How to be more authentic and true?

[Magnatolia]

Hey all,

To summarise what I want, I would like to gain more automatic confidence, self-esteem, charisma, desirability.

I want to look at a woman and have her curious to meet me, attracted, and have her feel completely desired and wanted. Not worried about whether she will be interested or not, just completely accepting of how I'm feeling and letting her feel this.

I want to unconsciously command attention wherever I go, especially from women. So if I walk into a room people notice me, find them moving towards me, wanting to get to know me.

I want automatic confidence and self-esteem, so that I take the appropriate action unconsciously, whether that be talking to a woman, or speaking up at work. Obviously this is something to work towards so it is easier and more natural for me to feel and act this way.

Which products would you recommend that can automatically instill the necessary beliefs and thoughts, and remove the negative thoughts, fears and beliefs?

Thanks heaps!

[Talkofthatown919]

You want to get noticed everywhere you go? well then you have to believe that you are attractive first off. Then constantly visualize how you want your current reality to be. To build self confidence it simply requires you to stop doing the same thing you have been doing and try other things that will work for you. Also what kind of women do you like? Trust me not all are what they seem to portray. But the main thing is finding out who you are and staying true to that. Never putting on a act to be someone your not. That is what i do with women and it works. Plus i don't get afraid to speak to them as well. Because what is the worst thing one can do ? not speak if she won't then there's one that will.

[sidsavara]

For me personally, my self confidence has improved with mastery of different domains (weight training, guitar, time management)

And then in those scenarios, I have a lot of confidence - I am not very muscular, but I am still part of the community.

You could try some self affirmations, positive quotes, motivational quotes etc - might help you with your perspective as well.

You can also use more open, alpha body language. I don't haev a good resource for that, but I imagine there is tons of info out there if you google alpha males body language

[rei]

Originally Posted by Magnatolia

Hey all,

To summarise what I want, I would like to gain more automatic confidence, self-esteem, charisma, desirability.

I want to look at a woman and have her curious to meet me, attracted, and have her feel completely desired and wanted. Not worried about whether she will be interested or not, just completely accepting of how I'm feeling and letting her feel this.

I want to unconsciously command attention wherever I go, especially from women. So if I walk into a room people notice me, find them moving towards me, wanting to get to know me.

I want automatic confidence and self-esteem, so that I take the appropriate action unconsciously, whether that be talking to a woman, or speaking up at work. Obviously this is something to work towards so it is easier and more natural for me to feel and act this way.

Which products would you recommend that can automatically instill the necessary beliefs and thoughts, and remove the negative thoughts, fears and beliefs?

Thanks heaps!

as Talkofthetown919 mentioned, if you want women to feel these things about you, you need to feel them yourself. if you felt them already about yourself, i don't think you'd be asking us about it. so you might want to start there, and starting with self-esteem is probably a good one. when we develop a healthier level of self-esteem a lot of other things fall into place without effort. you might find some success with EFT, you can find videos on YouTube to show you step by step how to do this.

as he also mentioned, you might not want to have every type of girl attracted to you. some women see confidence and they think the guy is cocky and egocentric. some women see charisma and think it is a sign of insecurity. but if it is showing up at levels that seem healthy, then i don't think these women would see it as insecurity. ...and also, no offense intended to my fellow females, but some women are just plain crazy (not really meant in the chemical imbalance sense). you might not want all of them around.

charisma in men comes from the sixth chakra, in the groin region. you might want to research visualizations and meditations that look at blocked chakras and how to clear those blockages. but my personal opinion is that it is better to start with self-esteem and see what else will change on its own. this depends on your intentions and whether you're more interested in the quality of your encounters with women, or more interested in the quantity.

[Bud921]

Hey Magnatolia,

Aside from following the other great advice on the forum,
I invite you to read my posts on "How to Express The Real You"

Expressing The Real You | A Boundless World

Hope that helps.