My new life - stop porn and masturbation - create a new life

[ultimate]

a life where I get laid like a rock star!

I have to create this life and I will

yeahhh!

basic steps
- make bedroom tidier and more cosy so that if a woman wants to come round it will look nice
- meet more women - going out/internet
- ask more women out for a coffee/phone number

help me make this work
any tips let me know
im just gonna be myself - am not going to ready any pua stuff
experience is king

[Captain Drywall]

You can say " oh, I'm just living here till my parents get back on there feet"
or, you can pretend your mom is the maid.

Just kidding, good luck with your endeavors.

[blossom]

Ask Plays With Life

Originally Posted by ultimate

a life where I get laid like a rock star!

I have to create this life and I will

yeahhh!

basic steps
- make bedroom tidier and more cosy so that if a woman wants to come round it will look nice
- meet more women - going out/internet
- ask more women out for a coffee/phone number

help me make this work
any tips let me know
im just gonna be myself - am not going to ready any pua stuff
experience is king

[st33med]

Originally Posted by blossom

Ask Plays With Life

I don't think he is ready to hear what his sexual - err, inifinite wisdom on these matters is

[blossom]

Originally Posted by st33med

I don't think he is ready to hear what his sexual - err, inifinite wisdom on these matters is

Perhaps not...but I couldn't help myself

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by ultimate

any tips let me know

Be irresistible to women.
*enjoy* giving a woman an orgasm.
Don't stop just because you cum.

Slap random girls on their arses.

OK, just kidding about that last one. Only I can pull that one off, and not get slapped right back.

Scratch the coffee / phone number. Ask them to an orgy.

And if they're not interested in an orgy, that's OK - you're available tonight for some intimate one on one sex. Got to be sensitive to a girls preferences, you know?

[blossom]

You really should crown yourself King PWL What a smoothie

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Be irresistible to women.
*enjoy* giving a woman an orgasm.
Don't stop just because you cum.

Slap random girls on their arses.

OK, just kidding about that last one. Only I can pull that one off, and not get slapped right back.

Scratch the coffee / phone number. Ask them to an orgy.

And if they're not interested in an orgy, that's OK - you're available tonight for some intimate one on one sex. Got to be sensitive to a girls preferences, you know?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by blossom

You really should crown yourself King PWL What a smoothie

What a great idea.

[blossom]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

What a great idea.

Come on...do you really get away with slapping random girls on the arse? You'd get a slap from me!

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by blossom

Come on...do you really get away with slapping random girls on the arse? You'd get a slap from me!

Only the right girls.

[blossom]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Only the right girls.

So can you tell, just by looking at them, that they are the "right" girls who will let you do this? Do they have a tattoo on their forehead that says " I have no sense of personal boundaries...feel free to slap my arse anytime, even if you don't know me...teehee?"

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by blossom

So can you tell, just by looking at them, that they are the "right" girls who will let you do this? Do they have a tattoo on their forehead that says " I have no sense of personal boundaries...feel free to slap my arse anytime, even if you don't know me...teehee?"

More like: "Ooh, I'm so attracted to you and I want you to touch me, and I'm not shy about it. *licks lips*"

[blossom]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

More like: "Ooh, I'm so attracted to you and I want you to touch me, and I'm not shy about it. *licks lips*"

Are you sure that isn't just your interpretation? Maybe they just ate and had food on their lips?

Do you interpret any girl who doesn't want you slapping them on the arse as being 'shy'?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by blossom

Are you sure that isn't just your interpretation? Maybe they just ate and had food on their lips?

Well, I had a girl sit down in front of me, stare at my crotch and lick her lips, then look up at me. Considering what happened afterwards, I'm pretty sure I interpreted that one right.

I think you were implying my interpretation could be wrong, there. Right?

[blossom]

Yes, I was implying that it was possible you had misinterpreted the signs...but having read your last post, it definately sounds like you didn't

There are some very forward women in the world! I find this interesting, as I've honestly never heard of this behaviour.

But is this where you 'randomly slapped her on the arse'? The way I initially read it, it seemed like you were talking about just going up to girls, strangers basically , and giving them a good old slap, which is what provoked my initial response. Is this not what you meant by 'slapping random girls on the ass'?

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Well, I had a girl sit down in front of me, stare at my crotch and lick her lips, then look up at me. Considering what happened afterwards, I'm pretty sure I interpreted that one right.

I think you were implying my interpretation could be wrong, there. Right?

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by blossom

There are some very forward women in the world! I find this interesting, as I've honestly never heard of this behaviour.

I've known girls who are even more forward than that.

Originally Posted by blossom

But is this where you 'randomly slapped her on the arse'? The way I initially read it, it seemed like you were talking about just going up to girls, strangers basically , and giving them a good old slap, which is what provoked my initial response. Is this not what you meant by 'slapping random girls on the ass'?

She was a stranger. But yes, if a girl is giving me blatant sexual signals, then I feel pretty free to be blatantly sexual with her.

Since we're on the topic, I have known girls who like to be slapped in the arse by strangers. At a party, or something. They just bend over and all the guys slap them.

[Marund]

Do you talk to women a lot already?

[blossom]

I've known girls at parties who like that too

I was thinking more the stranger in the street kind of scenario...but that isn't what you meant obviously, though you didn't mention signals or the context of what you meant initially, so it's understandable that I would not know what context to put it in!

If it were me, and a guy randomly came up and slapped me on the ass in the street or some other public space, and I hadn't given any signals at all, and I didn't know him, then I would probably go balistic and smack him, but at a party, I don't know how I'd react...guess it would depend on the guy...my bad though.

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

I've known girls who are even more forward than that.



She was a stranger. But yes, if a girl is giving me blatant sexual signals, then I feel pretty free to be blatantly sexual with her.

Since we're on the topic, I have known girls who like to be slapped in the arse by strangers. At a party, or something. They just bend over and all the guys slap them.

[ultimate]

ok plays for life
do you always wait for some kind of sign from a woman that she wants it?

if a woman wants to meet with you does it mean they want it?

im just a little lost on this whole subject - i have no experience and have read many different view points

what would you say is best for me to do if i want to get laid - (women want this as much as men im sure)

give me a few simple steps
your motto

lol

[PhoenixFlames]

Originally Posted by ultimate

- ask more women out for a coffee/phone number

Throw enough mud around, its sure to stick somewhere.

I have a Gym buddy who is less tactical than me but has slept with more girls as a result.

As you say, strike up a conversation with women, be your "true" self and make face to face or text invites for a Coffee. My Gym buddy plays the numbers game- where he will get 10 phone numbers, do a mass text invite and meet up with the one who does turn up

Any timewasters, put them on the back burner or delete their numbers- works for him

Originally Posted by ultimate

im just gonna be myself - am not going to ready any pua stuff

Google PUA Openers though and use them only if they DO apply to a certain areas of your life.

PUA Openers work because they are non intrusive and indirect. Use them to Open a conversation and the rest is up to you.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by ultimate

ok plays for life
do you always wait for some kind of sign from a woman that she wants it?

if a woman wants to meet with you does it mean they want it?

im just a little lost on this whole subject - i have no experience and have read many different view points

what would you say is best for me to do if i want to get laid - (women want this as much as men im sure)

give me a few simple steps
your motto

lol

OK, I was joking around a bit there. But honestly, I probably don't know much about approaching girls. I've never done it; girls approach me.

I'd be up front about wanting sex, though. If I ask for coffee, I'll get either acceptance or rejection of coffee. If I ask for sex, I'll get either acceptance or rejection of sex. Coffee just seems like a roundabout way to go about it. I kind of doubt Mick Jagger invites girls out for coffee.

Be openly sexual; broadcast that you want sex, unashamedly, and people will know you want it. Then when there's a girl who wants sex with you, she'll know you're open to it.

[ultimate]

girls approach you

serious dude?
what is your mindset like? what do you think?

do you get it everywhere u go?

how can I be like you?

serious dude

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by ultimate

girls approach you

serious dude?

They totally do. They ask me to lunch, or out to coffee. I've heard some pretty funny conversation starters, too.

I was walking around a street fair one time, and a (hot) Latina girl came up to me:
"Hi. Um, do you think pouring out this alcohol in that plant will kill the plant?"

Originally Posted by ultimate

what is your mindset like? what do you think?

I don't really know. I'm just confident that girls will like me?

I'm also confident that I'm willing and able to please a girl, sexually and otherwise. I know I have something she wants, and I know I enjoy giving it to her.

Originally Posted by ultimate

do you get it everywhere u go?

Pretty much.

Originally Posted by ultimate

how can I be like you?

serious dude

I do walk around alone, in crowds a lot. I just enjoy being alone in a crowd. I think it makes me approachable. ie, street fairs, outdoor concerts. Things like that.

And of course, being irresistibly sexy is key.

[ultimate]

cool man - thanks

where are you from dude?

[ultimate]

on what the latina girl said

so do you think anytime a woman talks to you, opens you etc
that she wants you?

what do you do to progress things?

i think thats the main area i need to just get right in my head

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by ultimate

cool man - thanks

where are you from dude?

I grew up in California.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by ultimate

on what the latina girl said

so do you think anytime a woman talks to you, opens you etc
that she wants you?

what do you do to progress things?

i think thats the main area i need to just get right in my head

I think a person doesn't know whether they want another person sexually, straight off the bat. Sometimes there's an instant "oh Lord that person is hot, I want to lay them right now". But usually it's more like - "oh, well that person looks interesting". The potential for interest is there. She may not even know whether she wants the guy or not.

To progress things, I just get playful. Get touchy.

A lot of the time, the girl progresses things, too. I had a girl climb up into a hammock with me one time, lay on top of me, and just kiss me.

[blossom]

If you get pepper sprayed or slapped in the face, or worse...then you know she didn't want it!

But seriously, it's probably not a good idea to assume that just because a girl talks to you that it means she wants you. I've had guys come and approach me, and I've talked to them, just out of being friendly...which they took to mean I wanted them...it was a huge blow to their egos when they tried to kiss me and I was genuinely shocked and repelled!

If you are new to the game it's a good idea to start learning what signals mean what, and also that some girls can give mixed signals which can be confusing for a guy. Sometimes it can lead to ugly things like rape charges! I'm not saying this to freak you out, just to help you to think about it realistically from your position. PWL has had experience...you are new to it. He knows what signals to look for...you don't sound like you do at this stage...I could be wrong! It's important that you do get the signals right otherwise it can lead to problems.

PWL is a good looking guy...of course girls will approach him. It's best to be realistic about things to. I think it could be dangerous to just pretend you are like him. You are YOU, and it's probably a good idea to work out what is attractive about you and focus on those attributes as well as incorporating some of the mental attitudes that PWL has.

Originally Posted by ultimate

on what the latina girl said

so do you think anytime a woman talks to you, opens you etc
that she wants you?

what do you do to progress things?

i think thats the main area i need to just get right in my head

[deserted]

PWL clearly has huge confidence and, I would imagine, projects this as he walks around. That's why women approach him out of the blue. He has an 'aura'.

As for slapping women on the arse and being openly sexual with women you don't know, there are very few guys who can get away with this (and the OP is pretty much definitely not one of them). Out of the hundreds of guys I've met in my time and thousands of hours in bars, etc., I'd say that I've known two who could do that. (Most of the rest of the guys do ok with women but are just not in that class).

One of them would just give a 'come here' motion with his finger and just about any woman would walk over to him and within a minute be laughing and giggling. He'd do that randomly on the street, too. He slept with hundreds of women (whether that made him a nice guy / decent human being or not is open to debate).

The other guy was a bartender and he'd have seemingly normal women (i.e. not bimbos) eating whipped cream off his nipples. He had this thing about spanking them with a ping-pong bat in front of the whole bar. Getting them to show him their boobs became so common that I think he actually got bored of that.

Blossom I hate to say it but I'm pretty sure you'd be lapping up this behaviour like all the rest of the women if you encountered a guy like PWL...

Anyway, my point is that guys with that level of confidence and charisma are very rare and that slapping random women on the arse is not going to get the vast majority of men a date. My advice for the OP (which has always worked for me) is the opposite: in your encounters with women, do not think about sex because you'll come across as sleazy and / or desperate (both big turnoffs). Most women have a thousand guys that are only interested in them for sex so be different. Be nice! Take an interest in her, ask lots of questions, have a laugh, have fun... If you're the happy, healthy guy with friends and an active life, I promise you won't have any trouble finding a date. (I think you've realised that a guy who uses massive amounts of internet porn is not most women's idea of a dream date).

[ultimate]

ok awesome - thanks everyone -
Blossom - what are your thoughts if your with a guy and your interested in him and he talks to you but nothing else - e.g. kiss

what are your thoughts on that kind of person?

is there a going too slow?
im sure two women are interested in me but not sure if i should be more fun and sexual to progress things.

when a girl is interested in a man does she think of sex quite soon? would they think i like them as a friend and nothing more if i do not progress things?

saying that should i wait for the woman to progress things?