Hiya everybody! Need some help with going to grad school

[birdifera]

Hiya guys,

I'm Paul from Bangalore, India. I have been frequenting Steve Pavlina's blog for quite some time, but didnt venture into the community so far.

I have a problem to which I require some help. I am very bad at making decisions and its got to a stage, where it's kinda killing me. I have this problem where I keep vacillating on a decision. This is particularly true when I have to take some really important decisions like a career change or going to grad school. Let me explain my current predicament a lil bit in detail.

I used to work in an investment bank, which didnt really resonate with my interests and who I was. It also resulted in my skills rusting away. So I decided to apply to grad school in the US to get back to what I loved. During the downturn they laid me off and I was left to fend for myself. I didnt complain much. I finished my apping and then started to lookout for a job as there was a lot of time between the time I got laid off and my admission. And as luck would have it I found a nice job which I really like. I got my admits in April but decided to defer my admission to this Spring, as I thought that it wouldn't be fair to my employer for me to quit as soon as they hired me.

My dilemma now is whether to go for grad studies or to remain in my job. A part of me is excited about the prospects of going to grad studies, the experience of living in a new culture, learning new stuff and meeting new people and pushing myself beyond my comfort zone, while a part of me is scared whether I would really like it there. or whether I would land the right job after graduation and so on.

This is just an example, but in general I find it hard to make strong decisions unless its a no brainer kinda situation.

Any thoughts on how I can tide over the situation and how to deal with decision making in general?

[alekseykravtsun]

birdifera, get your life purpose first, set 3 main targets and then explore it all way down untill current day. Make list of all your chooses and then see compliance of chooses against of your goals. Up to compliance make your choose, read this compliance every morning, this is good motivation thing. I do read my goals daily, all of them, long and short daily. Make full responcibility for your steps, do not blame any one and any body and fully go ahead.

[birdifera]

This is the purpose of my life

Radiate with strength in character and body, explore and expand my creativity, forge a deep connection with fellow beings, delve into the depths of experience the world has to offer and leave in peace

Thanks Aleksey, that was helpful. I have decided to pursue my grad studies indeed as I feel it really resonates with my life purpose. Within the next few days I will crystallize this into short term goals and purse them aggressively.

I will use this thread to keep track of my goals, share them with you fellow travellers and have that sense of connectedness.

Thanks again!