to you. See if it feels like a stop being put between you and what you want to do, so if it's limiting you. See it, and acknowledge it, examine it and see if it fits for you, and recognize that beyond that you are going to find it. And when you do find it, when you see it, you're going to realize that it's already out there. That you've already discovered it in this thread, but your too busy focusing on the "I can't" thing that you aren't truly seeing it. Acknowledge that you can't, and then do it anyway, recognizing that you have all the resources you need already. Then take up your shovel, and dig a little deeper. "I can't...." What can't you do? Why can't you do it? And what does it mean about you? | |
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