30-day Trial: No Masturbation

[Alexhuang]

Hi everyone, this is Alex from China.
26y, happily married. I masturbated a lot and wanna quit it because it makes me depressed and guilty every time after masturbation.
Today is the 3rd day, with success.

[jdonhardt]

Better have some sex then.

[mjump7]

Cut pornography, do not look at women with lust.

Rather love your wife and have a beautiful, enjoyable sex with her.

Remember you're a married man.
Also you're a responsible husband.

Gook luck with your 30-day trial.
No to masturbation and porn.
Yes to sex with your wife.
Cheers.

[fun2bme]

You might like to get some help overcoming the guilt. Could be a lack of self-esteem or self love or old negative programs you've been taught. No need to deprive yourself of something you find pleasurable however if it makes you depressed I'm a little unsure about any pleasure. If it feels like an addictive thing you may choose to seek some help or counseling or at the very least look into some self-help books or audio programs.

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by mjump7

Cut pornography, do not look at women with lust.

Rather love your wife and have a beautiful, enjoyable sex with her.

Remember you're a married man.
Also you're a responsible husband.

Gook luck with your 30-day trial.
No to masturbation and porn.
Yes to sex with your wife.
Cheers.

Thank you for your suggestion.
'm good at sex thogh. We have regular sex, twice a week in general.
And I can make her squirt~!

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by fun2bme

You might like to get some help overcoming the guilt. Could be a lack of self-esteem or self love or old negative programs you've been taught. No need to deprive yourself of something you find pleasurable however if it makes you depressed I'm a little unsure about any pleasure. If it feels like an addictive thing you may choose to seek some help or counseling or at the very least look into some self-help books or audio programs.

Thank u 4 ur analysis.
Yes, according to traditional Chinese phylosophy,one drop sperm equals ten drops of blood, which affects every Chinese more or less. But I read many scientific articles, many of which are from western countries, and know that masturbation is no harm physically. I have masturbated for 10 years up 2 now, never stoped. So it's like a chronic habit. I do enjoy the physical pleasure, there is also spiritual pleasure, but it becomes depressed and tired after the shooting.
Anyway, I am on the way quiting this habit.
will enjoy sex, of course.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Alexhuang

And I can make her squirt~!

Yow. That was .. just the right amount of information for me Glad to hear it!

I used to get totally exhausted after an orgasm. I used some homeopathy and it cleared right up. Maybe something to try. Kind of off-topic, but do you get tired after having sex with your wife, too?

[bluedragon]

Originally Posted by Alexhuang

Hi everyone, this is Alex from China.
26y, happily married. I masturbated a lot and wanna quit it because it makes me depressed and guilty every time after masturbation.
Today is the 3rd day, with success.

It also depletes your life energy as well as many nutrients (as long as you ejaculate, otherwise not).

[Tim Brownson]

Originally Posted by Alexhuang

Thank u 4 ur analysis.
Yes, according to traditional Chinese phylosophy,one drop sperm equals ten drops of blood, which affects every Chinese more or less. But I read many scientific articles, many of which are from western countries, and know that masturbation is no harm physically. I have masturbated for 10 years up 2 now, never stoped. So it's like a chronic habit. I do enjoy the physical pleasure, there is also spiritual pleasure, but it becomes depressed and tired after the shooting.
Anyway, I am on the way quiting this habit.
will enjoy sex, of course.

Jesus Christ you've masturbated for 10 years without stopping?? You must be worn out.

[ahazaq2]

Well dude if you're only having sex twice a week I understand the need. Why don't you just do it more with your wife?

But for all you guys talking about being tired after sex (or if you just want better sex):

Mantak Chia - The Multi-Orgasmic Man

It's about having non-ejaculatory orgasms so you can have more of them.

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Yow. That was .. just the right amount of information for me Glad to hear it!

I used to get totally exhausted after an orgasm. I used some homeopathy and it cleared right up. Maybe something to try. Kind of off-topic, but do you get tired after having sex with your wife, too?

I once got tired after making love, but it's OK for recent couple years, and I wanna read books and talk with my wife after making love.
very interested in the homeopathy to heal the tiredness after ML. Could u plz share it with us, I bet many wanna know it.
many thanks.

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by bluedragon

It also depletes your life energy as well as many nutrients (as long as you ejaculate, otherwise not).

Ur view is very like Chinese traditional phylosophy.
PS: U like Taichi？Almost everyone in China knows how to practice Taichi. And it is a compulsory course in all China colleges.

[Alexhuang]

Day 4, No masturbation. Gonna ML with wife tonight!

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by Tim Brownson

Jesus Christ you've masturbated for 10 years without stopping?? You must be worn out.

Hey, dude, u scared me!
Most men masturbate and keep it a whole life. Am I right? So do fewer women.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Alexhuang

I once got tired after making love, but it's OK for recent couple years, and I wanna read books and talk with my wife after making love.
very interested in the homeopathy to heal the tiredness after ML. Could u plz share it with us, I bet many wanna know it.
many thanks.

Ah - I used to get really exhausted after any ejaculation, for like 3 days straight.

I don't remember the particular remedy, now! I went to a really great homeopath who found one for me. In the books, you have to look for "emissions", "tiredness after" and that sort of thing. It's all under "emissions", they don't say ejaculation directly.

There are a bunch of different remedies, for different particular symptoms. So, someone who's looking can find the one that seems to match their situation most closely, and use that one. It worked pretty quickly for me.

[mjump7]

Keep it up, Alex!

Find pleasure and satisfaction in the bosom of your wife.

Good for both of you.

[Throwback24]

This is impossible, the only wya not to masturbate is too not begin lol. Imo.

[Captain Drywall]

Originally Posted by bluedragon

It also depletes your life energy as well as many nutrients (as long as you ejaculate, otherwise not).

Who told you that?

Also for the never married : This is what happens. You get married your king. Then you make a mistake, perhaps a very small one. No matter how small it goes on the list. After awhile there is a lot on this list. Your wife goes over the list daily. She reviews the list before making love. After a few years it gets harder and harder to get interested in ML. Do men have such lists. Of course. It's just that testosterone causes temporary amnesia. This is just a theory Ive been working on. I have been married for 29 years, (not consecutive years)

[Alexhuang]

Day 5. No masturbation.

I reviewed the movie " BRAVE HEART" last night, and the section in which Wallace and Murron make love in the woods, the beautiful breasts of Catherine McCormack arouses me! But I controled myself. Early this morning I had a good sex with my wife. Feeling great now!

PS: the roar of "FREEDOM" by Wallace is really very inspiring!

[Majesticzero]

interesting topic! I did this trial some time ago.

I still find it very difficult to control my 'lust' as you can call it. It's getting better but it's still difficult.

I found out that watching porn is the big problem. If I don't watch porn I feel totally different about girl. I look at them without seeing them as 'lust objects'.

As soon as I watch porn for a couple of days I rate girls in terms of how great I think having sex with them would be.

So I think porn kills love, well it does for me. Maybe this helps someone in some way

Good luck with your trial Alex!

[Alexhuang]

Day 6 and day 7, no masturbation.

Had sex with my wife while taking a bath, but no ejaculation.

Today it's gonna be very tough for me because my wife went out for s business trip early this morning and leave me alone at home. Generally I will watch porn movies or porn novels when she is not at home and end in masturbation. But I will hold it today. Plan to visit the library and then have dinner with my friends.

One week without masturbation makes me very confident and a strong sense of achievement. No depression any more. Thank u all and I will keep up this trial!

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by Majesticzero

interesting topic! I did this trial some time ago.

I still find it very difficult to control my 'lust' as you can call it. It's getting better but it's still difficult.

I found out that watching porn is the big problem. If I don't watch porn I feel totally different about girl. I look at them without seeing them as 'lust objects'.

As soon as I watch porn for a couple of days I rate girls in terms of how great I think having sex with them would be.

So I think porn kills love, well it does for me. Maybe this helps someone in some way

Good luck with your trial Alex!

Similar to me buddy.
Seems like we have a very strong sex urge. When I saw a girl or lady on the street I will stare at her with lust: face, boobs, ass, legs, and imagine how great it would be to ML with her! And I can not control this habit. Even a glance at the hanged female uderwear would arouse me! I think I was too induldged in SEX! I should transmulate sex into something great. Giving up masturbation is the first step.

[Alexhuang]

Day 8. Succeed.
As I planed, I went to the provincial library and read for the whole morning. And borrowed two books, one is about the Experience of China History by Mr. Nan Huaijin.Another book is SLOW SEX by Adam Tokunaga, which is very great! Take your time and tenderly touch ur lover until she can not resist. Also explain the G spot, Adam G spot, A spot, T spot and the way to stimulate them. Still reading.
Great book. Recommend!

[Alexhuang]

Actully I know masturbation is very common and normal and does no harm to my body physically. But it depresses me spiritually, and it tortures me for many years. If I can quite this habit, it will give me a lot confident and encouragement spiritully so that I can overcome other difficulties in my life.
Anyway, there is no harm if I quit masturbation, because I have regular sex. So I keep int up!

[mjump7]

Good job with your masturbation-free trial so far, Alex!

I'm supporting you.
To stop masturbating, Porn-free is essential.
And focusing on something that you like other than pornography helps immensely cos you'll be thinking of other things that will hold your attention.

And when you think of beauty, try to think of your beautiful wife,
rather than those girls in porn who are just acting, with false gestures and lies. They're fake. They get paid to do what they do.

However, you have a real girl, your wife.
While your wife's away, try reading something inspirational like Steve's Personal Development for Smart People or other books that are similar.

Or doing some exercise or hanging out with friends.

Good luck with the rest of your trial!

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by mjump7

Good job with your masturbation-free trial so far, Alex!

I'm supporting you.
To stop masturbating, Porn-free is essential.
And focusing on something that you like other than pornography helps immensely cos you'll be thinking of other things that will hold your attention.

And when you think of beauty, try to think of your beautiful wife,
rather than those girls in porn who are just acting, with false gestures and lies. They're fake. They get paid to do what they do.

However, you have a real girl, your wife.
While your wife's away, try reading something inspirational like Steve's Personal Development for Smart People or other books that are similar.

Or doing some exercise or hanging out with friends.

Good luck with the rest of your trial!

Thank you for your supporting. I'm very confident that I can finish this trial now!

[Alexhuang]

Day 9. No masturbation.

[Marko500]

Hi Alex, interesting challenge you chose, good luck....

If you succeed in this, you can strengthen your self-discipline, and I think that you shall be able eventually to do other assignments with a touch of self-control. It's not a bad idea...

[Alexhuang]

Originally Posted by marko500

if you succeed in this, you can strengthen your self-discipline, and i think that you shall be able eventually to do other assignments with a touch of self-control. It's not a bad idea...

exactly!

[Majesticzero]

Originally Posted by Alexhuang

exactly!

You need a huge self-discipline to achieve this trial, well at least in my opinion :P
Keep up the GREAT work!

Oh, and thanks Now I want to do this trial too!

I want to trow in a question of my own if that's no problem: I noticed that when I masturbate a lot I get more acne. BUT, this can be because of the hormones released when masturbating. It can also be of the guilt that gives me stress.