Help - Loss of Enjoyment

[Steorra]

I've recently noticed that I don't seem to enjoy anything anymore.

I used to love writing, piano, singing, all my classes, etc. But ever since the pressure/stress has increased, I don't like any of it anymore. Even some of the people around me have mentioned that whenever I "formalize" a hobby (e.g. taking voice lessons instead of just singing when I feel like it, etc.), I start avoiding it. Deadlines seem to automatically cause procrastination and dread.

In truth, I think the only time I enjoy is with my boyfriend, not really even with my family anymore. My parents are constantly lecturing me (personally, it seems a little like unfounded criticism about my grades...I'm technically at the top of my high school class right now). They also do not want me to spend too much time with my boyfriend (more accurately: they wish I didn't have one).

Some days I sit down and try to think of what I *want* to do, and I come up with absolutely nothing. It's like I suddenly have no aspirations, although I was very ambitious when I was younger (I'm sixteen right now).

It's odd to wake up feeling miserable, and go to sleep dreading morning. I don't think there are any actual reasons for my behavior/mindset; there's nothing outwardly *wrong* with my life. Well, I mean, there is, but most of my problems have existed for several years, and I don't think they would suddenly start affecting me now.

Is this just a stage? Will it go away on its own?

Any insight into my situation would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

[Talkofthatown919]

i believe that the problems that exist within your life should be dealt with. They are like a hurdle or more so a load of weight that needs to be lifted off your shoulders. Then after that find something that you can enjoy doing no matter if you will get paid or not doing it. It comes straight from the heart with enjoyment and all.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Steorra

I've recently noticed that I don't seem to enjoy anything anymore.

I used to love writing, piano, singing, all my classes, etc. But ever since the pressure/stress has increased, I don't like any of it anymore. Even some of the people around me have mentioned that whenever I "formalize" a hobby (e.g. taking voice lessons instead of just singing when I feel like it, etc.), I start avoiding it. Deadlines seem to automatically cause procrastination and dread.

In truth, I think the only time I enjoy is with my boyfriend, not really even with my family anymore. My parents are constantly lecturing me (personally, it seems a little like unfounded criticism about my grades...I'm technically at the top of my high school class right now). They also do not want me to spend too much time with my boyfriend (more accurately: they wish I didn't have one).

Some days I sit down and try to think of what I *want* to do, and I come up with absolutely nothing. It's like I suddenly have no aspirations, although I was very ambitious when I was younger (I'm sixteen right now).

It's odd to wake up feeling miserable, and go to sleep dreading morning. I don't think there are any actual reasons for my behavior/mindset; there's nothing outwardly *wrong* with my life. Well, I mean, there is, but most of my problems have existed for several years, and I don't think they would suddenly start affecting me now.

Is this just a stage? Will it go away on its own?

Any insight into my situation would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

I know the feeling. It cleared right up for me as soon as I left my parent's house.

[The Unconquered]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

I know the feeling. It cleared right up for me as soon as I left my parent's house.

That's actually good to hear. I'm moving out soon.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by The Unconquered

That's actually good to hear. I'm moving out soon.

Yeah, I was like .. OK, *whew*. Finally I can breathe. Now what did I want to do with my life again? Oh yeah, this, and this, and that, and that ..

Then I left the .. continent

For a while some things would trigger this feeling, and I would just feel horrible for a while. Over time it got easier and easier for me to drop back out of it when it happened.